[Merenguero]

(11-03-2013 09:01 PM)Fisto Wrote:  

Looked a little further into avoiding being served, looks like I can be served by publication, where they just run an ad in a newspaper.

Service by publication, at least where I am, requires a serious, sincere effort to locate the person being served and sufficient proof that such efforts were made. Every time I have been allowed to effectuate service by publication it was in an uncontested matter and it often took an extended period of time and numerous documents, such as affidavits, from multiple persons. Where I am, I doubt service by publication would be permitted in a child support case where the Defendant has the right to request a paternity test and the Defendant's financial interests and possibly his liberty interests, are clearly at stake.

[Christian McQueen]

Damn Fisto, sorry to hear about this. #playerproblems

I'm racking my brain for advice, but this is one of those situations a guy rarely gives thought to, until it happens.

Is this a Vegas or La chick?

[renotime]

It doesn't sound like she wants money, but if it were me I'd open an account in a family member's name and put like 95 percent of my money in there.

[Ingocnito]

Besides the Laotian part of this dilemma, this so similarly parallels what I went through six years ago it's churning my stomach.

Fisto, be all over this shit pronto. Maybe the language barrier represents some sort of opportunity out of this.

[Jaydublin]

(11-03-2013 04:31 PM)Fisto Wrote:  

I'm 99.9% sure it's mine. This girl has slept with one other guy in her life.

I have to assume she's going to carry it to term. She's obsessed with me.

She's Laotian and speaks shitty english. She constantly misunderstands me and flips out. There is no chance of reasoning with her.

Don't be so sure... How many times were you with her? You said yourself you never came in her. She could easily have attempted to get knocked up by another person the same time so she could pin it on you.

Not saying its not yours but you know how convincing they can be. I've halfway believed 2 girls now in my life on this topic, both were extremely convincing but neither kid was mine. If it seems unlikely that she could have gotten pregnant by you then it probably is very unlikely.

If you don't want the kid I think its best to make that clear to her then hide for a while(months). This way she knows your serious and she will have second thoughts and possibly abort. If you keep in touch with her she will always think there is a chance you take care of it. Down the road it might be better to take the test.... It would suck to hide your whole life from a kid who isn't yours, or even if it is, hiding probably isn't quite worth it.

[Jaydublin]

(11-03-2013 07:42 PM)Fisto Wrote:  

There is one other detail I should mention. Her first boyfriend convinced her to get married so he could get a green card. As if now they are still legally married.

It's to a Thai guy though.

Great news... In most states its his baby! The state only wants a provider, they don't give a sit whose life they ruin.

[Suits]

Odds are, it's not your kid.

If she's a month preggo, you've got 8 months to figure this out.

Once the kid is born, first things first...paternity test.

If it is yours, you should have your escape plan ready.

Sounds like you are going back to Thailand buddy!

*You'll want a fresh passport with 10 years on it and lots of pages.

*Sell all US property and "lose" the money gambling in Vegas.

*If Thailand doesn't work out for you long term, PM me and I will arrange for you to disappear in China. I can make this happen. Obviously Cambodia and Laos are strong options, as border crossings don't seem to involve a computer record keeping.

*If you can avoid ten years of child support before your passport runs out, you're about halfway to the end of the dependent years.

*In southeast Asia, no one is going to notice that the State Department has deactivated your passport.

*Get out the moment that DNA test comes back positive.

[Duke Castile]

This is why I love the forum. All comments above.

Edit- McQueen this is Nevada

[Aliblahba]

(11-03-2013 04:31 PM)Fisto Wrote:  

I'm 99.9% sure it's mine.

(11-03-2013 04:31 PM)Fisto Wrote:  

This girl has slept with one other guy in her life.

   


Pull yourself together man! Listen to what you're saying. Take a knee.

[iop890]

Dunno how I can help with this other than saying if you do decide to run away to Thailand, I can hook you up with all the fake documents you need to get a student visa. Then you'll be set for a while even if they do freeze your passport.

[Jaydublin]

To add... Those bitches will lie up until and even after the DNA test. It's pretty amazing that they can swear to have fucked nobody else, not even their husband within a couple months of their target baby daddy, as the DNA test is being taken. We all know chicks lie but to the extent they can lie blows my mind.

Something else you can look into is the conception date.... It's not real accurate but you can start to puzzle shit together so you can make a better decision on taking a test or dipping.

1. She is a woman who is obsessed
2. Didn't cum in her
3. Conception date is a week off
4. Only fucked x times

[kbell]

If the girl is from Laos you probably don't want to flee there since she might have family there.

[Duke Castile]

Guys I'm about as emotionally unattached as a person can be without being a sociopath, I'm not just saying this stuff without extreme scrutiny, I know girls will say anything. Come on it's me.

[Enigma]

That's rough, hope everything works out for you, man.

[WanderingSoul]

You need to get the fuck out of dodge. You're a fucking magnet for crazy bitches.

[Clyde Rules]

Can't he sue her or have her charged for theft of his semen?

[eradicator]

(11-04-2013 02:02 AM)Clyde Rules Wrote:  

Can't he sue her or have her charged for theft of his semen?

This took place in the usa, the law favors the woman in every possible way. That said, you can always sue. Can you sue and win? In this case, I wouldn't try it. Trying to get her to terminate the pregnancy is probably the best bet.

But if she is crazy enough to try to get herself pregnant from semen from her mouth, don't expect rational behavior from her. Tell her you want nothing to do with her, and will never see her or the baby if she keeps it and it is yours. You can get a paternity test as early as ten weeks into the pregnancy

If she says she is keeping the baby,insist on a paternity test. Make damn sure you go with her to the doctor for it, otherwise, she will just surely lie. GL


edit, ali, i think this is what you were going for?

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This girl has slept with one other guy in her life.

[iknowexactly]

(11-03-2013 10:15 PM)Jaydublin Wrote:  

(11-03-2013 07:42 PM)Fisto Wrote:  

There is one other detail I should mention. Her first boyfriend convinced her to get married so he could get a green card. As if now they are still legally married.

It's to a Thai guy though.

Great news... In most states its his baby! The state only wants a provider, they don't give a sit whose life they ruin.

Not a lawyer, but I remember reading something at least in some states that a child is presumptively a husband's unless proven otherwise...

IF this is the case, and it's a big IF-- the baby is legally presumptively someone else's and the burden of proof is unclear then. If Fisto runs around getting DNA tested couldn't he be hanging himself, taking a risk he doesn't need to?

And wouldn't they have to subpoena his DNA? If he's personally unavailable, how can they form evidence it's his, especially if she's married to someone else?

Another possibility is she's testing him, lying to see if he WOULD stay around if she was pregnant. I know one couple where she kept having "scares" and eventually made him an ultimatum-- baby or I leave.

[eradicator]

I missed the part about how she is married to a Thai guy. She is already married, it's his baby(under the law)

[Vacancier Permanent]

Fisto,
Sorry to hear about this man! I'm not a lawyer nor have any first hand experience or knowledge of similar situations, but what I can modestly suggest is to look for ways to secure a 2nd passport ASAP. Look into your family tree and see if you have any link to another country, even going as back as your great great grand parents. Preferably if they were from European countries. If that doesn't apply, look into the Paraguayan passport which is not hard to get and it would allow you travel pretty much anywhere visa free except the US.

In the meantime, get a 10 year US passport.

Get all your money out of your account and give it to a family member orw someone you really can trust with your life. Preferably a male, unless its your mother.

Create some extra layer of confusion by say buying a cheap ticket to say Europe with your credit card that you won't show up for. Heck I wouldn't even fly, I'd hop on a cargo ship to get you across the Pacific to anywhere in Asia, where you could recreate a life for yourself there. I hear fighters can have a good lifestyle in Japan, LOS or even China. You could easily disappear there, go under radar for years and totally disappear. You could start a fighting school and life comfortably off of that while banging hot lizards there.

I realize this is more geared towards an escape type of solution than legal ways of handling this in the US. I really hope that you find a way out of this mess either by your smooth talking the girl ore through your lawyer. If not then relocating to Asia is your best option to avoid 18 years if servitude to the state and that bitch through child support on a kid that may or may not be yours.

All the best man!

[Mikev75]

If the girl is crazy and brazen enough to steal your sperm to inseminate herself, you need to consider the possibility she may have lied about a lot of what she told you.

If she's so rich, why does she have a Green Card marriage to a Thai guy? What's in it for her?

Is she currently living with him?

If there's any way you could contact her rich daddy, that's one way to go hardcore on her. Even if you have to find someone to translate the letter to his language, tell her exactly what you will say to him. (Only threaten her with this if you can actually pull it off.)

Tell her father:
You are a nomad who has girlfriends in every port and no set residence. You never intend to settle down, marry or have kids. If you don't have a college degree, emphasize that to him. Same if you don't have a lot of money or a prestigious job. His daughter is going to look like a big whore, being a single mother with a half white (or whatever your race) kid and no dad in the picture while still married to some Thai man.

It sounds like she's pretty FOB, so she and her family will still be susceptible to shaming.

Obviously don't give away too much info about yourself in the letter which would make it easier for them to find you.

[Arg expert]

(11-03-2013 04:35 PM)worldwidetraveler Wrote:  

(11-03-2013 04:31 PM)Fisto Wrote:  

I'm 99.9% sure it's mine. This girl has slept with one other guy in her life.

I have to assume she's going to carry it to term. She's obsessed with me.

Well, if it was me, I wouldn't try running from it. I think making myself available in order to defend myself would be a better alternative. I would rather be there when discussing child support payments (after taking a dna test to confirm).

I just don't think it's possible to run from this but maybe some of our lawyers here can pop in with some advice. I would still tell her never to contact me and I would not have anything to do with her or the kid. Maybe that will knock some sense into her.

Edited to add: Never admit to anything. You don't want to give her anything that can be used against you. Cut all contact off.

This is the best advice. Stay in the US and fight. You cannot run from the big arm of US law. If you were from a small weak country, you could skip country, but, the mighty US WILL find you anywhere, at some point and in some way, if they want to. There is no escaping the USA, unless one is a Russian or say, Brazilian citizen. So:

Stay in the US, fight the legal battle, do not ever confirm nor deny anything, orally or in written. Stay mum, let your lawyer act.

[Arg expert]

(11-04-2013 04:52 AM)Vacancier Permanent Wrote:  

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In the meantime, get a 10 year US passport.

Get all your money out of your account and give it to a family member or someone you really can trust with your life. Preferably a male, unless its your mother.

Create some extra layer of confusion ........

I realize this is more geared towards an escape type of solution : YES!

All the best man!

Vacancier, your post is very accurate and surprisingly well detailed, but the good solutions you are describing are only useful for people in like, desperate legal situations. Child support is not, I think, terrifying enough for Fisto to go that much under the radar and drop his life altogether...

Well, unless child support in the USA is a terrible atrocious constraint, I dunno, being European... but still, your counter measures, though excellent, seem extreme, to me, considering it's only child support we're talkin about here...

[Aliblahba]

I promise you that if Osama was wanted for back child support, they'd have found him a whole lot quicker.

[CactusCat589]

Isn't the husband always presumed to be the father in these cases?