Hey Guys,
I have a quick question for everyone. I have been trying to go out by myself to really work on my game, and I'm really confused about something that happened.
I went out and found an empty seat right at the bar. A bunch of girls out for their bachelorette party ended up seating next to me.
I tried as best I can to be cocky/funny to them, and for the most part, I thought completely bombed. I didn't think I got any positive reactions to anything I said. (I don't know if I can read body language correctly yet).
By the end of the night though, two things happened. I got a # from one girl who really wants to meet up next time I'm out in her area (she lives across the state). But, another girl, came up to me, pulled me away, and told me she wanted to give me advice. She basically said that if I wanted to start picking up girls, I had to stop being a nice guy, and start being a jerk.
Now I'm really confused by this girl. Over the course of the night, I tried to do everything different than what I used to do. If they asked me for a favor, I ignored them. If they said I should buy the bride a drink, I said no. They had a list of tasks for the bride to do to guys (all stupid beta tasks), and I completely ignored all their requests, while other guys basically did anything they wanted.
I didn't think I acted like a nice guy at all. So my questions are, if you are talking to a group, can a guy come off as a cocky guy to one girl, but a nice guy to another? I thought I treated everyone the same. Are there any tips to come off that you are treating the whole group the same. Also, was the girl who told me I was too nice trying to pick me up, or was she actually saying that I was too nice?
Finally, on a different note, has anyone had problems with alcohol and pickup? What I mean is, have people had problems with alcohol as a crutch when they go out? If so, how do you get over it? I'm finding that when I go out by myself, I end up drinking a lot more than when I'm out with my friends, and it's really screwing me up sometimes with stuff I say.
Thanks guys.
I have a quick question for everyone. I have been trying to go out by myself to really work on my game, and I'm really confused about something that happened.
I went out and found an empty seat right at the bar. A bunch of girls out for their bachelorette party ended up seating next to me.
I tried as best I can to be cocky/funny to them, and for the most part, I thought completely bombed. I didn't think I got any positive reactions to anything I said. (I don't know if I can read body language correctly yet).
By the end of the night though, two things happened. I got a # from one girl who really wants to meet up next time I'm out in her area (she lives across the state). But, another girl, came up to me, pulled me away, and told me she wanted to give me advice. She basically said that if I wanted to start picking up girls, I had to stop being a nice guy, and start being a jerk.
Now I'm really confused by this girl. Over the course of the night, I tried to do everything different than what I used to do. If they asked me for a favor, I ignored them. If they said I should buy the bride a drink, I said no. They had a list of tasks for the bride to do to guys (all stupid beta tasks), and I completely ignored all their requests, while other guys basically did anything they wanted.
I didn't think I acted like a nice guy at all. So my questions are, if you are talking to a group, can a guy come off as a cocky guy to one girl, but a nice guy to another? I thought I treated everyone the same. Are there any tips to come off that you are treating the whole group the same. Also, was the girl who told me I was too nice trying to pick me up, or was she actually saying that I was too nice?
Finally, on a different note, has anyone had problems with alcohol and pickup? What I mean is, have people had problems with alcohol as a crutch when they go out? If so, how do you get over it? I'm finding that when I go out by myself, I end up drinking a lot more than when I'm out with my friends, and it's really screwing me up sometimes with stuff I say.
Thanks guys.