Quote: (06-13-2018 05:35 PM)Delta Wrote:
So while I don't dispute the merit of building yourself up first, for my own situation, "where to look for quality girls" is actually the heart of the issue. I'm also considering a move to the city to make it easier to meet people, but the consensus around here of "city girls are sluts who are not LTR worthy" gives me pause. So I was especially wondering if anyone has had success finding good girls in a city environment.
Where to look?
If you're not in a city then you're setting yourself back because all the motivated, driven, beautiful and 'high value' women flock to metropolitan areas to have a higher chance of landing YOU and setting their futures up.
I said this earlier, forget about what other people and guys say. A lot of bitter guys everywhere. A lot of men who focus on the 2 girls who were bitches instead of the 32 who were pleasant.
Go to the city and check it out for yourself.
Step 1 - Define what women want
Short term: Sexy, attractive and able to spike emotions.
Longer term: A man who is confident and provides security in one way or another.
Step 2 - What do you offer?
Be honest and come to an understanding as to who you are and what you have to offer a woman. Consider what women want (or at least your understanding of it).
Step 3 - What kind of woman do you deserve and is that less than what you want?
List all the desirable traits. Do some serious soul searching. Tear your list to shreds with counter points and put yourself on the line.
If you feel you deserve less than what you want, you have to work on yourself.
Step 4 - Where do women with these traits congregate?
List all the places within reasonable proximity that you think they would.
List the time. Check your schedule. Action > inaction.
Step 5 - Juxtaposition of where they hang out vs what you enjoy and is congruent
No point going to places for the sake of meeting women if you ain't enjoying yourself. Refer to my original list of 'places'.
- Are you able to showcase your strengths at these places?
- Is networking viable?
- Are they fun, beneficial places?
Step 6 - Visit the places, get a feel for the vibe and re-edit list
You may enjoy markets but hate yoga. You may enjoy cooking classes but despise grocery shopping and do it online.
Don't go out of your way to meet women for the sake of women.
Some places will be duds and have shitty ratios. Other places will be goldmines.
Step 7 - Keep your self-improvement going (this is constant) and audit your time/money spent on this experiment
That's right, this is an experiment.
I came up with this off the top of my head in 6 minutes.
Be a problem solver and tinker with an experiment, go and implement it. Get feedback on it and come back and refine.
Too many guys on this forum are stuck in analysis paralysis.
Keep the momentum going with your gym, $$, network, happiness, hobbies, projects, harem, investments, whatever.
The most mindblowing thing I heard in the past week was from a very successful guy I know.
He was telling me how he spends his free time and he casually mentions "I start new projects and work on them".
Yep, he doesn't wait for the perfect idea.
He gets a shit idea and refines it to the point where he can tell if it's got potential or not. Weekly experiments with new ideas. He comes back to old ones sometimes. He archives others.
We are all full of ideas, some shit, some great yet all are unrefined. This experiment is an example of such and something you should strive to do.
It's easy to come to the forum and ask for advice but then you're picky and follow the advice that's easiest or resonates with you the most.
If you didn't know what you had to do before, you certainly aren't going to decide now.
To everyone, not just OP, start experimenting.
We have discovered maybe 30% (generously) of what makes gina's tingle and women succumb to our greatness.
The rest is there for us to figure out and that's the excitement.