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Here's a story from the hamster files. The author, pictured below on the left, had such a patently false accusation of rape that the police and her university decided to do nothing in response.
Determined not to let the patriarchy win, she decided to do something about it. Here is her version of events.
If she didn't understand that taking him to the bedroom was a greenlight for sex, then she's incredibly dense. Nor does she understand that it's difficult to revoke a go sign. If she were so concerned about her virginity (assuming that was actually true), she would not have pushed the evening forward in this manner.
Then, once in the bedroom, she has no agency in anything. "Eventually naked," as if the clothes magicallly fell off. Sex happens anyway because she had no say in whether it happened or not. But she didn't get up. She didn't yell. She had a case of last minute resistance, and the most he did was pull her closer.
Ok, so after such a traumatic experience, she would immediately recognize how she was wronged and run to the cops, right? Well, here's what happened.
There once was a hashtag on twitter a few years ago that caused some controversy. It was #itaintrapeif. The example that I remember was it ain't rape if she orders from the entree side of the menu. I would say the definitetive is it ain't rape if it takes her a year to realize that she had been raped only after her friend tells her.
Even if she was delayed in putting a name on what wrong had been done to her, she surely didn't have any contact with the man who raped after her that fateful evening, right?
But even, she still sits on her rape claim. In the meantime, she concocts the plan of getting her rapist to confess and using that as evidence against him.
A year and ten months go by, before she gets the idea to tell the police and her school. At least they could smell bullshit. I guess that a delay of almost two years is what it takes for the police to know that it's false.
Hurt by her rights not being vindicated (and seeking attention), she put her 'rapist' on blast by identifying him online. She was going after his livelihood with this by making him and her false rape accusations come up together in a google search. And this is a best case scenario of a false rape claim in that he had no formal complaints even filed against him.
If there's any justice in this world, her 'rapist' will win that libel suit.
Here's a story from the hamster files. The author, pictured below on the left, had such a patently false accusation of rape that the police and her university decided to do nothing in response.
Determined not to let the patriarchy win, she decided to do something about it. Here is her version of events.
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We walked together back to the complex where we both rented apartments. He was so drunk, I was worried about him and I now believe he played upon those worries. I offered to feed him a little so he could take some aspirin for what was surely going to be one hell of a hangover.
My roommates were out. He and I ended up making out on my couch. When he started taking off my clothes, I moved the make-out session to my bedroom in case my roommates came home.
Eventually naked, in my bed, my date told me he wanted to have sex. I told him repeatedly that I did not want to. That I wanted it to be special. That I wasn't ready. That having sex so soon would ruin our relationship. But it happened anyway.
I told him he was hurting me and I tried to pull away. He pulled me closer. In the end, after he was done, I interpreted it as a "misunderstanding" –– surely he'd just been too drunk to listen.
If she didn't understand that taking him to the bedroom was a greenlight for sex, then she's incredibly dense. Nor does she understand that it's difficult to revoke a go sign. If she were so concerned about her virginity (assuming that was actually true), she would not have pushed the evening forward in this manner.
Then, once in the bedroom, she has no agency in anything. "Eventually naked," as if the clothes magicallly fell off. Sex happens anyway because she had no say in whether it happened or not. But she didn't get up. She didn't yell. She had a case of last minute resistance, and the most he did was pull her closer.
Ok, so after such a traumatic experience, she would immediately recognize how she was wronged and run to the cops, right? Well, here's what happened.
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It took me a year to talk openly about my experience. I told my best friend.
"He raped you," my friend said, putting the word on it. "You said no, he didn't listen. That's rape."
I started crying and couldn't stop. It was only then I finally allowed myself to realize I had indeed been raped.
There once was a hashtag on twitter a few years ago that caused some controversy. It was #itaintrapeif. The example that I remember was it ain't rape if she orders from the entree side of the menu. I would say the definitetive is it ain't rape if it takes her a year to realize that she had been raped only after her friend tells her.
Even if she was delayed in putting a name on what wrong had been done to her, she surely didn't have any contact with the man who raped after her that fateful evening, right?
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The nightmare was –– I had continued to see my rapist. He'd told me he was in love with me and wanted to marry me.
But even, she still sits on her rape claim. In the meantime, she concocts the plan of getting her rapist to confess and using that as evidence against him.
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It took me another 10 months to report my experience to the proper authorities. In October 2012, my friend made a passing comment that I should have recorded the conversation I'd had with my rapist where he'd confessed to the rape. In California, secret recorded confessions are legal, admissible evidence when they are used to prove that someone committed a violent felony. Rape –– it should be said –– is a violent felony.
So I arranged to make a recording. And my ex-boyfriend obligingly confessed multiple times to forcing me to have sex with him. I provided these recordings to the police in November 2012. I provided them to my university in December 2012.
A year and ten months go by, before she gets the idea to tell the police and her school. At least they could smell bullshit. I guess that a delay of almost two years is what it takes for the police to know that it's false.
Hurt by her rights not being vindicated (and seeking attention), she put her 'rapist' on blast by identifying him online. She was going after his livelihood with this by making him and her false rape accusations come up together in a google search. And this is a best case scenario of a false rape claim in that he had no formal complaints even filed against him.
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I posted both his and mine. It was my emphatic rejection of both invisibility and shame. Women from all over responded –– thanking me, telling me that I had given them the courage to say the word "rape" and speak the name of their rapists. And for their sisterhood, I am profoundly grateful, because it helped make me feel visible and human again.
Recently, I was also counter-sued by my rapist for libel.
If there's any justice in this world, her 'rapist' will win that libel suit.