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Quote: (12-21-2011 06:23 PM)mofo Wrote:
Quote: (12-21-2011 05:41 PM)dulst Wrote:
I think the idea of saying "you're the cutest girl in the bar" would be a great way to get over initial approach anxiety. ie Not being intimidated by hot girls and saying something potentially very embarrassing.
I over use social circle game due to approach anxiety, and so will be trying this before I run out of friends to fuck.
EDIT: Would probably sub "cutest" for "best looking" though, given my accent and style.
You are the cutest girl in the club opener is not embarrassing. WTF?
The whole idea of something being embarrassing is girlish.
Quote: (12-20-2011 11:59 AM)Samseau Wrote:
Reading comprehension for the clueless:
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Wasn't one model - I said that the unanimous response from hot girls - the ones I actually go for - don't get approached like guys would think they do. I don't need to brag lmao...work on your reading comprehension.
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I realized this when I approached a woman who is a well-known model, and she said was "I never get approached like that. Guys usually just stare."
This is the unanimous experience of women I've met and dated. They get stares and weird excuses to talk (indirect done the WRONG WAY). They don't get genuine, warm direct approaches, OR fun witty indirect approaches.
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Giving a girl a complement is probably the least interesting thing you could say to most girls, who have been told they are pretty over 10,000 times before she's hit 18. That's why I think direct is bullshit.
Do you see how what you said has almost nothing to do with what I've said?
Your response, that guys usually don't direct approaches has nothing to do with whether or not direct approaches are interesting. Being direct may be unique, but it doesn't make it interesting.
It's also great if you find those 3% of girls who find direct game charming or interesting or whatever. But most girls aren't going to give two shits because hot girls get complimented daily by almost everyone they know.
Talking about models, and the hot women you've dated to prove a point... irrelevant!
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You knew what you were saying about direct being bullshit because later you said that direct lacks social grace. you weren't saying "it doesn't matter" - it's out there for everyone to read lol.
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Openers don't matter except as a way to segue into conversation. Giving a girl a complement is probably the least interesting thing you could say to most girls, who have been told they are pretty over 10,000 times before she's hit 18. That's why I think direct is bullshit. But even still, just open by saying whatever you feel like saying.
Notice my position isn't that direct openers don't work. My position, because you seem unable to grasp logic (unlike Tuthmosis who has been talking to me on the same wavelength), is that the opener doesn't matter. Indirect/Direct is a bunch of shit. Do you understand now?
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And if I told you dancefloor game is bullshit and justified my point, does that mean it doesn't work for you? Nice try backtracking.
It depends on the point you made! Maybe you're point is that dance floor game is that dancing doesn't matter, and that women are attracted to me for some other reason.
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I'll ask you once again, have you EVER tried to approach a girl directly.
Yeah dude, I've gone direct... I've stated that I have above.
Quote: (12-20-2011 09:14 PM)Chad Daring Wrote:
Alright, I'm not taking sides, so just ease off the quote button.
I see where Samseau is coming from, his original (I'm not even sure where the debate is at now lol) argument wasn't that one way works better then the other, it was that he's moved BEYOND consideration.
Ice, you go out and see a girl and you might ask yourself "should I open her directly, or indirectly?" Samseau looks at the same girl and might ask "should I talk to her or not?" Its ostensibly the same question, but the methodology is different. You're approaching the situation as a task to be handled, he's just approaching the situation.
I only bring this up because I've made the jump from one side of the fence to the other in the last couple months or so. When I first got involved with this community and read Bang I was in a very technical mindset. I would dissect social situations and apply Game rhetoric wherever it applied. Now, for the most part, I just exist in the social situation and things just happen.
Now you're gonna say "but wait, you were talking about direct/indirect earlier!"
Thats only because "direct openers" are alien to me, so I have to step back over the fence to the analytical view. Thats not natural for me, my natural state is just to BE and let what happens happen. I'm not "opening" I'm conversating. Its the same thing from a third person view, but to me personally its different because of the type and amount of thought that goes into it.
Quote: (12-20-2011 04:00 PM)Giovonny Wrote:
I sometimes use a "hybrid" approach which is were I use "indirect language" but "direct body language" at the exact same time. I will not tell the girl that I'm attracted to her but I will look at her and talk to her in a tone that is very suggestive/sexual. I will just talk to her about any random topic but while doing that, I will look at her in the eyes seductively and move my eyes around her body.
You can say almost anything and make it seductive. For example, "Damn, its so hot today, I'm gonna get some ice cream"
As I say "Damn", I'm looking at her waist. Then I slowly move my eyes up her body and slowly say, "its so hot today", then look her in the eyes without any fear or embarrassment..."I'm gonna get some ice cream"...as I move my eyes back down over her body. Of course I keep a little grin on my face and say everything with a playful but strong tone. Tonality is very important with this type of approach. The way you talk and your body/eye language is almost more important then what you say.