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07-29-2012, 04:51 AM
This whole thread reminds me of a story...
I'm DJing a party at my fraternity, maybe 200 people on the dance floor, and on this night the girls keep asking me to play shitty songs that I don't have or don't care to play. At first I try to be nice and say I don't have that particular song, but they get all whiny and persistent, demanding that I download the song for their friends, so I start telling them that if I play whatever bullshit they want to hear, everyone will leave the dance floor.
Usually this shuts em up, since a little rudeness goes a long way with obnoxious drunk skanks, but this slender blonde in a cute little football jersey (I'd say she was a 9, really pretty IMO) comes up to the DJ booth and keeps insisting that I play her jam. I try to ignore her but she won't leave, and eventually puts on a pouty face and says something like "if you play my song, I'll hook up with you." Maybe she was dead serious, but something about being coerced by force of sex drive just rubbed me the wrong way. I say no, and she asks why not....so I smile huge and say the first thing that comes to mind:
"Because you're not attractive, at all."
The girl starts crying, absolutely wailing there up on the DJ booth, and I try to chill her out before anyone notices. Luckily my buddy comes in and swoops her (literally, says a few soothing words, kisses her and takes her upstairs by the hand) so I can get back to the party, but damn.
I felt really bad, until I realized that any guy who has the audacity to say "do what I say, and I'll hook up with you" to a random girl, would probably get smacked down ten times harder.
Uppity cunts.
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07-29-2012, 07:22 AM
"if you play my song, I'll hook up with you."
I have doubts. But I bet that flirtatious/emotional blackmail game has worked well for her. Congrats on throwing a monkey wrench in her gears.
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07-29-2012, 06:54 PM
How would one transform themselves into a dick?
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07-29-2012, 07:46 PM
Quote: (07-29-2012 06:54 PM)Sketness Wrote:
How would one transform themselves into a dick?
the essence of being a well rounded dick is captured well in the words of my friend and mentor dr. suess: "Be who you are and say what you feel because those who mind don't matter and those who matter don't mind."
a lot of ppl apologize. dicks don't apologize.
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07-30-2012, 06:41 AM
I've hung around with dicks a lot and these are my thoughts on how to start to become one:
- Never say sorry (even if you really fucked up, you would probably just say oops)
- Expect people to pay for you
- Expect people to adapt themselves to your timeline and your way of viewing things
- When people do not accept your point of view, become verbally aggressive with them until they back down
- Take the lead of where your group is going without asking anyone's opinion
- Have no consideration of others opinion if they give it
- Remove feelings of empathy for others. Your needs always come first.
- Always be late to things, as you have no respect for other people's time
- When teasing girls, you will often overdo it. And girls may call you an asshole.
- Adopt the dark triad of Machiavellianism, Narcissism and Psychopathy.
Now, this will sound extremely selfish, self-centred, mooch-ish and dark. But it will often lead to you doing very well with women.
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07-30-2012, 11:20 AM
I pulled a dick move this weekend.
I bounced a group of strangers to a fancy diner after closing time. There were two chicks, and I wanted to see what was up.
We sat down and put in our orders. I ordered a big dish. Soon after, I started to get the sense that I wasn't going to get anywhere with the girls, so I stepped outside and didn't come back.
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07-31-2012, 03:52 AM
Let's not be too critical here. "The Game" and Mystery, and a lot of that stuff is on a genius level in that it took something that even Stephen Hawking thinks is the "greatest mystery" in the universe and broke it down into simple, and more importantly, usable parts.
Let's give honor to the earlier generation and accept all the updates.
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07-31-2012, 07:41 AM
It strikes me as curious that most of the stuff that makes someone a "dickhead" is really just about looking out for yourself before others, and being firm in your beliefs. I wonder how this trend actually came about..
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07-31-2012, 09:09 AM
There is a difference between being a dick and being assertive and self-interested.
I consider myself a nice guy, but if when people have crossed my boundaries, I've put them in their place. It doesn't have to be harsh always, but sometimes I've had to make girls cry for them to understand.
I like to make people feel good and bring a positive vibe. That is not to say that I always put others before myself.
The key to my game is to be nice, teasing, and playful, so the girls get good emotions out of me. But I'm also stern when I need to be and have strict boundaries and punish them when they get out of line. They can't get enough of those emotional spikes, and when I'm aloof and inaccessible, they crave me. Another key is to keep myself busy and do my own thing, and have multiple prospects, or else I'd probably give too much attention to one girl and it wouldn't be as effective. I'm sure there are other things I do that I'm not conscious of.
I say things that a nice guy would say, but have strict boundaries and standards and act as a "dickhead" when they're not with you ie, missed phone calls, delayed texts, being late, seeing other girls, doing your own thing. Also, doing these things are not "to get the girl" usually I'm really busy or would rather have my alone time than communicate with chicks electronically.
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07-31-2012, 10:04 AM
Went on a date last night....Almost made it through without being a dick and then Boom! Bartender says to me while we were walking out for a smoke "hey your gonna have to leave a card here" Really? ok here you go but don't run it. I come back in and he has my bill w/card ran. Dude! what did I just tell you? Are you that fucking nervous over 10 fucking dollars? Well I didn't know if you were...Give me the fucking thing. where the tip was I drew a picture of balls and cock and said here I left you a little something.
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07-31-2012, 10:24 AM
Quote: (07-31-2012 10:04 AM)el mechanico Wrote:
Went on a date last night....Almost made it through without being a dick and then Boom! Bartender says to me while we were walking out for a smoke "hey your gonna have to leave a card here" Really? ok here you go but don't run it. I come back in and he has my bill w/card ran. Dude! what did I just tell you? Are you that fucking nervous over 10 fucking dollars? Well I didn't know if you were...Give me the fucking thing. where the tip was I drew a picture of balls and cock and said here I left you a little something.
Fucking hilarious. Literally laughed out loud. Wish I could like this 10 times.
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07-31-2012, 11:51 AM
Quote: (07-31-2012 10:24 AM)UgSlayer Wrote:
Quote: (07-31-2012 10:04 AM)el mechanico Wrote:
Went on a date last night....Almost made it through without being a dick and then Boom! Bartender says to me while we were walking out for a smoke "hey your gonna have to leave a card here" Really? ok here you go but don't run it. I come back in and he has my bill w/card ran. Dude! what did I just tell you? Are you that fucking nervous over 10 fucking dollars? Well I didn't know if you were...Give me the fucking thing. where the tip was I drew a picture of balls and cock and said here I left you a little something.
Fucking hilarious. Literally laughed out loud. Wish I could like this 10 times.
People have to stop saying this.
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07-31-2012, 12:26 PM
Quote: (07-31-2012 11:51 AM)hypesession Wrote:
Quote: (07-31-2012 10:24 AM)UgSlayer Wrote:
Quote: (07-31-2012 10:04 AM)el mechanico Wrote:
Went on a date last night....Almost made it through without being a dick and then Boom! Bartender says to me while we were walking out for a smoke "hey your gonna have to leave a card here" Really? ok here you go but don't run it. I come back in and he has my bill w/card ran. Dude! what did I just tell you? Are you that fucking nervous over 10 fucking dollars? Well I didn't know if you were...Give me the fucking thing. where the tip was I drew a picture of balls and cock and said here I left you a little something.
Fucking hilarious. Literally laughed out loud. Wish I could like this 10 times.
People have to stop saying this.
Didn't know it was a thing. But sure if you say so.
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08-07-2012, 11:38 PM
Was called a dick by two different people Sat night.
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08-08-2012, 07:11 PM
Quote: (07-31-2012 07:41 AM)Architekt Wrote:
It strikes me as curious that most of the stuff that makes someone a "dickhead" is really just about looking out for yourself before others, and being firm in your beliefs. I wonder how this trend actually came about..
in the "other" boards its called "frame". being stable in your believes/values and acting accordingly.
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08-11-2012, 09:04 PM
Last night pulled another girl while waiting for my date to arrive. Text today from girl I was supposed to meet up with. Tried to restart.
Her: "I saw you dancing with someone else last night and didn't want to bother, it really seemed like you were enjoying yourselves..."
Me: Grab me next time.
Her: "Ups.... Don't think so. We had a date and u left me alone... or that is what I thought. no next time. Have a good trip back to NYC"
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08-21-2012, 03:36 PM
damn
this is the one thing I need to work on....if I could learn to be a dickhead then i could get laid a lot more
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08-21-2012, 09:24 PM
This thread made me realize I need to workout more and start practicing fighting to the point where I feel like I wouldn't pussy out of physical confrontation. For a second I think "yeah fuck it I'm going out like el mech for the night", but then I know I would back down to the first person to call my bluff. For me, I can see that my tendency to be nice is tied to avoiding conflict and my tendency to avoid conflict is tied to not being willing to throw down if need be. That has to be some primal shit going on there. The weird thing is it doesn't matter if I'm dealing with women or men, I'm still operating on the same "avoid conflict, preserve self" programming.
I'm not looking to get into the habit of getting into fights, but I can see that not being willing to if pressed makes being an authentic man impossible -- because you don't have a bottom line. Its like playing no limit holdem without ever being willing to go all-in, you'll get eaten alive.
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08-24-2012, 12:54 PM
Quote: (07-27-2012 11:43 AM)americanbk Wrote:
Quote: (07-27-2012 09:17 AM)el mechanico Wrote:
Being a dick is not going to be easy for someone programmed to be nice. You're going to have to think in doubletime 24/7.
Here are the stages I've gone through in my transformation from nice-guy to a dick:
- Nice guy: Hopeless nice guy, only concerned about making others happy, not being offensive, not making other people uncomfortable.
- Corny scripted cockiness: I started using dumb, prescripted "cocky/funny" lines to try to make the 'ginas tingle. Somewhat successful.
- Forced but creative cockiness: I started to recognize opportunities to be a prick, and consciously made them happen, sometimes against my will. Pissed a few people off, but much better results with women and strangely, more respect from peers.
- Evil woman-hating spiteful bastard: Went into overdrive and became a nasty, bitter cunt. Not a good vibe. Friends and family were concerned, girls were just plain offended.
- Well-rounded dickhead (haha): Just not giving a fuck about what anyone thinks and doing what comes natural. Doing whatever I think is funny. Calling people out when they deserve it. Teasing. Being selfish most of the time unless I'm really feeling generous.
These were the stages I went through, maybe other people did it differently? Either way, as e-mech alluded to, it's not going to happen overnight.
Are you me? Srs. I think I went through the same stage. It's gotta be an aging thing for guys.