1 insights from 11 years abroad
08-01-2012, 02:17 AM
I've been living abroad as a single guy all over the world for well over a decade now.
Here are some lessons and hard truths that I've discovered over time.
1. At this point in my life, there's nothing that turns me off more than a girl flapping her mouth with an American, English, or Australian accent. Yes, there was a time when an American co-ed, a posh English bird, or an Australian beach babe would get me hard and make me go after it. No more. And it's not just me either. I know plenty of men, who had a lot of success back home, realize they're much more likely to find a sexier, more feminine woman abroad elsewhere.
2. What makes guys settle down isn't the desire to fall in love, it's the effort it takes to go out and hunt. In other words, guys simply get tired of hitting the bars, the clubs, the pavement all the time, just to be able to add to his pussy rotation. Let's face it. We all get lazy as we get older. Hustling like a young guy is something you want to do in spot instances, not all the time. Conversely, this means that the stronger your Jedi hold on the non-effort based flow of easy pussy that passes through your life, the less likely it is that you'll be tempted to couple-up long-term.
3. Most women, esp. from developing countries, have their eyes on the prize. The prize is usually relationship security with a guy who can provide a nice pad, sufficient dough, and a lifestyle they wouldn't have access to otherwise. Sure, they need to be able to laugh and talk with the guy as well, but don't be fooled. You're not all that special despite what you may think about your looks, your body, or your game.
4. This segways into my next point. My greatest gains in knocking out high-quality snatch on a semi-regular basis came from moving to a Post-Soviet country and significantly increasing my monthly expenses. Having a beautiful house in a prestigious part of town was the killer. Once they saw where and how I lived, it was as if their nesting instincts were triggered and mating season was on.
5. Being able to give a girl powerful orgasms keeps them hooked. This goes both ways, as I've come to realize that sex with select women is simply superior to sex with most women. And it doesn't come down entirely to looks. It's all about chemistry and what gets you off. There's one sexy Polish girl that I saw on and off for well over 5 years. I don't think we had one shag session when she didn't at least cum 2-3 times. Needless to say, she was *always* willing to spread it for me on demand. I'd go over to her place at 3am in the morning, stinking of whiskey, bang on her window, and she'd open the door and let me drill her while she was half asleep.
6. Expat circles and Couch Surfing have the least attractive women around. It never ceases to amaze me how social circles that are composed of mostly expats, or even worse, the "Couch Surfing" crew, are composed of overweight, asymmetrical-faced women regardless of what country you're in. The only exception to this are the girlfriends of expat guys, which is usually the reason why they guys are in the country in the first place. Having said that, you need the companionship of other guys in your situation while abroad, for your own sanity. So don't burn any bridges and maintain these ties.
7. There's always somewhere else. There's always another country, another town, where you hear rumors and whispers that it's the land of ever-lasting poontang. Where the women are young, hot, and all over you like swarming piranhas in the Amazon. These stories are usually false. But sometimes, just sometimes, you will find a place that fits your looks, your personality, and your stage in life. When you do, cherish that time, because it's fleeting and may not come around again. To quote a cliche, live in the moment instead of always trying to look for the next best thing.
8. Money makes it all go around. Guys who can't even afford to travel, much less expat it for a decade, know this more keenly than most. Keep your eyes fixed firmly on your cash supply and monthly income. You must keep this going. You must keep this growing, because chances are, whatever paradise you stumbled onto will get more expensive, not less, over time. You do not want to have to compete for jobs with the locals. You do not want to be on a local salary in a developing country. You do not want to be beholden to a supervisor who can decide to fire or transfer you and end the bachelor-optimized life you've set up abroad.
9. Having a kid is not the end of the world. Sure, it changes your life. But a variety of experiences, not things, make a life memorable. It brings responsibility and a certain amount of life perspective to have to worry about someone other than yourself for a change. My only advice on this would be research carefully how child support gets calculated in the country you have legal residence in. And if you're going to knock a girl up, make sure it's someone attractive and who's going to be a good mom.
10. Keep balance in your life. Chasing young pussy may be what makes us feel alive as men. But I can guarantee you it will fuck you up over time if that's your only hobby. Your health, your intellect, and a greater purpose in life are all important to keep you on a sustainable path instead of regressing into destructive adolescence. Take it from me. When I lost my health due to late nights, alcohol, and lack of daily cardio, the last thing I wanted to do was shag women. Doing the same boring shit for work every day on the other hand nearly drove me to numbing depression. It's the constant creative striving for unexplored horizons that makes men who we are.
11. Enough with the generalities. If you want to know where I think the pussy hotspots are of the moment, here they are: Philippines, Vietnam, China, South Korea, Japan, Poland, Estonia, Finland, Moldova, Romania, Lithuania, Far Eastern Russia, Brazil & South American interior (non-capital cities). Yes, it's going to depend on a lot of other factors. As an example, I just don't have that much luck with Russian or Brazilian women. In fact, I find most Russian women to be a turn off with their hot-cold attitudes. But another guy I know, who happens to be 6'6" tall and bald, slays these women like no one else I've ever seen. Certain archetypes trigger primal urges in women, so if you find a nationality that finds you to be eye candy, recognize that and enjoy it.
Here are some lessons and hard truths that I've discovered over time.
1. At this point in my life, there's nothing that turns me off more than a girl flapping her mouth with an American, English, or Australian accent. Yes, there was a time when an American co-ed, a posh English bird, or an Australian beach babe would get me hard and make me go after it. No more. And it's not just me either. I know plenty of men, who had a lot of success back home, realize they're much more likely to find a sexier, more feminine woman abroad elsewhere.
2. What makes guys settle down isn't the desire to fall in love, it's the effort it takes to go out and hunt. In other words, guys simply get tired of hitting the bars, the clubs, the pavement all the time, just to be able to add to his pussy rotation. Let's face it. We all get lazy as we get older. Hustling like a young guy is something you want to do in spot instances, not all the time. Conversely, this means that the stronger your Jedi hold on the non-effort based flow of easy pussy that passes through your life, the less likely it is that you'll be tempted to couple-up long-term.
3. Most women, esp. from developing countries, have their eyes on the prize. The prize is usually relationship security with a guy who can provide a nice pad, sufficient dough, and a lifestyle they wouldn't have access to otherwise. Sure, they need to be able to laugh and talk with the guy as well, but don't be fooled. You're not all that special despite what you may think about your looks, your body, or your game.
4. This segways into my next point. My greatest gains in knocking out high-quality snatch on a semi-regular basis came from moving to a Post-Soviet country and significantly increasing my monthly expenses. Having a beautiful house in a prestigious part of town was the killer. Once they saw where and how I lived, it was as if their nesting instincts were triggered and mating season was on.
5. Being able to give a girl powerful orgasms keeps them hooked. This goes both ways, as I've come to realize that sex with select women is simply superior to sex with most women. And it doesn't come down entirely to looks. It's all about chemistry and what gets you off. There's one sexy Polish girl that I saw on and off for well over 5 years. I don't think we had one shag session when she didn't at least cum 2-3 times. Needless to say, she was *always* willing to spread it for me on demand. I'd go over to her place at 3am in the morning, stinking of whiskey, bang on her window, and she'd open the door and let me drill her while she was half asleep.
6. Expat circles and Couch Surfing have the least attractive women around. It never ceases to amaze me how social circles that are composed of mostly expats, or even worse, the "Couch Surfing" crew, are composed of overweight, asymmetrical-faced women regardless of what country you're in. The only exception to this are the girlfriends of expat guys, which is usually the reason why they guys are in the country in the first place. Having said that, you need the companionship of other guys in your situation while abroad, for your own sanity. So don't burn any bridges and maintain these ties.
7. There's always somewhere else. There's always another country, another town, where you hear rumors and whispers that it's the land of ever-lasting poontang. Where the women are young, hot, and all over you like swarming piranhas in the Amazon. These stories are usually false. But sometimes, just sometimes, you will find a place that fits your looks, your personality, and your stage in life. When you do, cherish that time, because it's fleeting and may not come around again. To quote a cliche, live in the moment instead of always trying to look for the next best thing.
8. Money makes it all go around. Guys who can't even afford to travel, much less expat it for a decade, know this more keenly than most. Keep your eyes fixed firmly on your cash supply and monthly income. You must keep this going. You must keep this growing, because chances are, whatever paradise you stumbled onto will get more expensive, not less, over time. You do not want to have to compete for jobs with the locals. You do not want to be on a local salary in a developing country. You do not want to be beholden to a supervisor who can decide to fire or transfer you and end the bachelor-optimized life you've set up abroad.
9. Having a kid is not the end of the world. Sure, it changes your life. But a variety of experiences, not things, make a life memorable. It brings responsibility and a certain amount of life perspective to have to worry about someone other than yourself for a change. My only advice on this would be research carefully how child support gets calculated in the country you have legal residence in. And if you're going to knock a girl up, make sure it's someone attractive and who's going to be a good mom.
10. Keep balance in your life. Chasing young pussy may be what makes us feel alive as men. But I can guarantee you it will fuck you up over time if that's your only hobby. Your health, your intellect, and a greater purpose in life are all important to keep you on a sustainable path instead of regressing into destructive adolescence. Take it from me. When I lost my health due to late nights, alcohol, and lack of daily cardio, the last thing I wanted to do was shag women. Doing the same boring shit for work every day on the other hand nearly drove me to numbing depression. It's the constant creative striving for unexplored horizons that makes men who we are.
11. Enough with the generalities. If you want to know where I think the pussy hotspots are of the moment, here they are: Philippines, Vietnam, China, South Korea, Japan, Poland, Estonia, Finland, Moldova, Romania, Lithuania, Far Eastern Russia, Brazil & South American interior (non-capital cities). Yes, it's going to depend on a lot of other factors. As an example, I just don't have that much luck with Russian or Brazilian women. In fact, I find most Russian women to be a turn off with their hot-cold attitudes. But another guy I know, who happens to be 6'6" tall and bald, slays these women like no one else I've ever seen. Certain archetypes trigger primal urges in women, so if you find a nationality that finds you to be eye candy, recognize that and enjoy it.
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