Who are your friends?
Interesting read, but his definition for friend inmo is too broad.
Most people who you think are your friends are not really your friends.
Shit, I've come to find out that for most of us our best friends are our parents.
You can commit mass murder and your parents will stand by you on national television.
Think of all the insignificant bullshit that ends "friendships".
Shit, I've come to find out that for most of us our best friends are our parents.
You can commit mass murder and your parents will stand by you on national television.
Think of all the insignificant bullshit that ends "friendships".
BTW, what do you Altucher readers think about some of his posts such as "Abolish the Presidency" and "10 Commandments of the American Religion"?
I like Altucher, controversy is his deal and is what he traffics in. I find it cute like when Ron Paul says get rid of the department of education. Interesting thought exercise but it wont happen so ....
Friendship means something different to every culture, I've noticed. Some of my better friends have been international students I've met in college. The others have been kids from first generation immigrant families. My American friends and I, on the other hand, have a different sort of friendship. I can't go too deep into my thoughts with my American friends, because a lot of times they end up judging, while putting themselves on an idealistic higher ground. With my international friends, on the other hand, we can share stories that some of my American friends would consider "perverted." I can tell my international friends my weird thoughts and we can share the peculiarities in our world. With my American friends (the majority of them anyway) I always have to pretend I am "clean." This is just my experience.
To me, a friend is someone that will TELL YOU when you're at your worst, but will still stand by you despite if it.
This is why women really dont have true friendships.
Most American women dress like shit. Everyone in the room knows they're dressed like shit, even the other girls they walked in with, but none of those girls will tell her.
Two guys meet up to go out, one looks a hot mess, his friend will tell him "man, you look like shit, fix your shirt and lets roll"
Clothing is a trivial, but effective, example
This is why women really dont have true friendships.
Most American women dress like shit. Everyone in the room knows they're dressed like shit, even the other girls they walked in with, but none of those girls will tell her.
Two guys meet up to go out, one looks a hot mess, his friend will tell him "man, you look like shit, fix your shirt and lets roll"
Clothing is a trivial, but effective, example
A lot of people don't make the distinction between friends and activity partners, who are people brought together by some [probably temporary] common interest. All genuine friends start off as activity partners and then the friendship deepens over time when they've been through enough bonding experiences together. Most people have no more than 2 or 3 actual friends. Many have none. Then I guess you have those people that seem to straddle the line between both categories. Those you might not be super close with but who you might still hang out with from time to time just to "catch up."
My litmus test for true friends is who would come out to visit me if moved away? That is assuming I didn't move to Paris or Manhattan or some place people are dying to visit anyway with benefit of a free couch to crash on. If I moved to Pittsburg or St. Louis, which of my friends would stay in touch and come out and visit some time? Those are my true friends.
My litmus test for true friends is who would come out to visit me if moved away? That is assuming I didn't move to Paris or Manhattan or some place people are dying to visit anyway with benefit of a free couch to crash on. If I moved to Pittsburg or St. Louis, which of my friends would stay in touch and come out and visit some time? Those are my true friends.
@Speakeasy thanks for that advice! Its a great litmus test! You can only tell your true friends in times of hardship. The problem is nobody wants to wait for shit to hit the fan. Ive thought about doing a "true friend test" where I call people at 3 am or some terribly inconvenient time and say im stranded in my car and whoever comes out I give em $100 and tell him he passed the true friend test and Ive got his back for life. The $100 is so they arent to pissed about driving out to rescue me under false pretenses. Im sure most of us would be disappointed how little money we spend doing this exercise...
I have only two people that I consider real friends. It's like that because I've called them when I need something and there they are, or I'm in a bad situation and there they are.
Even though, I still am very careful. You can't trust anybody 100%. Most of the time people who you think are friends are just taking advantage andstuff. I think that's one of the best skills I've learned: identifying that kind of people.
I did that last year, and it feels so good. Fuck it, life is too short to spend time with people who don't bring anything positive to your life.
Even though, I still am very careful. You can't trust anybody 100%. Most of the time people who you think are friends are just taking advantage andstuff. I think that's one of the best skills I've learned: identifying that kind of people.
Quote: (09-14-2011 01:06 PM)mofo Wrote:
It's very fucking important, who you hang out with. Choose your friends very carefully. Break contact with people who put you down. Mercilessly.
I did that last year, and it feels so good. Fuck it, life is too short to spend time with people who don't bring anything positive to your life.
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