[aries569]

I'm 23, fairly new to game, hoping to get some perspective on a place i know a lot of guys on this forum have been in and succesfully gotten through.

Recently I've been on a bit of a dry spell. well a major major dry spell, mostly due to geographics and not having my shit together financially since graduating college a year ago, but that's another story.

Specifically, all the magic has dried up for me since leaving the magic land of pussy that is arizona state university and moving back home. My past year has basically consisted of a cycle that has now repeated twice.

1) I do nothing, watch porn in the evenings and don't put any effort into gaming girls.
2) I get sick of porn, put out a major effort for a week or two and get a bunch of numbers.
3) An overwhelming majority flake out. some right away, others after a lunch date, others i just dont want to see again.
4) I lose all motivation because it feels like a waste of time until i'm in a place of power (ie not being broke, being late 20's, re-established as an alpha in some social group/work/whatever) and until i'm not just one of a hundred choices that every girl, from fat to ugly, has

This week I was very optimistic. I had a date lined up with a different girl Mon-Thurs night. It's wednesday evening and they've all flaked now.... How do i get past the just not giving a fuck anymore feeling to go and get laid?

Since my senior year in high school where I was one of the best athletes in the county, I've never had to work for women... I've always had an aura that attracted them magically. It's finally gone, and I feel like a 23 year old virgin who has no clue what the hell he is doing. help.

[BortimusPrime]

Leave the porn alone, after a few days you'll be climbing the walls and that'll motivate you.

Also, you're worrying too much about your social status. You're at an age where bullshitting about your future career plans will work in lieu of actually having a career. Girls don't care about your career until they hit their early 30s and are hunting for a beta meal ticket.

[Docter]

Your aura isn't gone, you just think it is. You don't lose that shit.

Post some actual numbers, because you may think you're doing a lot but that's arguable.

[Deluge]

Go buy Day Bang if you hadn't already. Roosh gives some good anti-flaking tactics.

[Riker]

Keep going man. Read Daybang, even if you have to ask someone on here to send it illegally to you. Sorry Roosh. But seriously, spend the 20 bucks on it. Keep going out with an open mind to places you like, opening wherever you can, and being the cool dude you are and have always been. I think you'll get through all this and laugh about it later.

[aries569]

a lot of valuable insight. I was feeling pretty frustrated, but I think a lot of that has to do with me not being completely honest with myself. Posting on here has shown me i sound like a whiny bitch lol.

I know what it is I need to do, and more than anything its just a shift back to that mindset where I have the aura. After thinking about it, Docter is right, it doesn't disappear, the thing is I only feel it around attractive women. which means its my phone/txt game that is coming across as desperate and needy more than anything.

and Bortimus, right on the money with the porn. an addict is always the last to realize he's addicted... i'm def headed down the wrong path with that, hearing it 'out loud' made me ask myself some tough questions

P-dog and Riker, i'm on it. i read bang a year or two ago, and it totally revolutionized my perspective on end of the night game and last minute resistance. i already started to read daybang a few weeks ago, looks like its time to sack up and actually start applying it though....