Quote: (11-04-2012 09:54 PM)BasketBounce Wrote:well if you're experienced conversationalist then you probably know that mixing compliments and teases makes the interaction fun/unpredictable. which to her is confusing. which is arousing. cause she doesn't know what's next, what's this guy gonna do, what she will feel in a minute, she can't figure you out, she's curious, you say "oh you're so sweet, like a candy i want to unwrap you slowly" and she feels good. you add "i hope you don't fart when you sleep" and she's like whaaat?! where did that come from? wtf! it's fine as long as these compliments/teases are not overboard [like "you're too dumb cunt to sip wine, drink my semen instead" or "i can't even imagine not being with you"]
I naturally fall into the "keep everything positive" vibe when I'm trying to court a girl.
Quote: (11-04-2012 09:54 PM)BasketBounce Wrote:no need to put them down to raise yourself. that attitude will fuck you up hard, you will be another guy who can relate to hot chicks only by negging them. lame.
The problem for me,I think, is that it's very easy to get friend zoned by the more attractive girls. Being normal is easy, and I have my fair share of conversation with attractive women. But letting the woman know that I'm attracted to her...that's a little difficult.
simply put.. every person wants to be special in some sort of way. make her special and she will like you. [read "how to make friends and influence people"]. show you like her for something about her [soul, not body]. which in pickup game is known as...
QUALIFICATION
don't let a women know you're attracted 100%. give her 50%. let her know you're curious. be like "hmm so tempting, who's she?". be the sceptical one. blame her for approaching. tell her "look what you're doing to me? how the hell did you make me come over?" when you take on that approach you can easily compliment her and it will be well received cause she sees that you're after her soul while her body is just a prerequisite, a decoy.
and also when it doesn't go well you easily get out of the situation with dignity as you can simply say "you know what? i guess we don't really fit each other, that's fine, have a good day" since you weren't chasing her from the start, you were auditioning/interviewing.
truth is you automatically do that when you have options at the time. it is easily noticeable for example on summer vacations where you fuck around all day every day so you naturally get more selective and you cut off girls who are less attractive than those you already mess with.
if you just want to score then fake it till you make it.
Quote: (11-04-2012 09:54 PM)BasketBounce Wrote:express boundaries/tastes. HUGE. this is why you get friendzoned [1st reason - not escalating]. you don't challenge them at all. you just validate validate validate. hot chick knows she's hot. she knows you find her package attractive. if you don't focus on her soul instead of her body you're "just another fan". she doesn't need another fan. switch from "i really want you" to "who are you?" frame. screen screen screen. express your tastes and boundaries. it's totally different game. you're the jury of the show. while most guys are dtf before the interaction starts you're the guy who can walk away if she doesn't make the cut to not waste time. screening is attitude and state of mind IMO.
I've been friend zoned one too many times, and it has left a bitter of a taste in my mouth, so I generally don't engage women the attractive women I see on the street