[Kaii]

Guys,

I have a bit of a problem lately. I noticed that I now want to avoid any situation that requires me to make any kind of effort. I especially want to avoid anything that cause a conflict. It's not out of fear, it's just lately I just don't care.

For example, I have a good job and good income. I have plenty of money to pay my bills. But, I continually pay them late. Why? I just don't even feel like going online to make a payment or writing checks. I now have things getting behind and I still don't want to to call and set things straight or even think about it.

In my personal life, I have a g/f who is cool and I like her a lot, but I don't even want to deal with her. Even if it’s just her coming over for sex.

The only thing currently I put any effort into is work. I even stopped working out.

I realize it could be depression, but I don't seem to have any other symptoms of it.

Any ideas or suggestions?

[texas]

Was there a certain event that spurred this behavior??

You need to get a change of environment or some kind of brief shock to your system. It may help to take a weekend trip to another country or totally different environment and see some new stuff. If you can, volunteer somewhere for some time too.

It may seem tough but you gotta be proactive so stuff like late bills doesn't compound and then lead to a much worse situation. If possible, set up an auto-pay for your bills so you don't start racking up fees. Definitely just force yourself to keep working out and getting some level of exercise man.

[michaelm]

(03-26-2014 09:46 AM)Kaii Wrote:  

Guys,

I have a bit of a problem lately. I noticed that I now want to avoid any situation that requires me to make any kind of effort. I especially want to avoid anything that cause a conflict. It's not out of fear, it's just lately I just don't care.

For example, I have a good job and good income. I have plenty of money to pay my bills. But, I continually pay them late. Why? I just don't even feel like going online to make a payment or writing checks. I now have things getting behind and I still don't want to to call and set things straight or even think about it.

In my personal life, I have a g/f who is cool and I like her a lot, but I don't even want to deal with her. Even if it’s just her coming over for sex.

The only thing currently I put any effort into is work. I even stopped working out.

I realize it could be depression, but I don't seem to have any other symptoms of it.

Any ideas or suggestions?

It happens. It's just a matter of getting your second wind. Change up the routine a bit (girlfriend included), but for heaven's sake pay your bills on time to keep that credit rating strong. There is nothing more depressing than being a young guy with a good career but a credit score right around your ankles.

[The Beast1]

Had this happen recently. I adapted my gym routine to change it up a bit and sure enough it worked.

Are you in NE? Give it a few more weeks to warm up. This cold weather has been a b!tch.

[mental]

This post may help you - it helped me and the OP.

[n0000]

You seem to be in an anhedonic state, anhedonic being from the greek meaning without pleasure. I suggest you do the following in order:

1. Take the fish challenge. Eat wild caught cold water fish(especially sardines and salmon) for two weeks straight every day. Feel free to supplement with some fish oil, as well as vitamin d3. Virtually everyone who tries this see their mood, memory and overall happiness improve. I have personally witnessed this improve the lives of individuals I know.

2. Stop masturbation and porn cold turkey. Many guys see major improvements in energy levels and zest for life.

3. Take a free 10 day mindfullness retreat. see dhamma.org for details.

[Kaii]

Thank you all for your replies. I went out a bought a planner last night to get more organized and will be changing up my workout next week.

I am just going to sit and do nothing this weekend in order to recharge a bit. I admit I have been working and doing shit non stop for months.

Thanks again guys.

[Frost]

I hear you. We all go through highs and lows.

Last night I was in a particularly shitty mood. No reason whatsoever, life is going great, I just didn't want to do anything.

Sometime it's good to listen to your body and take rest when you need it. But, sometimes it's just your body being a pussy and needing a kick in the ass.

Whenever I recognize that it's the latter, here is the re-frame that works for me.

"OK, Frost. I know you feel like shit. That's why we're not going to do a REAL workout. We're just going to go to the gym, and have a shitty workout. Literally just go through the motions of your routine at 50% of the weight that you would normally do."

Usually, on days like that, I end up having a less than stellar workout. But sometimes it leads to an amazing workout. Last night for example.

As for the rest of your problems, once you get back into the gym you'll realize how simple all of that other stuff is. That's always my experience anyways. Exercise leads to everything else that is good and productive.