[Thrill Jackson]

I always fear going out alone downtown in my city. It's has a violent reputation and I don't want to get my ass jumped

[Hazaer]

(03-07-2016 09:30 AM)Green-On-GO Wrote:  

(03-06-2016 04:13 AM)Hazaer Wrote:  

The situation: I have been going out solo for a 6 or 7 months now. For me, the hardest part does not seem to be getting to the venue. Rather, it is at the venue itself. I take the last bus to the city at half past 10 enter a pub at about a quarter to 11. I post up at the bar and I get only 1 beer for the entire night. Some girl at the dance floor or at a distance gives me the look but I don't act on it. Dancing up to her or approaching her when she is in her group of friends seems like a huge obstacle for me.

At the smoking area, girls are in their groups and even if they are only in pairs or threes, I feel that I can't hold the conversation or their interest after 2 or 3 minutes. Entertaining all of them requires more energy and I am not sure if a girl who is there with 1 or 2 friends would be willing to leave them for the night if her other friends do not meet a guy.

What do you guys think? I used to live in a much bigger city with a large tourist population and going solo was very possible because there is always some tourist chick alone or lost near the venue but currently, I am in a much smaller city with almost no tourism and on most nights, I am the only coloured guy there hence probably the looks of curiosity.

What I have done: I have tried and finished watching the Seinfeld seasons to get in the mood but it doesnt seem to help. In fact, in a college social environment, I actually sense a decrease in attraction probably because I am probably seen as a try hard and some RVFers have suggested that I maintain the cool and collected personality instead. This might be a better option for people with a naturally more serious persona. Now I am watching Mad Men. But I am not sure if that is going to help in Night Game.

Perhaps, I should have a beer before going out and then get another one at the venue?

Any advice on a future course of action would be good as going out for months with hardly anything to show for it is a pretty bad record. Going with a wing wont be an option for me as the others are usually focussed on getting wasted and trying to score that same few girls in my social circle.

i think your going out too late for OZ depending what state you are in.
Go out earlier, open everyone.Have a coffee or dinner in town.Take action so you don't get in your head.There will be bad nights and good ones
Get to the bar early befriend the staff bouncers doorman etc..Concentrate on being social first.
Make friends at College join groups etc.This is Oz not America,you must be able to laugh at yourself here, James Bond game won't cut it .

Try day game..it's easier in a big Aussie city to be solo ,night game wise.
In small or medium city not so much.

And you have to have a go and fail you will...nothings perfect there is no magic bullet.

My next project is to go to this seaside bar where solo dudes are treated like leppers..I like the girls there and have watched solo dudes flounder hard.It's like a cage fight.

I was thinking about starting day game by complimenting girls about their shoes or clothes. Do any of you here compliment a girl even if she walks past you with no eye contact. I was thinking of doing so only if she eyeballs me but that never happened and then telling her something became very hard.

I imagine that girls would be more confident to look at guys they are interested in the day more than at night. So if she ignores you in the light of day, is it then not worth approaching her at all?

[Druber]

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I was thinking about starting day game by complimenting girls about their shoes or clothes. Do any of you here compliment a girl even if she walks past you with no eye contact. I was thinking of doing so only if she eyeballs me but that never happened and then telling her something became very hard.

I imagine that girls would be more confident to look at guys they are interested in the day more than at night. So if she ignores you in the light of day, is it then not worth approaching her at all?

I've approached when their faces are stuck in a smart phone, or listening to tunes. I just ask for the time/directions, and once she provides the info (you now have her attention), make a compliment.

[Hazaer]

(03-16-2016 10:56 AM)Druber Wrote:  

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I was thinking about starting day game by complimenting girls about their shoes or clothes. Do any of you here compliment a girl even if she walks past you with no eye contact. I was thinking of doing so only if she eyeballs me but that never happened and then telling her something became very hard.

I imagine that girls would be more confident to look at guys they are interested in the day more than at night. So if she ignores you in the light of day, is it then not worth approaching her at all?

I've approached when their faces are stuck in a smart phone, or listening to tunes. I just ask for the time/directions, and once she provides the info (you now have her attention), make a compliment.

In my case, more often than not, they are not on their phones, their face is either turned away or they look straight ahead although I am sure they are aware that I am looking at them. This makes me question their receptiveness to convo.

[Hazaer]

(03-17-2016 08:53 AM)Hazaer Wrote:  

(03-16-2016 10:56 AM)Druber Wrote:  

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I was thinking about starting day game by complimenting girls about their shoes or clothes. Do any of you here compliment a girl even if she walks past you with no eye contact. I was thinking of doing so only if she eyeballs me but that never happened and then telling her something became very hard.

I imagine that girls would be more confident to look at guys they are interested in the day more than at night. So if she ignores you in the light of day, is it then not worth approaching her at all?

I've approached when their faces are stuck in a smart phone, or listening to tunes. I just ask for the time/directions, and once she provides the info (you now have her attention), make a compliment.

In my case, more often than not, they are not on their phones, their face is either turned away or they look straight ahead although I am sure they are aware that I am looking at them. This makes me question their receptiveness to convo.

Bumping the above.. In addition, I would like to hear any of you guys' opinion on what effect day game actually has on your night game. Has it actually increased your confidence level assuming the fact that you are likely to head out slightly drunk at night anyway?

It seems to me that at night, in the streets at least, girls are actually more open to approaches probably because they are drunk while they look like they are on a mission during the day. What are your experiences?