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09-27-2013, 03:31 PM
Im a male 24 years of age and turning 25 in December.Im looking for any help! I need help I feel miserable. Im 24 and never ever had a girlfriend in my entire life, yes still a virgin. It seems as if women are not attracted to me and It makes me feel miserable at all levels. I really don't know what it could be, sometime I think its my looks, sometimes I think its just me as a person. I just want to know women are interested in me, Im not looking for sex specifically, it would make me happier that knowing that some women out there that finds me attracted and would flirt with me would help me a lot. I see a lot of friends at any given time, theyre always talking/flirting with women over text message or on facebook, or meeting up. Ive never done any of that. I hate being stagnate my entire life. I've tried talking with women over the internet/pof and on facebook and I haven't had any success out of 100 chicks ive probably messaged only one replied and it was this fat 45 year old chick with 4 kids, screw that. honestly, i havent manned up and hit on chicks in person due to social anxiety. Any help suggestions, tips? I just want to find a girlfriend, not really interested in sex specifically. What would anyone on here do if you were in my shoes?
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09-27-2013, 03:48 PM
My advice would be to be you have to work on your confidence and self esteem (inner game) before you can even start thinking about approaching girls etc.
Helping your inner game can be anything from getting a new wardrobe, start working out at the gym or simply being more proactive and sociable in life.
I'm sure there's loads of stuff on the manosphere relating to inner game so id say read that (there's a section of it in Roosh's Book Bang) and then try and apply it. You need to try and work on your inner game first because if you go out and do some approaches and get rejected it could knock you down hard so you need to be in a mental state where you can get rejected and it wont matter.
Hope this helps with your problem
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09-27-2013, 05:07 PM
I was technically a virgin until 27, by 5 years later I was in bed with a homecoming queen 11 years younger than me.
At 50 I was fucking a 25 year old in every possible hole while she said "Daddy I love you."
It was GREAT learning basic game, but I was in good physical shape as a foundation.
But you sound as if you're in distress, so start by checking your foundation of wellness.
Get a full checkup with blood work from a legit doctor.
If you have trouble sleeping regularly, are seriously depressed, see a psychiatrist.
I waited until 35 until I got into therapy, "proving" I didn't have a problem with depression. Wasted years of low productivity in denial.
Then when you can get up every day and do some thing for yourself, and when you have basic wellness established, you know the problem is needing to learn game.
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09-27-2013, 09:46 PM
honestly, i havent manned up and hit on chicks in person due to social anxiety.
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Thats just an EXCUSE. It's like saying you want to get in shape but haven't been going to the gym because you are busy, you have a back problem, you don't look good in fitness clothes, you sweat too much etc.
Start mingling with people. Go to bars and start talking to people. At least, it's the only place people won't even remember you next day. you might get stared at 'who's this awkward guy?' and that's what should happen to you. you can't deal with it? then accept where you are at right now.
