Quote: (11-24-2016 05:23 AM)Wayout Wrote:
Back on the topic, what I found is the most frustration aspect of online dating in China - girls will waste your time with online conversation while they know all along they will not meet you in person!
I literally had a conversation with a chick why she put some other girls' pictures in her profile - she said she thinks she is ugly ( true by the way) and for that reason she should put up fake pictures. The western logic or moral standards do not exist in China ( or Asia?)...she thinks this is normal and others think she is just smart!...So that...plus some will never come out to meet you or are married already.
On the other hand it is considered normal for men to have mistresses...I asked women if they have any problem with dating a married guy - and they didn't care at all - because they only care about themselves and have no problems hurting someone else relationship.
I see some foreigners have qualms about fucking virgins in China - by applying their western moral norms- by why should we if they don't play by the same rules?
After a while, China will get to you! Fascinating culture but I can't say online dating is working out for me here.
Yeah I have had a couple chicks use their friends photos online before for the exact same reason. Only one was actually hotter than the friend. Once I told her that she chilled the fuck out some, but she was still a pain in my ass. Thing is, both of them were very poor and had zero common sense. Ethics from them? LOL! This is yet another reason why I say stay away from very poor girls in China. China is a money crazy place. The very poor tend to handle it the worst and is usually not worth the effort.
Online flaking is part of life. I had plenty get away that I was for sure was going to be my next LTR or something great. China may not be much better than the West in that regard. That said, China is still the ultimate numbers game. For every 10 flakes, I could find 10 more that would meet up. I just had to deal with my own pickiness.
Married women? I haven't had that happen to me before. Divorced? Single moms? Absolutely! I actually never banged any of them and maybe met up with 2. Biggest turn off with those were the desperate ones. The ones that you could smell the greencard hunter and anchor baby rabies off of. These women were 100% all business from jump street. I cannot fuck chicks like that, not even for a little while and lie to them. Pure boner kill they are.
Is it possible some of these women were married? No idea, I never asked for a copy of the divorce papers to validate that. Wouldn't have matter anyway. That was during the time I had not discovered the power of the younger Chinese woman and was looking at women my own age. I wasn't 100% red pill yet at the time. Once I figured that out, I never talked to an old bird ever again. I like cougars/milfs but, at the time, well before Wechat people finder and Tinder like apps, finding those in China was actually pretty damn hard to do. I knew some white dudes that told me they had tons of them, but a couple of those guys lived in HK.... Nowadays you can even find Chinese women like this in the US, like near my Chinatown, but I suspect that they are xiaojie foot massage ladies based upon what their profile says and their photos. In that case, it isn't too different than in China, because alot of those on the apps are just pros too.
I should probably revise my Good Girl/Bad Girl scored test, but those girls you asked could be saying that for different reasons. There are good girls that don't mind you playing outside and some that absolutely mind that. The reasons for why are not that black and white. It could be a selfish reason. It could also be that they only care about the kids, and your career/business/your parents, it could also be that they just are not that interested in sex enough to keep you satisfied all week long. Some think men are fundamentally different from women, and understand that you have needs. It would take a while to type out all the various reasons, but that is just a sample.
Who said they do not play by the same rules? It really depends upon the persons. Some chinese youngsters are fucking and sucking in middle school like they are scheduled to be put to death at 20. Some others have zero interests in sex at all until marriage. Some know in advance that they need that virginity for an arranged marriage. The more diverse your circles in China, the more variety you will find on this. Lots of times, English teachers just see the bad ass kids they have to teach and think most of the youth are just as fucked up as well and every city is the exact same.
Online dating is just as fucked up as it's always been. It's also just as good if not better than it was before. If I had the time I would try it out inside China for a few weeks and report back, but I think it's unnecessary. You got a handful of guys there, with legit game, that use it and get success out of it. If these guys figured it out, you can too. Sometimes you need to just get thicker skin and elevate your NEXT! Mentality to the next level (pun intended). That will get you over the hump. You will see the tool for what it is. Your game will grow. You will diversify your toolsets and skills later on. Maybe some day, you could clutch a pimp cup in front of WIA, Suits, or even Fortis, and tell them that they need to work on their game. Well..... maybe not that last bit, but hey, you can always dream right?
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