Quote: (05-25-2015 04:03 PM)la_mode Wrote:
Roissy lately has taken this direction of telling men that if you basically act like Stiffler from American pie, women will magically be drawn to you. For as smart as he is - he doesn't realize most men simply cannot pull this off. He calls it "jerkboy charisma". Very similar to David DeAngelo's "cocky funny" routine.
If Operant Conditioning Techniques, (such as Positive / Negative Punishment, Shaping, Positive / Negative Reinforcement, Extinction / Reponse Cost of Positive Stimulus Removal), can train people to over-ride evolutionary instinct and act in a manner against their self-interest, and their continued comfort and survival, then what use is EvoPysch as the be all and end all of Game?
From my observation, the last 10 years of social media and the normalisation of the Smart Phone has rewired the Human Mind. Women have become disconnected from the idea of connection, except as a
romanticised and idealised phantasm. They dream about finding 'the one', but, realistically, a boyfriend to them is just a complication in the way of the easy-distractions and self-affirmation of the smart phone, as are
children.
I'm expecting the next generation of largely-ignored children to respond as would children of alcoholics I've worked with, where they understood
they were never as important to the parent as the bottle was. Hell, I suspect the majority of Millennial acting out, (victimhood, need for constant approval, catastrophisation, sexual dysfunction, fear of emotions, fear of losing control of self by having fun, conflict avoidance, addiction to heightened emotional states of chaos and drama, identification with wounded birds), comes from children who knew they were never as important to their mother
as her career was, and never mattered to their father, because he wasn't there, or was impotent enough in the relationship to be invisible.
The next generation are either going to become so ferociously-independent as to become more like Generation X, or become even more whiny and victimised.
How does EvoPsych fit into a changing social landscape then, because, I'm telling you now, it's not going to be about being the biggest swinging dick in the room if girls get more positive reinforcement out of shaming celebrities and sports stars rather than dating them. You can blame 'bad game' all you want, but there is a deeper mental change happening.
Matt Forney and I have recognised the Millennial indifference to content creation and how they are largely passive except when
reacting to something. Roosh and I have mentioned a transition into Clown Game, as Millennials don't always react positively to too much confidence. (I mentioned in the Texting thread how I pitch my personality below jerk so I can dial it up or down).
A girl looks to her smartphone seeking a
distraction because she's
incapable of entertaining herself. She's conditioning herself to the entertaining and trivial, away from commitment. If all you can offer a girl in this transitory period of re-normalisation is a telegraphed 'whassap' communication style and constant negging, I believe you'll be irrelevant to women within another seven years.
As traditional female mating desires evolve into something else, you adapt or die.
I say this as a guy who was advocating letting my physicality do all the taking and dialing down my intelligence only two years ago on here. Things are changing that quickly.
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Further thought:
If Evopsychs think Millennial Girls are drawn to a certain type of badboy alpha due to cocky overconfidence, there's simply too many subtypes of women with greater experience at distracting themselves with male approval at different points in their sexual history.
Say there's three women I notice at a party:
- Blonde cheerleader party girl type, the world is her oyster
- University-educated career type, envies the cheerleader, but knows she's 'smarter' than her
- Blue haired, tattooed, pierced waif, despises the cheerleader, is bored by the career types.
I would operate on these assumptions:
- Jerkboy Charisma coupled with physicality will work on the cheerleader, and work less as she approaches the wall.
- I'd tailor the jerk for the career girl: increased verbosity, more snark, 'you and I are the only ones in the room who would get this'. My physicality would be less of an advantage: she'd be attracted to it, sure, but once I successfully fight off her suspicion that I'm a Dudebro / Dumb Biker.
- The waif is looking for neither. She looks for a bad boy not out of sensing physical or social superiority in her partner, but a desire for a partner that appeals to her narcissistic self construct formed by her psychological issues. As such, she would be seeking a wounded bird to nurse back to health, (criminal, drug dealer, gang member) - my tattoos would be a huge advantage here - or she'd be seeking 'A Beautiful Loser', so they can both be Damaged Together, and the drama thereby would need to be dialled up, and I'd hint at a Dark Past.
As society is transferring power away from Perky Cheerleader to the Blue-Haired, Damaged Waif,
I'd expect her desires to become the norm.
What fantasy is hugely-popular with women?
The story of what seems like an Alpha Jerkboy, and whom everyone seems to think is a story about male dominance whilst missing the key attraction to women: he's actually a Wounded Bird the main character nurses back to health.
What fantasy is hugely-popular with Millennial women?
Beautiful losers being damaged together, taken to the romanticised extreme of being cancerous.
MMX2010 and I were discussing this song privately the other day, and now I see a deeper layer of greater clarity behind it: beautiful losers, being damaged together, trying to regain innocence.
Unfortunately, we live in interesting times. Adapt or die.