Quote: (01-28-2012 09:32 PM)Screwston Wrote:
That first night inspired me to go to concerts alone, art events, museums, anywhere I could possibly fuck a girl. I felt "player baptized" and like I was seeing the light for the first time. I truly believe if I can do it, anyone can. Hell, think of me not even being able to park my car because I was so scared of what was inside if it makes it easier for you.
Fuck yeah - great thread. I know this is an old one but congrats on rising to the challenge.
I got out solo 99% of the time, especially now that I live overseas. But I was like that back home too. I can't even remember what it was like being nervous to do so - just love it and I almost feel too on the spot gaming if I go out with guys to pick up chicks.
A lot of guys seem too concerned about making it happen when they're together, whereas I'd rather just hang about and see where the night takes me instead of being on some kind of rush. Solo allows to go where I want, do what I want, leave when I want, and do things my way.
I think I have slipped into the bad habit of looking too much like I'm on the prowl lately though. Walking in the door and looking all over the room for girls worth hitting on or sitting with my own thoughts rather than talking to people immediately. I don't think I've appeared as "fun" as I did in the past.
This thread was a good reminder to lighten up and have a good time with it again.
Quote: (01-29-2012 08:07 AM)ElJefe Wrote:
Wager for a beer/drink, and the wager is you bet she can't repeat the same moves you're about to make. Remind her it's important to follow you closely. Has to be done with a glass, bottles won't do. Save it until 15-20 minutes into the interaction when already thinks you're cool and you guys are having a decent convo.
Do everything slowly so she has a chance to follow.
I place my hands on the table/bar, one on each side of my glass, so does she. I move one hand forward, then back, then the other forward, then back. She's going to think it's a "mirroring" challenge. I take a sip from my drink, so does she. I DON'T SWALLOW, I just keep the sip in my mouth without saying anything. Naturally, she swallows.
Then I repeat the hand movement as before. So does she, wondering why I am so retarded. Then I take my glass, raise it to my mouth as if to toast (she HAS to look you in the eyes while doing this). She does the same.
Then I spit the sip out back into my glass, and she cracks up.
This was awesome. Going to try it.
Have any more?
Quote: (06-23-2012 05:02 AM)dk902 Wrote:
I actually turn down offers from friends because I prefer to go out by myself.
I do this all the time too. haha
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I think G said it best: 'There's no one's company I prefer more than my own.'
And that is why the G is a legend.
What a great line.
Quote: (07-06-2013 01:23 AM)GLethal85 Wrote:
Quote: (07-06-2013 01:16 AM)Therapsid Wrote:
GLethal - Did you drink?
It seems like you were on a different wavelength because all those chicks, like shot girl, were getting sauced.
No I was sober. The sprite lasted me a while then I got a bottle of Newcastle.
Didn't really think about their drunkness, but definitely will keep that factor in back of my head moving forward.
Didn't even think about it? that's huge, Man. You're way ahead of the game if you're out sober and not even feeling self-concscious about it.
Quote: (07-08-2013 07:39 PM)kenny_powers Wrote:
3. I am looking for women that are out solo. (there are more than you think)
Truth! And we all no what a woman is doing out solo!
Quote: (07-10-2013 08:53 PM)AneroidOcean Wrote:
skydiving
Skydiving solo would be fun. Going to do it next time I get a chance.
Some cool points in your post.
At the end of the day, YOU DO EVERYTHING IN THIS WORLD SOLO. Most people just have others holding their hands to the busstop and back.
Realizing you can let go of those hands and walk your own damn self to the game of life is a liberating moment!
Quote: (07-10-2013 09:31 PM)MrXY Wrote:
We sat down at the bar, and the bartender came right over and said "Do you want "xxx" (a certain cocktail) or "yyy" (a certain beer). The bartenders there know I always start out drinking one of those two. I told the bartender which and the girl just turned to look at me with astonishment and said "Cool!" Instant DHV and comfort building.
Good bartender helping you look important like that.
Hope you tipped him well.
Quote: (07-11-2013 01:38 AM)Sebastian Wrote:
Let me give you guys a wake up call. I am an Asian. I go out solo in 90% white state. I am one of few asian guys at a bar and will probably the only asian guy hitting on white girls and I get stared at. But I still go out.
Plus, I am not a native speaker. The first thing I worked on was delivering 'hey how's it going' and saying my name correctly.
Unless you are a white/black dude in china, you can't make any excuses.
Why are you scared of people just looking like you and grew up in the same culture?
Just go out.
Right on, Brother. You speak truth. I'm doing the same thing Asia-side.
I can relate to trying to talk to people when you don't know their language. And then succeeding with the infiltration.
Nothing like it.
May your solo pussy adventures be long and prosperous.
Quote: (07-22-2013 12:04 AM)Wavy Wrote:
I fear going out by myself because my city has a high percent of gay dudes who try to date rape straight men.
Quote: (02-22-2014 04:43 PM)shotgun Wrote:
I like going out solo. When you pull, you're a game god. When you fail, you have nobody else to blame but yourself. You can also control much better the variables (time of arrival, warm up, quantity of alcohol drunk, the best spots on the venue, the targets you approach, etc.)
The main problem with going out solo is that it accelerates the burn-out process of going out at night.
A lot of truth in this. You can easily become an alcoholic when you get too comfortable with solo bar missions. Easily the greatest pitfall here.
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If I end up hooking the girl, I say "my buddy has just messaged me, he left with the girl" - that could also be good in potentially convincing your target that other girls are actually doing ONS.
I like it - nice jedi mind trick slipping in that little morsel of social proof there.
Quote: (04-24-2014 08:35 AM)Frontenac Wrote:
I ended up going to another bar, and bailed after a couple drinks. The great thing about this though is that I made up my mind that I didn't want to be there, and just left. If I was out with a couple of dudes, it for sure wouldn't have been that easy.
It really is so much fucking easier. I hate the way you always spend so long rounding everyone up with groups, especially big groups. Drives me insane.
I studied in Europe for a while with a bunch of other Americans and I went out every single night, almost, while there. On the nights everyone came, I'd almost go insane, and eventually, I'd just turn a corner and split.
After a while people caught on and two or three stragglers would make sure to keep their eye on me so they could follow me to the next place. They knew I was the one having all the fun. haha
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"The individual has always had to struggle to keep from being overwhelmed by the tribe.
To be your own man is a hard business. If you try it, you'll be lonely often, and sometimes
frightened. But no price is too high to pay for the privilege of owning yourself." - Kipling