Playing catchup with social life compared to your peers, wondering whats right.
06-17-2018, 01:18 AM
Unlike what might be typical for most of the people I am around (upper middle class), I was a late bloomer in regards to my social life and even with women. They say college is supposed to be the prime of your social life but that was not the case for me. I was socially isolated and at one point even thought about suicide, and I mean seriously thought about it, before finally starting to break free from that mindset and turning my life around. Life has come a long way since then......
I didn't hit my stride until after college when I moved to a major city, got roommates and lived in a younger part of that city. Now that is when my social life started to blossom and I felt like I had friends to go out with and parties to go to, this makes me feel like my life experience is far from typical. I've always felt like kind of a misfit compared to what is normal, guess that is what led me to this forum in the first place.
Then I think more about the kids who did get it right in their college and even as early as high school days. A lot of them built up their friend base in those years whether it was through Greek Life or whatever it may have been. It seems like these guys can just use people from their college days to easily meet others in the same situation as them: younger and only a few years out of college. Almost like the whole phenomenon of once you have something, it is easier to get more of it (money, women, etc.). These guys can use social circle game a lot more easily to not only meet women but also get more job opportunities from their network, know where the best party is at, the hottest spots in town and the list goes on.
Guess I am trying to compare myself more to those kids now since it seemed like they had it figured out earlier.
I found that having a social life for me, when it was at its peak, made it very easy for me to meet women. Not only was it through social circle game but also having friends to go out to bars or clubs with meant that I could be more outcome independent as opposed to going out by myself and having to be there just to get pussy. I also found that through friends I was able to find the hottest parties, best events and even had my energy levels up because I felt like I wasn't out alone.
Now as I progress into my twenties, even though the years right after college were really fun, I am left with some questions regarding social life.
Is it as doable to find friends to do fun shit with around my age once I get to my late twenties or even leave my twenties?
How big of an impact will changing from one major city to the next have on my social life?
Most importantly.
What's normal for social life as you progress into your 20s or even 30s anyways?
I actually didn't know college was going to be hardcore partying with a lot of Greek Life politics until I got there and then looking back at it, definitely paid the price for not knowing that. Now I am left wondering what's normal for most people to do with their social life assuming they don't want to get married and have kids as they move into their twenties.
Starting to wonder for how long a guy can actually maintain the lifestyle of going out, hooking up with randoms, partying and living that sort of life until it is time to settle down. I have taken a break from it in recent weeks due to not feeling as well and things going on with family back home but that is starting to improve so I'll resuming my life as normal in a month or so.
I didn't hit my stride until after college when I moved to a major city, got roommates and lived in a younger part of that city. Now that is when my social life started to blossom and I felt like I had friends to go out with and parties to go to, this makes me feel like my life experience is far from typical. I've always felt like kind of a misfit compared to what is normal, guess that is what led me to this forum in the first place.
Then I think more about the kids who did get it right in their college and even as early as high school days. A lot of them built up their friend base in those years whether it was through Greek Life or whatever it may have been. It seems like these guys can just use people from their college days to easily meet others in the same situation as them: younger and only a few years out of college. Almost like the whole phenomenon of once you have something, it is easier to get more of it (money, women, etc.). These guys can use social circle game a lot more easily to not only meet women but also get more job opportunities from their network, know where the best party is at, the hottest spots in town and the list goes on.
Guess I am trying to compare myself more to those kids now since it seemed like they had it figured out earlier.
I found that having a social life for me, when it was at its peak, made it very easy for me to meet women. Not only was it through social circle game but also having friends to go out to bars or clubs with meant that I could be more outcome independent as opposed to going out by myself and having to be there just to get pussy. I also found that through friends I was able to find the hottest parties, best events and even had my energy levels up because I felt like I wasn't out alone.
Now as I progress into my twenties, even though the years right after college were really fun, I am left with some questions regarding social life.
Is it as doable to find friends to do fun shit with around my age once I get to my late twenties or even leave my twenties?
How big of an impact will changing from one major city to the next have on my social life?
Most importantly.
What's normal for social life as you progress into your 20s or even 30s anyways?
I actually didn't know college was going to be hardcore partying with a lot of Greek Life politics until I got there and then looking back at it, definitely paid the price for not knowing that. Now I am left wondering what's normal for most people to do with their social life assuming they don't want to get married and have kids as they move into their twenties.
Starting to wonder for how long a guy can actually maintain the lifestyle of going out, hooking up with randoms, partying and living that sort of life until it is time to settle down. I have taken a break from it in recent weeks due to not feeling as well and things going on with family back home but that is starting to improve so I'll resuming my life as normal in a month or so.