We all know about investment.
It's the idea that the more you invest your money, time and energy into someone or something, the more attached you become to getting a return on that investment.
Women are ninja masters at drawing investment out of guys. They are equipped with scary levels of dexterity when it comes to exploiting our time, energy and resources---both material and emotional.
But as men who value our precious, fleeting time on this Earth, we in turn have to become stoic samurais of divestment.
Divestment works like this: as soon as you realize that you are investing in a suboptimal situation, immediately (and I mean immediately!) walk away from that situation and cut all ties with it. And if possible, do so gracefully.
In the example shown below, Donald Trump immediately realizes that in the time Ali G is clowning him, he could have made $10,000. Trump gives him exactly a minute of his life before graciously bowing out. He immediately divests:
An example closer to home would be going on a date with a girl when logistics are terrible. That's already an investment that you're unlikely to see a return on in the form of same-night sex. (At least, much less likely than if you plan the date a 10 minute walk from your apartment.)
By even agreeing to such a fundamentally disadvantageous scenario, you're essentially throwing your time away.*
But let's say you slip up and go anyway. You're already probably not getting laid tonight which will percolate inside you and sour your disposition subtly. Not least of all because we only have ourselves to blame for investing when ROI is unlikely.
Then she shows up with her friend. If you stay, you invest even further. And now you're under pressure to buy both of them a drink lest you look cheap. (The right move, of course, is to make up an excuse and leave before investing another second of your life into such a whack scenario.)
You sit there and the friend is watching you like a hawk, just itching for you to disqualify yourself somehow. Sideburns? Ugh, disapprove. No tattoos? Beta. Works in a hotel? Loser. Believe me, she'll find a reason and pass it like a virus to the girl you're trying swoop, rendering her vagina dry before you've even had the chance to make a decent play.
Yeah maaaybe you'll wind up fucking her on a day 2 but if you don't....you'll have invested all that time, money and energy. And that will make NOT getting the cookies that much more painful...
Ideally the way to deal with these situations is to quickly recognize them and get out of dodge gracefully.
Girl wants to meet hella far from your apartment? Sorry, something came up. Another time, k babe?
Girl brings her friend? Shit! Sorry girls...I have a business call at home in 30 minutes I totally forgot. Next time!
After 45 minutes of hanging out it becomes clear that the girl you're on a date with has issues and is going to be more trouble than she's worth? Is glued to her iPhone? Is being a humorless bitch? Peace out!
The trouble is that by the time you realize you need to divest, you've probably already invested to some degree and quite naturally want some kind of return. But as soon as that realization hits, divest immediately and don't look back. Delete her texts, delete her number. In fact, block her number. Forget all about a fundamentally fraught dynamic and move forward with the opportunities that will actually pay dividends.
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*This subsumes you have options. Warren Buffet, THE investment guru, said that the number #1 determining factor he considers when making an investment is opportunity cost, i.e. "what ELSE could I be doing with this money?"
In terms of game, this means cultivating volume. The more leads you have coming in on the front end, the more intelligently and objectively you can dole out your time and resources. Not least of all because your judgment isn't clouded by a not-recently satisfied need to have sex.
It's the idea that the more you invest your money, time and energy into someone or something, the more attached you become to getting a return on that investment.
Women are ninja masters at drawing investment out of guys. They are equipped with scary levels of dexterity when it comes to exploiting our time, energy and resources---both material and emotional.
But as men who value our precious, fleeting time on this Earth, we in turn have to become stoic samurais of divestment.
Divestment works like this: as soon as you realize that you are investing in a suboptimal situation, immediately (and I mean immediately!) walk away from that situation and cut all ties with it. And if possible, do so gracefully.
In the example shown below, Donald Trump immediately realizes that in the time Ali G is clowning him, he could have made $10,000. Trump gives him exactly a minute of his life before graciously bowing out. He immediately divests:
An example closer to home would be going on a date with a girl when logistics are terrible. That's already an investment that you're unlikely to see a return on in the form of same-night sex. (At least, much less likely than if you plan the date a 10 minute walk from your apartment.)
By even agreeing to such a fundamentally disadvantageous scenario, you're essentially throwing your time away.*
But let's say you slip up and go anyway. You're already probably not getting laid tonight which will percolate inside you and sour your disposition subtly. Not least of all because we only have ourselves to blame for investing when ROI is unlikely.
Then she shows up with her friend. If you stay, you invest even further. And now you're under pressure to buy both of them a drink lest you look cheap. (The right move, of course, is to make up an excuse and leave before investing another second of your life into such a whack scenario.)
You sit there and the friend is watching you like a hawk, just itching for you to disqualify yourself somehow. Sideburns? Ugh, disapprove. No tattoos? Beta. Works in a hotel? Loser. Believe me, she'll find a reason and pass it like a virus to the girl you're trying swoop, rendering her vagina dry before you've even had the chance to make a decent play.
Yeah maaaybe you'll wind up fucking her on a day 2 but if you don't....you'll have invested all that time, money and energy. And that will make NOT getting the cookies that much more painful...
Ideally the way to deal with these situations is to quickly recognize them and get out of dodge gracefully.
Girl wants to meet hella far from your apartment? Sorry, something came up. Another time, k babe?
Girl brings her friend? Shit! Sorry girls...I have a business call at home in 30 minutes I totally forgot. Next time!
After 45 minutes of hanging out it becomes clear that the girl you're on a date with has issues and is going to be more trouble than she's worth? Is glued to her iPhone? Is being a humorless bitch? Peace out!
The trouble is that by the time you realize you need to divest, you've probably already invested to some degree and quite naturally want some kind of return. But as soon as that realization hits, divest immediately and don't look back. Delete her texts, delete her number. In fact, block her number. Forget all about a fundamentally fraught dynamic and move forward with the opportunities that will actually pay dividends.
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*This subsumes you have options. Warren Buffet, THE investment guru, said that the number #1 determining factor he considers when making an investment is opportunity cost, i.e. "what ELSE could I be doing with this money?"
In terms of game, this means cultivating volume. The more leads you have coming in on the front end, the more intelligently and objectively you can dole out your time and resources. Not least of all because your judgment isn't clouded by a not-recently satisfied need to have sex.