Quote: (05-12-2016 04:33 PM)estraudi Wrote:
^^^^
In a way I can almost comprehend what this paragraph means but just not quite. What kind of information and from whom do these women use as a way to make them socially vulnerable??
Sorry man, problem's my end, not yours: I shouldn't post mid-sleep.
I'm talking about the sort of potentially-damagaing info girls choose to share with their Besties:
- Maybe she had an abortion without her partner knowing.
- Maybe she confesses an an affair with the partner of a third party known to the listener.
- Maybe she says how she despises Girl X who is more popular and the listener wants to get into Girl X's clique.
- Maybe she brags a little too much how hung her partner is and how great he is in the sack.
Since women fight in a passive-aggressive way, they are weakening-themselves by doing this. This is why any time I've worked in a female-dominated workplace it's been an Ultra-Efficient, Productive, Utopian Paradise a living hell of constantly-shifting loyalties, passive-aggressive warfare and nasty little clique formation: "Oh, yes, there
is a party scheduled for Wednesday for the girls in the office. I
didn't realise that you were rostered on that day, so wouldn't be able to come.
I'm so sorry. It won't be the same without you."
I'm convinced women that women, by the time they leave high school, have learned to not trust anyone and instead of logically-punishing other women for their lack of loyalty, project these issues onto men, though I'll admit it's possible that female friendship requires the illusion of intimate information being exchanged to smoothly-function: offering up a vulnerability is a social lubrication.
Women deeply-envy male relationships, including the trust and loyalty can have for one another, since they know it's impossible with other women. One ex used to complain about how my oldest mate and I could just be together and work on a task, and get it done without having to say much to each other, like we knew how each other so deeply that we just clicked into place together without any effort at all.
See what I mean about female projection? Don't underestimate how insanely-jealous women are of male friendships. The matriarchal l media wouldn't have run so hard with the 'Bromance' label over the last 15 years if it wasn't an effective shaming tool by equating close male friendships as being somehow 'unnatural' and 'homoerotic', because, after all, your partner is now supposed to not only your 'girlfriend' but your 'best friend'.
The difference being, of course, is that a male best friend wouldn't immediately default to something like this during an argument:
"I could have dated a
real man, not a pussy who cried over the death of his father!"
Men
learn this behaviour is to be expected from women, and then women complain that men never 'talk about their feelings', when they're only interest in how those feelings relate
to them anyway.
So, she might ask "What are you afraid of?"
The only answer she is
interested in hearing is, of course, "Losing you." If you said that, over time, she'd see you as needy and learn to despise you, so I always avoid those kind of questions and move on: "Lena Dunham naked." *exaggerated shudder*