Quote: (09-10-2018 05:41 AM)Rang off the Pipe Wrote:
Ok, here's an exchange I'm having online with a 20-year old student (so can't legally go to a bar). I generally keep my interactions short with a little banter before trying to get the girl out for a meetup. She averaged 15 minutes per response and I took at least twice as long to respond to her except otherwise noted.
<My opener>
Girl: Riverside walk definitely
Me: Now what if it were in one of the nicest neighborhoods
Girl: What neighborhood lol
Me: XXXXX , so much safer than the area around XXXXX school
Girl: Haha oh okay, what's wrong with the riverside
Me: The riverside is in the neighborhood
Girl: *laughing smileys* oh okay
Me: Let's do ice cream and a riverside walk next weekend
<8 hour gap>
Girl: Lol I can't say no to that
Girl: But I might not be around next weekend depending on certain plans
Thoughts? I don't want to look desperate/needy in trying to get this girl out but I'm in no rush to respond to this.
A few mistakes here. An ice cream date and a riverside walk is too vanilla, she's 20, she's craving red hot chilli pepper(s) but the damage is done (you could've suggested smoking a joint and downing a couple beers chasing birds and shooting naughty squirrels). And that's what I would do - repair your damage, show her you're "an outlaw". She's trying to put you in a holding pattern, don't fall for that - no "OK", "sure, message me after the weekend" or asking about her plans.
Also, she's a student... if she lives on a campus there are many dicks being swung at her. It wasn't any use to engage in rational chat with her about the riverside - boring (to her). The 8 hours pause suggests she's been weighing options for the prime dick. She's hedging bets, thus elusive answer "depending on certain plans" indicates that you aren't the top dog (right now) on her chart. I'd do go with high risk, high reward strategy by vacuuming but you may not hear from her again - paradoxically, the IDGF attitude may be a winner but it doesn't seem very likely in this scenario.
For example:
Girl: But I might not be around next weekend depending on certain plans
Überultrasuperalpha: cool Ill have a joint, down a beer, and shoot some squirrels
Don't moan, don't invite her, show a care free attitude and roll off, vacuum for a week, don't chase, if you don't hear back when the weekend is over, text her back to re-ignite, if not keen then, move on. Don't dish out attention for free. It's just some broad you've never met in your life.
Re-ignition after girls' silence could be a picture (I assume you're on whatsapp with her) related to what you were up to, something hinting at adventure.
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