[AneroidOcean]

(12-17-2018 02:39 PM)RespectivePerspective Wrote:  

Me: Come over.

Her: I will when i’m out of work. What will we be doing? I kind of feel like staying indoors.

Me: Good, because it’s Hitler documentary night. It’s the one on Eva Braun. I need you to see how a loyal woman behaves.

Her: lol ok, i’m out of work now.

Me: I left the door to the führerbunker unlocked, so just come on in.

Her: jawohl mein führer!

And then she never showed up and didn't respond further or what happened here exactly?

[Yyy9898]

Hello,
I was texting a girl on Facebook and she said she was going to this event and will post a photo on Facebook. But when I decided to escalate and ask her for some photos showing her "other side".I got the typical shit test again:"I am not that type of girl."
Obviously I want to convey my interest but I don't wanna sound like a herbivore.
Any idea what to text her?

[MaceTyrell]

TLDR: Should I just next or keep pushing?

On roughly 11/17 I got this notch from a girl here in NYC, gonna call her Eritrean 6.

First time we met she mentioned something about not being a good texter. So a few days after the bang she hits me up. We have a back and forth where she responds twice more, then stops responding.

I hit her up the following day, get two messages in response, then no response to my response. At this point I'm feeling a ghosting happening.

About 12 days later I hit her again, being super direct about hanging out sometime that week/weekend. She doesn't respond until the next day, but says she's down to hang one day in particular. My simp-ass suggests dinner. From then until the meetup, she is absurdly responsive.

Have dinner on 12/6, it goes fine, she is receptive to going back to her place. We smoke. When I try and make the moves she says she's on her period, I believe her since I could literally feel the tampon when I tried to finger her. Eventually she gets super tired and I go home. Shoot her the "I got home" text, get a response the following morning about how she had a good time and thanking me for dinner.

Hours later I respond, and hit her with a "maybe we can hang again sometime next week" on 12/7, going direct as I am giving her the benefit of the doubt about not being a good texter. As of 12/18, she still hasn't responded to that question.

So I am thinking a few possible scenarios are at play:

1. The first most obvious, most realistic one is that she is not really interested and is soft nexting me. It's getting to become a stretch giving her the benefit of the doubt of being a bad texter. I could do it in other situations, where the message she didn't respond to was just a statement/wasn't a question. But ignoring a request to hang for 11 days is just egregious. Even during the date, when at her place, I remember seeing a text from some friend of hers asking how "her hot date was going," which given the current issue I seem to be having communicating with her, I interpret as being sarcastic. May have just told her friend she was getting free food lol.

2. She truly might just be a "horrible texter" and it got lost in the shuffle. But to counter that, it's been 11 days and she hasn't thought of texting me once. If there was an interest there, I think she would have done so.

So at this point, I can either just stop or try and hit her up again. My most preferred tactic would be going direct, with some cheeky joke about how I'm still waiting for a response. Nothing to risk but my ego at this point. At first I thought "if she wasn't interested she would have said so" but then I had to think back...I can only think of one non-LTR girl I have notched who hit me with a "hey i'm not interested" after the notch while I'm trying to continue banging - the rest have been a variety of soft nexts/I get annoyed.

[RespectivePerspective]

(12-17-2018 06:11 PM)AneroidOcean Wrote:  

(12-17-2018 02:39 PM)RespectivePerspective Wrote:  

Me: Come over.

Her: I will when i’m out of work. What will we be doing? I kind of feel like staying indoors.

Me: Good, because it’s Hitler documentary night. It’s the one on Eva Braun. I need you to see how a loyal woman behaves.

Her: lol ok, i’m out of work now.

Me: I left the door to the führerbunker unlocked, so just come on in.

Her: jawohl mein führer!

And then she never showed up and didn't respond further or what happened here exactly?

She came over, and then I fell asleep while we were watching a film. Didn’t get any, but that could’ve easily been mitigated if not for a lack of sleep. I suppose the moral of the story is that anyone could’ve gotten it had they made it up to that point.

[Polniy_Sostav]

Hi guys
I went into a trip which was meant to be a nightmare 8 hours night bus to another country. It turned out to be great , only me and a local albanian 21yo girl were the customers so the driver brought us directly to our destination (the airport) in a mini van.
That young girl was fantastic , not incredibly hot , but a solid 7.5/8 and more than this , she was so simple and innocent , like 80 years ago. I have overcomed my shyness and started to talk to her , at the first cafe break. We then spent 3 hours together waiting at the airport.
I am very inexperienced in "day game" and fund myself quite confident. I got her number at the end. She doesn't drink , doesn't smoke , and seem to be very innocent about the real world , such specimens you only meet in countryside Albania. I am not in love at all but I want to fuck her so much. She goes to Berlin to visit her (incredibly stunning hot ) sister only one year older than her. It will be her first time outside Albania , she seemed very excited to discover the world.

So now my question is , how long should I wait before to contact her (I have her whatsapp) , should I just text or call her ? My intention is to have her in my bed. I couldn't lie about anything , I have only not mentioned that i am married or i have kids. I couldn't dare to lie about the rest.

[The Usual Suspect]

Hi Gents,

So I’ve been messaging a girl I dated very briefly (no sex) 10 years ago and we’ve made plans to go for a drink on Saturday night.

Context is I used to work at the bar/restaurant we are going to and it’s how we met. We’ve had a sort of in joke about how I mixed up her favourite martinis back in the day. After agreeing to the drink she’s shot out a couple of questions...they may even be shit tests?

First one was “there’s going to be a very disappointed barman there on sat night” to which I responded “I will always be the original and the best” and then she’s thrown out “I told the owner his barmen always have a soft spot for me”

The best I can think of is

“Yes but I’m the only one you’ve ever had a thing for”

[Zoso]

"I like that, thus you could ask them for free drinks for us"

[duedue]

   

Got her number online. Her profile said she was submissive. So did I do something wrong or was she not really interested?

[bonkers]

Any thoughts on how I can leverage this lukewarm girl into a bang?

We have been on one date - she seemed lukewarm on me but date went ok overall and we kissed.

This was last month and a subsequent date has been delayed for various reasons but essentially she is not smitten with me but I could potentially get bang if I play all my cards right (difficult)

After a month of on and off texting, she suggested I look for "other dates"

I essentially said ok and have not messaged her since.

Last night she messages with:
"hey"
"how are you"

No reply from me

Today she messages me:
great it would seem

Anything I can do here?

[Remington]

^Since you were digging this woman in the past, she is probably texting you because she wanted some attention and she thinks you'll give it to her.

Salvaging this semi warm lead will be pretty tricky.

If I were to respond, it would be a closed response and somewhat cold. I'm not going to waste my time on a woman that strings me along.

You could go with "you got it" or "bingo," or some variation of response where it seems like you could care less about her hitting you up.

[Vill@in]

(12-18-2018 10:02 AM)MaceTyrell Wrote:  

TLDR: Should I just next or keep pushing?

Mace, did you ever hear back from this girl?

Sounds like you weren't a priority, so I hope you moved on from her. Most girls nowadays have their phones on them 24/7, so I wouldn't buy the 'bad texter' excuse. Plus, if she was really interested she would make it a point to reply back to you in a timely manner....which isn't 10+ days later.

[Azlan]

(12-17-2018 06:11 PM)AneroidOcean Wrote:  

(12-17-2018 02:39 PM)RespectivePerspective Wrote:  

Me: Come over.

Her: I will when i’m out of work. What will we be doing? I kind of feel like staying indoors.

Me: Good, because it’s Hitler documentary night. It’s the one on Eva Braun. I need you to see how a loyal woman behaves.

Her: lol ok, i’m out of work now.

Me: I left the door to the führerbunker unlocked, so just come on in.

Her: jawohl mein führer!

And then she never showed up and didn't respond further or what happened here exactly?

You asked her to come watch a Hitler documentary...thats what happened.

[droughtmeat]

Should I text her again?

Situation is:
I fucked a girl about 2 months ago, but was super in a hurry afterwards and left the city /country without getting her number. I just reeally had to go.
Ended up regretting not getting the number. Would have costed 20 seconds of my time lol.
I find her on IG, but am reluctant to DM her there, cause, well, how did I find her with zero common friends etc.

My friend, who I visited in that city, fucked her friend and got her number. I saw him a couple of days ago and he said that she had asked about me A COUPLE OF WEEKS ago.

He gives me her number and I text her something like "Christina! It's me, droughtmeat. Don't freak out, I asked father christmas for your number and he delivered" I added some embarassed and smiling emojis etc.

She read the message, but didn't reply. So now I'm very reluctant to text her again, cause I don't to be THAT GUY hundreds of kilometers away blowing up her phone with irrelevant texts.

Any suggestions? I'd personally rather not text her and if we do see each other when I go back there next year, I think I'd have more leverage, if any at all, than if I send more unanswered texts haha.

[duedue]

Would someone be kind enough to take a look at the one I posted above?

[Pytonga]

Ok guys looking for some insight/help.Matched with this girl on Tinder (Yesterday)- messaged and was trying to meet yesterday but it was late and she was with friend. So proposed drinks sometimes soon, and this is what I have got - not sure if this is yes, no maybe?

bet it will be freezing today but good on you! Have a good one I’m off to a family lunch very boring but warm lol. I could be up for that wee bit busy this week mind you

[Agrippa]

Situation: matched with a girl on Bumble, exchanged some messages, got her phone number. Sent her a text about meeting up for a drink. We agreed on a day and time. This is the most recent exchange:

Me: I want to check out x bar. It looks super divey but a coworker told me it's a good place and not as divey as it looks. If he's wrong we can bounce to x bar nearby.

Her: Haha ya it looks divey, but it's not - they have pretty good food there! Though I do love me some divey places
Do you have any more pictures?

I have three pictures on my bumble profile. A headshot, a full body shot in a suit, and a full body (clothed) shot from my travels. Not really sure how to respond to this text. Any suggestions?

EDIT: I also don't have the body to send a shirtless photo and I'm not into sending dick pics.

[AneroidOcean]

(01-02-2019 12:25 PM)Agrippa Wrote:  

Situation: matched with a girl on Bumble, exchanged some messages, got her phone number. Sent her a text about meeting up for a drink. We agreed on a day and time. This is the most recent exchange:

Me: I want to check out x bar. It looks super divey but a coworker told me it's a good place and not as divey as it looks. If he's wrong we can bounce to x bar nearby.

Her: Haha ya it looks divey, but it's not - they have pretty good food there! Though I do love me some divey places
Do you have any more pictures?

I have three pictures on my bumble profile. A headshot, a full body shot in a suit, and a full body (clothed) shot from my travels. Not really sure how to respond to this text. Any suggestions?

EDIT: I also don't have the body to send a shirtless photo and I'm not into sending dick pics.

Since you only have 3 pictures and I imagine maybe they're not all that clear/amazing, I'd send a clearer one with you doing something cool or with a couple good looking friends, especially if you have girls in the picture. Keep moving it towards meeting up. Tease her, intrigue her a little, but make that meet up happen as it's all way easier in person.

(01-01-2019 10:10 AM)Pytonga Wrote:  

Ok guys looking for some insight/help.Matched with this girl on Tinder (Yesterday)- messaged and was trying to meet yesterday but it was late and she was with friend. So proposed drinks sometimes soon, and this is what I have got - not sure if this is yes, no maybe?

bet it will be freezing today but good on you! Have a good one I’m off to a family lunch very boring but warm lol. I could be up for that wee bit busy this week mind you

She's not all that interested, but it is the holidays. I'd reach out to her again and ask her if she's recovered from NYE or something like that to strike it back up. Maybe ask her if she's ready to "dive" into the new year (or make some other dive bar related joke).

[No More Mr. Soy Boy]

So if I suspect a girl I'm having sex with is together with this guy (and I happen to have his number in my address book but we don't know each other).
What is a good way to text him and see if they're banging or if it's green light? Would like to come off as just caring about brocode.

I wouldn't want to keep fucking her if she's together with this guy anyway and kind of losing attraction because of it.

[Tinder Scientist]

(01-18-2019 06:11 PM)No More Mr. Soy Boy Wrote:  

So if I suspect a girl I'm having sex with is together with this guy (and I happen to have his number in my address book but we don't know each other).
What is a good way to text him and see if they're banging or if it's green light? Would like to come off as just caring about brocode.

I wouldn't want to keep fucking her if she's together with this guy anyway and kind of losing attraction because of it.

If you mean she has a boyfriend and is cheating on him on you, I wouldn't text the bf. Stop seeing her if you want or try to find out without texting the guy by looking him up on social media.

Asking the guy is just asking for trouble, just find out on your own and then cut contact.

For all you know your msg is going to cause the girl to say to her bf that you abused her and get you in trouble.

[coffeedrinker]

(01-18-2019 06:11 PM)No More Mr. Soy Boy Wrote:  

So if I suspect a girl I'm having sex with is together with this guy (and I happen to have his number in my address book but we don't know each other).
What is a good way to text him and see if they're banging or if it's green light? Would like to come off as just caring about brocode.

I wouldn't want to keep fucking her if she's together with this guy anyway and kind of losing attraction because of it.

If you text him: He hates you, she hates you = problems for you.

You say you aren't sure if they are together, maybe they are just friends/FWB/her gay best friend.

If you do find out that she is actually seeing him without you getting involved or you are losing attraction due to the possibility of it, then just stop seeing her without giving her any reason to dislike you. That way when she becomes available again, can hit up again.

I would imagine others in here to suggest just not caring about it and using protection, though I think If I got in that situation I'll also feel some guilty to the point of not enjoying it.

[No More Mr. Soy Boy]

(01-19-2019 04:59 AM)Tinder Scientist Wrote:  

If you mean she has a boyfriend and is cheating on him on you, I wouldn't text the bf. Stop seeing her if you want or try to find out without texting the guy by looking him up on social media.

Asking the guy is just asking for trouble, just find out on your own and then cut contact.

For all you know your msg is going to cause the girl to say to her bf that you abused her and get you in trouble.

(01-19-2019 05:03 AM)coffeedrinker Wrote:  

If you text him: He hates you, she hates you = problems for you.d

You say you aren't sure if they are together, maybe they are just friends/FWB/her gay best friend.

If you do find out that she is actually seeing him without you getting involved or you are losing attraction due to the possibility of it, then just stop seeing her without giving her any reason to dislike you. That way when she becomes available again, can hit up again.

I would imagine others in here to suggest just not caring about it and using protection, though I think If I got in that situation I'll also feel some guilty to the point of not enjoying it.

Thanks for the reply!

But I'm thinking of texting this guy from another phone I have so he can't know it's me and I don't risk getting myself into trouble.

What should I text then?

[coffeedrinker]

19 year old on tinder with the typical "make me laugh" bio.

Msged her with a sarcastic joke. Few short msgs later, she sends me a long paragraph about how she got banned from a club. I tease that she must be trouble to get banned. Next day she sends me 2 massive paragraphs explaining why she got banned and how it's not her fault and being butthurt at the manager.

The thing is, it sounds like a young girl that's ranting at random guys for attention as my texts just do not deserve anywhere near that kind of investment.

Oh and she quoted equality act or some random crap saying she's entitled to her opinion of a club being shit. Crazy stuff

Haven't replied yet but I'm sure the text gods here can think of a good reply to this.

[ksbms]

(01-21-2019 07:24 AM)coffeedrinker Wrote:  

19 year old on tinder with the typical "make me laugh" bio.

Msged her with a sarcastic joke. Few short msgs later, she sends me a long paragraph about how she got banned from a club. I tease that she must be trouble to get banned. Next day she sends me 2 massive paragraphs explaining why she got banned and how it's not her fault and being butthurt at the manager.

The thing is, it sounds like a young girl that's ranting at random guys for attention as my texts just do not deserve anywhere near that kind of investment.

Oh and she quoted equality act or some random crap saying she's entitled to her opinion of a club being shit. Crazy stuff

Haven't replied yet but I'm sure the text gods here can think of a good reply to this.

You'll be better off splashing a few quid for a manicure than thinking about this broad.

[ndsamkw]

Her: French chick I met at a cafe/hotel lobby. I approached after IoI and helped her with a cover letter. We agreed to grab drinks face to face on Wednesday during conversation

Me: Hey it’s name (3pm)
Her: hey name it was great meeting you! Thank you so much for your help (5pm)
Me: It was great meeting you too! Spent yesterday hosting a watch party for the football games. Let’s go to place on Wednesday at 8:30 (9am)

I was busy rest of the night so waited til next day. Thoughts?

[Macomber]

(01-21-2019 07:24 AM)coffeedrinker Wrote:  

19 year old on tinder with the typical "make me laugh" bio.

Msged her with a sarcastic joke. Few short msgs later, she sends me a long paragraph about how she got banned from a club. I tease that she must be trouble to get banned. Next day she sends me 2 massive paragraphs explaining why she got banned and how it's not her fault and being butthurt at the manager.

The thing is, it sounds like a young girl that's ranting at random guys for attention as my texts just do not deserve anywhere near that kind of investment.

Oh and she quoted equality act or some random crap saying she's entitled to her opinion of a club being shit. Crazy stuff

Haven't replied yet but I'm sure the text gods here can think of a good reply to this.

"They (club owners) sound like real cunts. We should meet and plot your revenge against them. How about...(date proposal)"