Quote: (01-17-2012 12:41 AM)wolf Wrote:
I didn't want to deviate from the topic in the What's your favorite novel?
Speaking of Houellebecq's "Whatever" what I really got is most people are depressed/have no meaning in life because nobody loves them. Love is conditional from women so after you realize that how can you survive knowing that?
Have many one night stands?
Have flings/LTR's/Fuck buddies?
Are we basically trying to fill a void?
Psychologists and therapists have studies these issues for decades. By now the smart ones are getting a pretty good handle on this stuff. Depression / nihilism all stems back to childhood issues - neglect, conditional love from parents/caregivers, etc.
You can heal the parts of yourself that carry that pain/burden - people have got over depression, permanently. Some of the work that's being done on these issues today is amazing.
One amazing result from modern cutting-edge therapy is it's not the void that's "us" at our core... it's just a burden attached to a Part of us, and that part takes over the driving seat from time to time (it "blends in" and 'becomes' you for a while). With focussed work you can a) heal that part of it's burden and b) help it to trust that it doesn't need to run the show so much, and that you're an adult now and you can choose to feel even-keeled, optimistic and loved (easy to say, takes work to get there). Once you get to that place, without the void dominating your life, you dont need the external unconditional love nearly so much (although of course you naturally value sex, intimacy, connection, etc... you just get less dependent on it to feel alright)
Personally I dont get depressed, really much atall. I think because I got alot of love and attention and relatively unconditional affection growing up.
But I do get very stressed, anxious, uptight, worried. That's the other side of the spectrum. Again which has roots in childhood, and which I know can be healed too, and I intend to do so.