[SnakeEyes]

(12-17-2012 09:06 PM)murrb Wrote:  

(12-17-2012 09:01 PM)Alpha Hunter Zero Wrote:  

DONT FUCKING SEND THAT DAMN NUTELLA TEXT!

Yea Im glad I didn't yet. I definately want to use that line but I will wait. Maybe when we go bowling and she goes up to throw the ball I will yell "I want to spread nutella all over that booty!"

Record her reaction when u do

[Alpha Hunter Zero]

Man, we got our work cut out for us. You should'nt have gone to the coffee stand. Look what's happened as a result- #1. You've slightly lowered your value to her. #2. You got barely any time with her and the time you did get was with constant distractions which eventually forced her to leave you hanging there. (Despite making the mistake of going, you should have left the second you saw she wasnt giving you her undivided attention,which during work would be impossible anyway. At the first sign of this you should have said "(her name), thanks for the coffee. I'll talk to you later") #3. SHE, not you, ended up setting the date. To make matters a little more difficult she also invited your friend and his wife. She's basically called all the shots thus far, not good. All this could have been avoided if you just hadnt gone. I'll give you some props though. I liked that bit about pouring the coffee down the road, that helped you out a bit.

[Teddykgb]

(12-17-2012 10:23 PM)Alpha Hunter Zero Wrote:  

Man, we got our work cut out for us. You should'nt have gone to the coffee stand. Look what's happened as a result- #1. You've slightly lowered your value to her. #2. You got barely any time with her and the time you did get was with constant distractions which eventually forced her to leave you hanging there. (Despite making the mistake of going, you should have left the second you saw she wasnt giving you her undivided attention,which during work would be impossible anyway. At the first sign of this you should have said "(her name), thanks for the coffee. I'll talk to you later") #3. SHE, not you, ended up setting the date. To make matters a little more difficult she also invited your friend and his wife. She's basically called all the shots thus far, not good. All this could have been avoided if you just hadnt gone. I'll give you some props though. I liked that bit about pouring the coffee down the road, that helped you out a bit.

Yes I agree now that I think about it. I should tell her when I am free not her telling me when she is free to go bowling. Maybe I will purposely say no to the first date she tries to set up because I am busy with something else. I will say ah shit I'm busy that day but this day and time works for me.

Should I just text her and say "screw waiting for my friend and his wife lets go without them!"

??

[Alpha Hunter Zero]

You should'nt be telling her anything about when you're free or what your schedule is like unless it's rescheduling a date or a counter offer from her. Use my bowling text as a guide. I suggested Wednesday, lets say she couldnt do Wednesday @7 but suggested Thursday@7. If that's good for you then accept her counter offer. As for you canceling the bowling date I'd advise against it in this case. You're forgetting there are two intermediaries between you and this girl- your friend and his wife. You canceling all of a sudden after being all over her at the coffee shop will set off an alarm in her head. Regardless of what excuse you gave, the truth would get to her sooner or later and she'd call you out on it. My advice: Go on the bowling date w/ her, your friend & his wife. Now let me ask you something- How good are you at bowling?

[Teddykgb]

(12-18-2012 12:26 AM)Alpha Hunter Zero Wrote:  

You should'nt be telling her anything about when you're free or what your schedule is like unless it's rescheduling a date or a counter offer from her. Use my bowling text as a guide. I suggested Wednesday, lets say she couldnt do Wednesday @7 but suggested Thursday@7. If that's good for you then accept her counter offer. As for you canceling the bowling date I'd advise against it in this case. You're forgetting there are two intermediaries between you and this girl- your friend and his wife. You canceling all of a sudden after being all over her at the coffee shop will set off an alarm in her head. Regardless of what excuse you gave, the truth would get to her sooner or later and she'd call you out on it. My advice: Go on the bowling date w/ her, your friend & his wife. Now let me ask you something- How good are you at bowling?

Last time I went bowling I was averaging around 140. So I would say average???? haha Should I go practice the day before to get my game tight?

[Alpha Hunter Zero]

It wouldnt hurt to get some last minute practice. If she isnt a really good bowler then right then and there is a perfect opprtunity to demonstrate some high value to her and get some light touching while you're at it. Guide her through the proper stance and movements.

[Alpha Hunter Zero]

Oh yeah and Bonkers, thanks for the compliment.

[bojangles]

you're a lucky guy murrb, don't send anymore texts please

AHZ done a good job helping you out on this post meetup part, bowling will be a great chance for kino and even a few teases about her shite bowling skills too.

[Virtus]

This is like the whole forum having a oneitis

[Teddykgb]

My friend just called me today to ask me if I had been talking to the girl and how things were going. I said yeah I had stopped by her stand to get coffe but I wasn't really that into her. (I said this because I feel like his wife is listening and ready to report back to said girl) Then we bullshit about work and what not and I said yeah I think she wants to go bowling and then he tells me thats why he was calling is to feel me out if I wanted to go bowling with her.

My friend already knew I had went to her stand and everything because his wife told him. My friend and his wife are all in collusion sp? with the girl so I cant tell him shit! I'm pretty sure I'm fucked because my friend has probably already told his wife that I haven't gotten pussy in so long and so she probably told the girl I was trying to fuck.

I swear whenever I tried to get laid with people that know people from my circle it gets fucked up because someone starts telling them about me and shit

Edit: How could I use this to my advantage knowing that whatever I tell my friend will get back to the girl?

[Alpha Hunter Zero]

I was afraid something like this would happen. And in this particular situation it's impossible to use this scenario to your advantage. Too many people involved. Your friend's wife is basically trying to play matchmaker & your friend is basically her agent trying to pry info out of you to go back to her so she can report it to the girl. You see how he's already calling you w/ulterior motives. You did the right thing by telling your friend you just werent that into the girl.

[Teddykgb]

(12-18-2012 08:14 PM)Alpha Hunter Zero Wrote:  

I was afraid something like this would happen. And in this particular situation it's impossible to use this scenario to your advantage. Too many people involved. Your friend's wife is basically trying to play matchmaker & your friend is basically her agent trying to pry info out of you to go back to her so she can report it to the girl. You see how he's already calling you w/ulterior motives. You did the right thing by telling your friend you just werent that into the girl.

My gut feeling was he is feeling me out to go bowling sometime this weekend. Once I found out he was fishing for info I called him a fucking asshole jokingly and just bullshited about other stuff and then he said he would call me back in the next day or two.

It is good because then I dont have worry about work the next morning but it is bad because my friend is probably telling his wife "yeah its ok he probably doesn't have anything planned this weekend so he can go" which lowers my value yet again.

[bojangles]

you nede to slap your friend around and tell him what info he should be passing on.

[TheMan]

self depreciation is a nope

[Teddykgb]

I feel like this chick is coming onto me hard. Probably the hardest I have ever had a chick come onto me without having had sex. I wonder what this means?

She just turned 21. Her friend (who is 21) and my friend who is 24 just got married and had a kid already Im hoping she doesn't think I am like my friend and want to get married and have a kid super fast.

I talked to her on the phone for about 15 minutes while she blabbed away telling me about herself yadda yadda then she had a customer so I had an out and told her my phone was almost dead. Then she texts me back "Call me whenver you want"

Then about an hour later my friends wife texts me saying "woo! woo! she is diggin you!"

We are going on our third group date tomorrow night. I tried to make it a solo date with the girl but somehow things changed and not by my choice!

I feel like after two group dates I should've gotten the bang but still nothing. Both times I have had an oppurtunity at the end of the night. I wonder if she is purposely giving herself an out at the end of the night so I can't make the move?

[SnakeEyes]

Three fuckin group dates? Is this girl pink knighting?!

Dude start approaching other women.

On a side note, anyone remember that show "blind date"? People had lunch, did an activity, then had dinner? The best dates always ended up with a fuck at the end

[bojangles]

I would pull out of the third group date. That's fucking lame, it's like your friend and his wife are cockblocking you. Pull out, just say you can't make it, don't give an excuse, then organise a one-on-one date with the girl later on.

[Alpha Hunter Zero]

I wonder who's actually arranging these group dates behind the scenes- the friend's wife or the girl? Regardless of who it is, this group date shit has to stop now. I agree with bojangles and snake eyes, 3 group dates is bullshit and more than enough time for this girl to get comfortable being alone with you. Let's backtrack a little. You mentioned before you think this girl is coming onto you pretty hard, what did she do or say that makes you think that?

[Teddykgb]

Well she has been texting me alot of random little shit like "hope you have a good day" and "I cant wait to hang out again" yadda yadda.....and I haven't been responding back.

Then my friends wife text me yesterday "woo! woo! (girl) is diggin you!"

I can't really tell what I'm getting myself set up for but whatever I will not get too invested it and try and go for the bang tonight. We are having dinner at my friends house and then going bowling but then afterwards there should be no exccuse for me to not seal the deal!

Maybe I will buy a few condoms at the bowling alley! haha

[Alpha Hunter Zero]

Okay rule of thumb here: the majority of what girls say to you is shit, try to always take it with a grain of salt. Only through her actions will you truly know if a girl likes you or not. Just because she texts you random shit doesnt mean anything. She could very well just be bored & want some attention for a bit. Also that "I cant wait to hang out again" bit is quite amusing based on what's happened so far. She wants to hang out with you so much yet she doesnt want to do it by herself & with the added bonus of two other distractions- your friend & his wife. There's also a common denominator throughout all this- your buddy's wife. From what I've read so far your friend's wife has had her nose involved everything & from what I've seen so far is one hell of a manipulater. Like I said before she seems to like playing matchmaker & since you said you've been set up before with people that your social circle knows Im going out on a limb and guessing your friend's wife has been the one setting you dates.

[bojangles]

i think AHZ has hit the nail on the head mate, let us know how your night looks, but I'm very pessimistic of your chances

[Teddykgb]

Sounds like I will be on here at midnight asking "What did I do wrong?" haha

Bowling got canceled because open bowl doesn't start until 10pm so she texted me we could do something else if we wanted to after dinner at friends house

What should I suggest?

[Alpha Hunter Zero]

What are her interests that you know of, does she drink, and what time does dinner at friend's house end?

[Teddykgb]

(12-20-2012 06:03 PM)Alpha Hunter Zero Wrote:  

What are her interests that you know of, does she drink, and what time does dinner at friend's house end?

Interests so far I have found out she likes pinterest shit! hahaha

Drinks YES!

Dinner starts at 7:30 so maybe be done by 8ish?

[SnakeEyes]

(12-20-2012 06:03 PM)Alpha Hunter Zero Wrote:  

What are her interests that you know of, does she drink, and what time does dinner at friend's house end?

Fuck that. OP what are your interests? I've taken girls to the beach at midnight and laid out two blankets. One for the sand and one to hide under.

OP each time u do something she wants to do you never let yourself come out. Shit man take charge and act like you know what u like. Ur wishy washy and u act like everything is fine no matter what it is. Where's ur passion?!