Quote: (03-21-2019 10:21 AM)Shimmy Wrote:
Quote: (03-21-2019 02:28 AM)CleanSlate Wrote:
So what's the point in going wife hunting in 3rd world countries in LA, EE, and SEA then? Might as well marry an American, pop out a few kids, and keep up with the Joneses with divorce rape hanging over your head, waiting to drop when you least expect it.
(this is not specifically directed at you in particular, Sidney)
Not everyone on this forum is traveling or living outside of the country looking for a wife or looking to escape the west because they hate it. I've actually met dozens of guys from the forum and can't recall one that was "wife hunting". I don't know this guys background but it could be something as simple as he liked living in Peru and made the mistake of accidentally knocking a chick up 3x. Not the smartest thing, but it happens all the time everywhere in the world as does people having kids on purpose with no financial planning ahead of time.
Maybe not specifically for wife hunting, but I think it's a near definite fact that almost everybody on this forum rejects the idea of having a western wife. I'm way too young to effectively comment on the overall situation of the blogger the OP references or older/more experienced guys here facing a decision like this, but I can't help but believe there's a difference between a girl raised in the west versus one that wasn't, even if the latter became a bit westernized relocating.
I wanna add that western education is not all sunshine and rainbows. Even going back there, you're still in a Keeping up with the Joneses mentality for education. Everybody is looking at the best public and private schools for kids, kids are trying to get into the best colleges they can, thinking that college may get them a bigger foot in the door for jobs. Me personally, I grew up going to private school in the states because of the very reasons people complain about education for other countries. Less safe, not fulfilling education, and better opportunity. You do not escape that getting your education in the States. Do you really think schools in say Compton get the funding and resources a school in an upper middle class small town would? The answer is a big no. Not only that, private schools are where more networking opportunities lie.
However, what suburbia can offer sometimes in the West is a united community looking out for the best interests of children. Forget how we feel about certain political topics being brought in schools, there are still small towns out in the states that primarily are centered around a lot of parents and residents volunteering their time to create better opportunities for their kids along with creating a stable environment and community. I'm not knowledgeable enough to comment on how well the rest of the world does that, but that may very well be a factor for some guys. I work with a few small towns now and learning about how events and organizations are developed, it really can be quite impressive the amount of unpaid time some of the established older community members put in the interest of their town and kids. I'd imagine as a western foreigner in the third world this may be a bigger challenge to recreate than even the education.
But, this leads me to my question. What are we as forum guys looking for in the long term? Are we looking to stay unattached to anything while growing our individual resources and travel the world? Are we looking for a few bases? Are we looking for a wife in another country and to start a life with her there, in a neutral country, or back in our home? I'm too young to have my own answer here for what I'd want and this has been talked about before on the forum, thinking back to one thread This is Trouble started a few months back about living somewhere with a girl in tow.
It's funny, a couple days before this thread was made, I was having a discussion with some guys on what was more important. Making money in your 20's or traveling the world and giving yourself more global opportunities with women? There were good points made on both sides, and I came to the conclusion that even as men, we cannot have it all. There's always going to be a fear of missing out on something. Life is gonna have forks in the road where you need to choose what path to take and trust your judgment that it's the right path.
In this case, we're basically raising the question of if it's worth traveling to other countries if it's only for a temporary number of years to just end up back in the west? I'd argue the answer is an emphatic yes. However, I do think topics like this are signs that the forum is in a new stage of travel/life/game development where the average age of the community is getting older, so questions like this start to come up about where and how to spend later chapters of our lives that may not have even crossed the minds of a lot of guys a few years ago.
As far back as I could remember, I always wanted to be a player.
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