TL;DR
It's basically a shit test.
Don't psych yourself out. You probably did a better job than you think attracting & connecting during your opening phase.
Due of always-on, always connected techology, the perceived mate value of male suitors has gone down. In the past, a new suitor on her scene held a certain intrigue & unavailability, which can be manufactured through game, but is ultimately ineffective due to so many other guys willing to give her attention when she wants it, and on her terms.
Along comes a guy with good game. Someone like a reader of this forum. You make a great first impression, she's interested, you make future plans, and exchange contact information. In the moment, she's looking forward to it. It makes sense for her.
But fast forward to a later date, and you leave a voice message or send a follow up text. You're keen to meet, but she's no longer in state. It's not that she doesn't remember you. She does. But she's not in the mood now. To meet up, she has to be emotionally prepared. Now here's an invitation to meet up with an attractive guy, with good game, who stands a good chance of getting into her pants now? No, that would way to easy she thinks. Plus she's not in the mood for sex.
She also figures her notch count certainly doesn't need to be any higher. It's not like she's some slut. Not like those other girls that no doubt gave it up to you easily. No, better to show you she's different. Better to hold out. Better to just let you text her some more. If he really wants it, he'll keep trying. Besides, each funny text she got from you have been a virtual bubble of just-as-fun. And she doesn't even need to get dressed, put on makeup, or be interesting.
In an effort to salvage your wasted night, you run your funniest, best text game, but it's too late. She's already in her PJ's. You finally send "no worries. some other time", and concede defeat. The drip feed of text stimulation provided by you stops. "That was fun" she thinks. Now bored, she checks her instagram comments, and fields texts from a half dozen other potential suitors, friends & orbiters while settling in with netflix for the night.
She has a slight headache from tilting her head just so for the last 15 minutes to get just the right amount of cleavage for a couch selfie with her dog. Better cancel plans with another one of her suitors for tomorrow night now. His 3rd flake of the week, he gets mad over text, and tells her how selfish & inconsiderate she is. Disqualified. She screenshots the butthurt text to a few friends & #1 white knight for validation. "what a jerk" Obv he just wanted to get in your pants. That's true, she thinks. What does he think this is, a sprint to the finish line? I'm worth so much more. A marathon at least! If he really cared, he would be more patient. Like that cool guy from earlier. Persistent, but funny! Yeah, he's still in the running...
You're still in the running.
It's basically a shit test.
Don't psych yourself out. You probably did a better job than you think attracting & connecting during your opening phase.
Due of always-on, always connected techology, the perceived mate value of male suitors has gone down. In the past, a new suitor on her scene held a certain intrigue & unavailability, which can be manufactured through game, but is ultimately ineffective due to so many other guys willing to give her attention when she wants it, and on her terms.
Along comes a guy with good game. Someone like a reader of this forum. You make a great first impression, she's interested, you make future plans, and exchange contact information. In the moment, she's looking forward to it. It makes sense for her.
But fast forward to a later date, and you leave a voice message or send a follow up text. You're keen to meet, but she's no longer in state. It's not that she doesn't remember you. She does. But she's not in the mood now. To meet up, she has to be emotionally prepared. Now here's an invitation to meet up with an attractive guy, with good game, who stands a good chance of getting into her pants now? No, that would way to easy she thinks. Plus she's not in the mood for sex.
She also figures her notch count certainly doesn't need to be any higher. It's not like she's some slut. Not like those other girls that no doubt gave it up to you easily. No, better to show you she's different. Better to hold out. Better to just let you text her some more. If he really wants it, he'll keep trying. Besides, each funny text she got from you have been a virtual bubble of just-as-fun. And she doesn't even need to get dressed, put on makeup, or be interesting.
In an effort to salvage your wasted night, you run your funniest, best text game, but it's too late. She's already in her PJ's. You finally send "no worries. some other time", and concede defeat. The drip feed of text stimulation provided by you stops. "That was fun" she thinks. Now bored, she checks her instagram comments, and fields texts from a half dozen other potential suitors, friends & orbiters while settling in with netflix for the night.
She has a slight headache from tilting her head just so for the last 15 minutes to get just the right amount of cleavage for a couch selfie with her dog. Better cancel plans with another one of her suitors for tomorrow night now. His 3rd flake of the week, he gets mad over text, and tells her how selfish & inconsiderate she is. Disqualified. She screenshots the butthurt text to a few friends & #1 white knight for validation. "what a jerk" Obv he just wanted to get in your pants. That's true, she thinks. What does he think this is, a sprint to the finish line? I'm worth so much more. A marathon at least! If he really cared, he would be more patient. Like that cool guy from earlier. Persistent, but funny! Yeah, he's still in the running...
You're still in the running.