[Babablacksheep]

(09-03-2017 11:16 AM)Jetset Wrote:  

Hemsworth's wife. Legend has it she's angry that nobody understands what a famous model she is outside of Spain.



That's the "I haven't gotten head from this bitch in a month" face.

Stay safe out there, OP. Maybe you can become President someday.

Of France, I mean.

Thanks!! I wish something of the same proportion for you..

[h3ltrsk3ltr]

"I'm telling you for the last time, STOP SKIPPING LEG DAY!"

[Svoboda]

(09-03-2017 10:56 AM)h3ltrsk3ltr Wrote:  

@ Jackman's wife...

That's not even the worst picture.

[Babablacksheep]

The fling after sharing the news..she wants to keep chatting.

[Synezthetic]

(09-03-2017 10:07 AM)Babablacksheep Wrote:  

Ok, I have taken care of the situation by simply lying to the fling about telling my LTR and asking my brother not to share any details about me with the fling. Also disabling my fb account. The fling kind of wanted justice for the LTR so i told her the LTR threw stuff on me and one them landed on the wrong spot. Poetic justice served to myself.

PS- i had added the fling to my fb when me. her and my brother were just hanging out. After my brother the left the hostel for another town, she changed the angle to a sexual one.

Good play - next time be smarter. Social media is always the death of these things.
I was in a similar situation years ago and the Fling didn't take my word that I told my LTR...

Lost them both and spent a year in depression before crawling out and building myself up again.

[Jetset]

(09-03-2017 12:24 PM)Babablacksheep Wrote:  

The fling after sharing the news..she wants to keep chatting.

Figured this was coming.

She doesn't want justice, she wants drama. She's hoping you'll lose your fiancee over her so she can crown herself the queen of your dick instead of being the irrelevant Other Woman.

In the future, if you're going to do this, you can't just be letting strange bitches into your real social media profiles and giving them your regular phone number.

That's wisdom even if you're single.

So your brother doesn't know the two of you banged?

[Suits]

She's not your LTR. She's your girlfriend.

[Old SEA Dog]

(09-02-2017 01:38 PM)Babablacksheep Wrote:  

Hi Guys,
I have a steady gf in the USA whom i am planning to get married to next year.
The best woman i have ever met, takes care of me, is not possessive and never drinks etc. She is a single mother and 5 years elder than me.

When i was about to leave for my home country for a trip, my LTR told me i should tell her if any thing happens involving any woman on the trip.

I did not put any conscious effort but ended up a fling with a english girl (19 yr old) at the hostel. She is a slutty kind whom wants to call me daddy. I should say she was the one who took initiatives.

My brother was staying with me at the hostel and she has him in his friend list as well. My brother knows about my LTR and is friendly with her.

It got messy when i told the british slut girl about my LTR back home after returning to the USA since she was planning on coming to USA to meet me and stuff.

Now she insists that i tell everything to my LTR or she will ( i have not idea how she will since she does not know her name etc) but she is has friended me in facebook as well. She wants to remain friends in future ..

Your LTR, who is NOT possessive (you say), TOLD you that you should tell her if anything happens involving a woman on the trip. Now, I can see two possibilities here. One, she is not possessive but wants to know, perhaps to protect herself from possible STD, or for whatever reason. If that's your assessment of your LTR, you should have told her like she asked! Two, she is a regular possessive and jealous girl and you should have refused the request up front. You chose to allow her to believe that you will tell her and then you chose not to tell her. Now, that's what I call cheating. It's not about the philandering: sluts were made to be enjoyed. It's about doing it behind somebody's back as if you are a thief at night. If you would have chosen either one of the two possibilities I outlined, you would be in a much stronger position with the slut. You would be in an especially strong position had you simply told your LTR about the fling. It would also be a good test how possessive she really is.

Last but not least, unless you are doing it to get a Green Card, why exactly do you need to marry your LTR? Or do you need to do it so she can get a visa to your own country? Otherwise, I would not be in a hurry to marry an older woman, especially one who is a mom already, and probably also has an ex in her life, the father of her child(ren). After all, when you have children you cannot fully divorce. Do yourself a favor, cohabit instead.

[Babablacksheep]

(09-04-2017 12:00 AM)Old SEA Dog Wrote:  

(09-02-2017 01:38 PM)Babablacksheep Wrote:  

Hi Guys,
I have a steady gf in the USA whom i am planning to get married to next year.
The best woman i have ever met, takes care of me, is not possessive and never drinks etc. She is a single mother and 5 years elder than me.

When i was about to leave for my home country for a trip, my LTR told me i should tell her if any thing happens involving any woman on the trip.

I did not put any conscious effort but ended up a fling with a english girl (19 yr old) at the hostel. She is a slutty kind whom wants to call me daddy. I should say she was the one who took initiatives.

My brother was staying with me at the hostel and she has him in his friend list as well. My brother knows about my LTR and is friendly with her.

It got messy when i told the british slut girl about my LTR back home after returning to the USA since she was planning on coming to USA to meet me and stuff.

Now she insists that i tell everything to my LTR or she will ( i have not idea how she will since she does not know her name etc) but she is has friended me in facebook as well. She wants to remain friends in future ..

Your LTR, who is NOT possessive (you say), TOLD you that you should tell her if anything happens involving a woman on the trip. Now, I can see two possibilities here. One, she is not possessive but wants to know, perhaps to protect herself from possible STD, or for whatever reason. If that's your assessment of your LTR, you should have told her like she asked! Two, she is a regular possessive and jealous girl and you should have refused the request up front. You chose to allow her to believe that you will tell her and then you chose not to tell her. Now, that's what I call cheating. It's not about the philandering: sluts were made to be enjoyed. It's about doing it behind somebody's back as if you are a thief at night. If you would have chosen either one of the two possibilities I outlined, you would be in a much stronger position with the slut. You would be in an especially strong position had you simply told your LTR about the fling. It would also be a good test how possessive she really is.

Last but not least, unless you are doing it to get a Green Card, why exactly do you need to marry your LTR? Or do you need to do it so she can get a visa to your own country? Otherwise, I would not be in a hurry to marry an older woman, especially one who is a mom already, and probably also has an ex in her life, the father of her child(ren). After all, when you have children you cannot fully divorce. Do yourself a favor, cohabit instead.

I think the reason she needs to know to be safe off STD. i used protection with the fling so thats something i took care of.

Yes i am planning on getting a green card. In the 7 months we have lived in, we have never ever had major fight. She is completely over her ex, her kid loves me and calls me the best dad. I don't want to be blowing the trumpet she does take good care of me. Makes me delicious and healthy food, the sex is good and we have great conversations on varying topics.

Regarding my cheating, i just don't want to screw up what i have.

[Svoboda]

(09-04-2017 10:43 AM)Babablacksheep Wrote:  

(09-04-2017 12:00 AM)Old SEA Dog Wrote:  

(09-02-2017 01:38 PM)Babablacksheep Wrote:  

Hi Guys,
I have a steady gf in the USA whom i am planning to get married to next year.
The best woman i have ever met, takes care of me, is not possessive and never drinks etc. She is a single mother and 5 years elder than me.

When i was about to leave for my home country for a trip, my LTR told me i should tell her if any thing happens involving any woman on the trip.

I did not put any conscious effort but ended up a fling with a english girl (19 yr old) at the hostel. She is a slutty kind whom wants to call me daddy. I should say she was the one who took initiatives.

My brother was staying with me at the hostel and she has him in his friend list as well. My brother knows about my LTR and is friendly with her.

It got messy when i told the british slut girl about my LTR back home after returning to the USA since she was planning on coming to USA to meet me and stuff.

Now she insists that i tell everything to my LTR or she will ( i have not idea how she will since she does not know her name etc) but she is has friended me in facebook as well. She wants to remain friends in future ..

Your LTR, who is NOT possessive (you say), TOLD you that you should tell her if anything happens involving a woman on the trip. Now, I can see two possibilities here. One, she is not possessive but wants to know, perhaps to protect herself from possible STD, or for whatever reason. If that's your assessment of your LTR, you should have told her like she asked! Two, she is a regular possessive and jealous girl and you should have refused the request up front. You chose to allow her to believe that you will tell her and then you chose not to tell her. Now, that's what I call cheating. It's not about the philandering: sluts were made to be enjoyed. It's about doing it behind somebody's back as if you are a thief at night. If you would have chosen either one of the two possibilities I outlined, you would be in a much stronger position with the slut. You would be in an especially strong position had you simply told your LTR about the fling. It would also be a good test how possessive she really is.

Last but not least, unless you are doing it to get a Green Card, why exactly do you need to marry your LTR? Or do you need to do it so she can get a visa to your own country? Otherwise, I would not be in a hurry to marry an older woman, especially one who is a mom already, and probably also has an ex in her life, the father of her child(ren). After all, when you have children you cannot fully divorce. Do yourself a favor, cohabit instead.

I think the reason she needs to know to be safe off STD. i used protection with the fling so thats something i took care of.

Yes i am planning on getting a green card. In the 7 months we have lived in, we have never ever had major fight. She is completely over her ex, her kid loves me and calls me the best dad. I don't want to be blowing the trumpet she does take good care of me. Makes me delicious and healthy food, the sex is good and we have great conversations on varying topics.

Regarding my cheating, i just don't want to screw up what i have.

Just continue to cohabitate. No need to mess up your (what you consider) awesome situation with all the stress of a wedding.

[Alpharius]

(09-02-2017 01:38 PM)Babablacksheep Wrote:  

Hi Guys,
I have a steady gf in the USA whom i am planning to get married to next year.
The best woman i have ever met, takes care of me, is not possessive and never drinks etc. She is a single mother and 5 years elder than me.

Let's ignore this mistake for now. The impossible we'll solve immediately, the unimaginable will take some time.

(09-02-2017 01:38 PM)Babablacksheep Wrote:  

When i was about to leave for my home country for a trip, my LTR told me i should tell her if any thing happens involving any woman on the trip.

Was this said with her expecting you to bang another chick? Did you repeatedly tell her you were going to sleep with other women on your trip, and did she repeatedly acknowledge and encourage this? Or was this an offhand comment she made as you were packing your bags?

(09-02-2017 01:38 PM)Babablacksheep Wrote:  

I did not put any conscious effort but ended up a fling with a english girl (19 yr old) at the hostel. She is a slutty kind whom wants to call me daddy. I should say she was the one who took initiatives.

So you managed to do something right, all is not lost.

(09-02-2017 01:38 PM)Babablacksheep Wrote:  

My brother was staying with me at the hostel and she has him in his friend list as well. My brother knows about my LTR and is friendly with her.

It got messy when i told the british slut girl about my LTR back home after returning to the USA since she was planning on coming to USA to meet me and stuff.

Now she insists that i tell everything to my LTR or she will ( i have not idea how she will since she does not know her name etc) but she is has friended me in facebook as well. She wants to remain friends in future ..

It's not about what some busted thot you met at a hostel wants. It's your life and she has the potential to fuck it up. Tell your brother that you fucked up, and need his help by blocking her. As a man, he should understand.

(09-02-2017 01:38 PM)Babablacksheep Wrote:  

Yes i am planning on getting a green card. In the 7 months we have lived in, we have never ever had major fight. She is completely over her ex, her kid loves me and calls me the best dad. I don't want to be blowing the trumpet she does take good care of me. Makes me delicious and healthy food, the sex is good and we have great conversations on varying topics.

Seven months and you're getting married to this chick? Seven months ain't shit. Experience what she's like during Christmas. Then experience what she's with her family during Christmas. Then experience what she's like with your family during Christmas. Then get rich, go broke, start from scratch, have the worst day of your life, the best day of your life, the most boring day of your life, the scariest day, and hit absolute rock bottom with this chick and see if she's still just as great and supportive throughout it all. Then, GO REREAD THIS. In the meantime, look at all the beautiful women out there who don't have their heart, body, finances, mind, and soul dedicated to a child who is not yours. Keep an eye on all the relationships around you that are born, live, and die all within this time frame for stupid and frivolous reasons. Then, and only then, should you even consider marriage.

In the meantime, you and your bro need to break off all contact with this stupid hostel hoe. It won't end well. Block her and don't look back. Don't even bother to bring it up with your soon to be ex-wife - why start a fire you can't put out?

[Old SEA Dog]

(09-04-2017 10:43 AM)Babablacksheep Wrote:  

I think the reason she needs to know to be safe off STD. i used protection with the fling so thats something i took care of.

Yes i am planning on getting a green card. In the 7 months we have lived in, we have never ever had major fight. She is completely over her ex, her kid loves me and calls me the best dad. I don't want to be blowing the trumpet she does take good care of me. Makes me delicious and healthy food, the sex is good and we have great conversations on varying topics.

Regarding my cheating, i just don't want to screw up what i have.

I may be wrong, but for some reason I assume you have not been married before. There is a famous joke that applies to beta-marriages, according to which the bride smiles because from now on she will not have to suck his dick any more. I may be wrong again, but for some reason I am not yet convinced that this danger does not apply to you too. So my suggestion to you is to assume the worst, calculate your costs and benefits, and minimize your exposure to risks.

To get a permanent Green Card you have to be married for at least two years. If the marriage fails before that, you lose your Green Card and INS will be highly suspicious if you try again with another spouse. In another two years or so you can get citizenship, but otherwise, if you divorce before achieving that, your eligibility for citizenship will be postponed by two additional years. (By the way, I know all that because my current wife is not American and one of the reasons I married her, after years of cohabitation including raising a child together, was precisely so she will be eligible for an unconditional Green Card if and when I return to the US.)

So your benefit marrying her is the accelerated citizenship track. The cost is you must keep the marriage working for at least two years, preferably four, even if you find that it is not as blissful as you expected. You may find what many men find, and that is that marriage can destroy a relationship. The Forum is full of examples and warnings: make sure you heed them. To minimize your risk exposure, even if you have the option (which you probably don't), DO NOT ADOPT her child. For now, assume the marriage will not survive and assume you will leave it with just the clothes on your back. Is the benefit high enough? Do you really believe the risk is low enough? Then marry her. Otherwise, look for another way.

[Bacchus]

(09-04-2017 10:43 AM)Babablacksheep Wrote:  

I think the reason she needs to know to be safe off STD. i used protection with the fling so thats something i took care of.

Yes i am planning on getting a green card. In the 7 months we have lived in, we have never ever had major fight. She is completely over her ex, her kid loves me and calls me the best dad. I don't want to be blowing the trumpet she does take good care of me. Makes me delicious and healthy food, the sex is good and we have great conversations on varying topics.

Regarding my cheating, i just don't want to screw up what i have.

The green card seems to be driving the entire thing. Otherwise, you had tickets to board the Titanic but lost them because you banged a teenage slut. Why not bang more and better sluts until you can find an improvement on a single mother with 5 years on you?

[Old SEA Dog]

(09-04-2017 05:11 PM)Bacchus Wrote:  

(09-04-2017 10:43 AM)Babablacksheep Wrote:  

I think the reason she needs to know to be safe off STD. i used protection with the fling so thats something i took care of.

Yes i am planning on getting a green card. In the 7 months we have lived in, we have never ever had major fight. She is completely over her ex, her kid loves me and calls me the best dad. I don't want to be blowing the trumpet she does take good care of me. Makes me delicious and healthy food, the sex is good and we have great conversations on varying topics.

Regarding my cheating, i just don't want to screw up what i have.

The green card seems to be driving the entire thing. Otherwise, you had tickets to board the Titanic but lost them because you banged a teenage slut. Why not bang more and better sluts until you can find an improvement on a single mother with 5 years on you?

Great minds think alike, of course it is. (Our posts are about 1 minute apart--mine is stamped 10:10 and yours 10:11--which is as good as "crossed.")

[Jetset]

Any woman looking to settle down can behave like the Patron Saint of Unsolicited Blowjobs for a mere seven months. You haven't even witnessed one full seasonal cycle of her moods, yet.

[Babablacksheep]

(09-04-2017 05:54 PM)Jetset Wrote:  

Any woman looking to settle down can behave like the Patron Saint of Unsolicited Blowjobs for a mere seven months. You haven't even witnessed one full seasonal cycle of her moods, yet.

Basically, for me there is more to a woman than a means to getting blowjobs..Thanks for reminding me that i don't belong here. And best of luck with your pursuit of real touristy pussies which will allow you to visit them..

[Babablacksheep]

(09-04-2017 05:33 PM)Old SEA Dog Wrote:  

(09-04-2017 05:11 PM)Bacchus Wrote:  

(09-04-2017 10:43 AM)Babablacksheep Wrote:  

I think the reason she needs to know to be safe off STD. i used protection with the fling so thats something i took care of.

Yes i am planning on getting a green card. In the 7 months we have lived in, we have never ever had major fight. She is completely over her ex, her kid loves me and calls me the best dad. I don't want to be blowing the trumpet she does take good care of me. Makes me delicious and healthy food, the sex is good and we have great conversations on varying topics.

Regarding my cheating, i just don't want to screw up what i have.

The green card seems to be driving the entire thing. Otherwise, you had tickets to board the Titanic but lost them because you banged a teenage slut. Why not bang more and better sluts until you can find an improvement on a single mother with 5 years on you?

Great minds think alike, of course it is. (Our posts are about 1 minute apart--mine is stamped 10:10 and yours 10:11--which is as good as "crossed.")

Bro, i am done thinking with my dick..

[J_Sway]

(09-04-2017 11:31 PM)Babablacksheep Wrote:  

Bro, i am done thinking with my dick..

Well, at least you admit that you've essentially put the rest of your life on the shelf to collect dust. The better response, of course, would be to start thinking with the two little brains hanging below your dick in consort with the one sitting on top of your shoulders.

[Old SEA Dog]

(09-04-2017 11:31 PM)Babablacksheep Wrote:  

(09-04-2017 05:33 PM)Old SEA Dog Wrote:  

(09-04-2017 05:11 PM)Bacchus Wrote:  

(09-04-2017 10:43 AM)Babablacksheep Wrote:  

I think the reason she needs to know to be safe off STD. i used protection with the fling so thats something i took care of.

Yes i am planning on getting a green card. In the 7 months we have lived in, we have never ever had major fight. She is completely over her ex, her kid loves me and calls me the best dad. I don't want to be blowing the trumpet she does take good care of me. Makes me delicious and healthy food, the sex is good and we have great conversations on varying topics.

Regarding my cheating, i just don't want to screw up what i have.

The green card seems to be driving the entire thing. Otherwise, you had tickets to board the Titanic but lost them because you banged a teenage slut. Why not bang more and better sluts until you can find an improvement on a single mother with 5 years on you?

Great minds think alike, of course it is. (Our posts are about 1 minute apart--mine is stamped 10:10 and yours 10:11--which is as good as "crossed.")

Bro, i am done thinking with my dick..

What has "thinking with [the] dick" got to do with Green Cards?

[Babablacksheep]

(09-05-2017 12:13 AM)Old SEA Dog Wrote:  

(09-04-2017 11:31 PM)Babablacksheep Wrote:  

(09-04-2017 05:33 PM)Old SEA Dog Wrote:  

(09-04-2017 05:11 PM)Bacchus Wrote:  

(09-04-2017 10:43 AM)Babablacksheep Wrote:  

I think the reason she needs to know to be safe off STD. i used protection with the fling so thats something i took care of.

Yes i am planning on getting a green card. In the 7 months we have lived in, we have never ever had major fight. She is completely over her ex, her kid loves me and calls me the best dad. I don't want to be blowing the trumpet she does take good care of me. Makes me delicious and healthy food, the sex is good and we have great conversations on varying topics.

Regarding my cheating, i just don't want to screw up what i have.

The green card seems to be driving the entire thing. Otherwise, you had tickets to board the Titanic but lost them because you banged a teenage slut. Why not bang more and better sluts until you can find an improvement on a single mother with 5 years on you?

Great minds think alike, of course it is. (Our posts are about 1 minute apart--mine is stamped 10:10 and yours 10:11--which is as good as "crossed.")

Bro, i am done thinking with my dick..

What has "thinking with [the] dick" got to do with Green Cards?

Was referring to this - The green card seems to be driving the entire thing. Otherwise, you had tickets to board the Titanic but lost them because you banged a teenage slut. Why not bang more and better sluts until you can find an improvement on a single mother with 5 years on you?

I can surely find a young chick to put my dick in if thats what improvement means to you but what i have here is much deeper. I make 6 figures, am 6 ft tall with a good built and good social skills.
Don't you think Huge jackman or chris hemsworth can find someone else.. cmmon guys..

[Suits]

(09-05-2017 12:50 AM)Babablacksheep Wrote:  

I make 6 figures, am 6 ft tall with a good built and good social skills.

(09-02-2017 01:38 PM)Babablacksheep Wrote:  

She is a single mother and 5 years elder than me.

[Jetset]

(09-05-2017 12:50 AM)Babablacksheep Wrote:  

I can surely find a young chick to put my dick in if thats what improvement means to you but what i have here is much deeper. I make 6 figures, am 6 ft tall with a good built and good social skills.
Don't you think Huge jackman or chris hemsworth can find someone else.. cmmon guys..

Desirable men fall into the traps just like all the others. That's why these traps are still in use: because they work. Same for fishing hooks: no major advances in 7,000 years. Fishing hooks are very effective at catching excellent fish, not just the sickly and stupid.

You can do what you want, but this woman is looking for a provider for her kid. Once she feels that she has all the leverage (and she does, because you can't leave if you want your Green Card), there's a high risk that you're going to start hearing bedtime rants whenever you want to spend any of your "six-figure income" on anything other than her and her kid. I can hear her rehearsing her song of dissatisfaction.

"YOU'RE FIVE YEARS YOUNGER THAN ME. YOU HAVE PLENTY OF TIME TO SAVE FOR RETIREMENT. WHY ARE YOU SO SELFISH? YOU MAKE PLENTY OF MONEY. I DON'T KNOW IF THIS IS WORKING OUT. I CAN'T SHAKE THE FEELING THAT I...DESERVE MORE."

You introduced her to us as "a solid 8-9 in looks who is an accomplished artist (apart from having a regular well paying job) and is a 10 in cooking and cleaning". Now it's clear that it's at least somewhat transactional. We're just speaking out of concern that you don't fully grasp what that transaction actually is and how things will change once she's secured the legally-binding agreement marriage. You have more to lose than she does and she's already done that math unless she's just unbelievably stupid.

[PapayaTapper]

OP comes in asking for advice on solving a minor junior-highschool type issue caused by a stupid mistake yet when it comes to the big life-ticket items he's got it all under control.

[Babablacksheep]

(09-05-2017 08:03 AM)Jetset Wrote:  

(09-05-2017 12:50 AM)Babablacksheep Wrote:  

I can surely find a young chick to put my dick in if thats what improvement means to you but what i have here is much deeper. I make 6 figures, am 6 ft tall with a good built and good social skills.
Don't you think Huge jackman or chris hemsworth can find someone else.. cmmon guys..

Desirable men fall into the traps just like all the others. That's why these traps are still in use: because they work. Same for fishing hooks: no major advances in 7,000 years. Fishing hooks are very effective at catching excellent fish, not just the sickly and stupid.

You can do what you want, but this woman is looking for a provider for her kid. Once she feels that she has all the leverage (and she does, because you can't leave if you want your Green Card), there's a high risk that you're going to start hearing bedtime rants whenever you want to spend any of your "six-figure income" on anything other than her and her kid. I can hear her rehearsing her song of dissatisfaction.

"YOU'RE FIVE YEARS YOUNGER THAN ME. YOU HAVE PLENTY OF TIME TO SAVE FOR RETIREMENT. WHY ARE YOU SO SELFISH? YOU MAKE PLENTY OF MONEY. I DON'T KNOW IF THIS IS WORKING OUT. I CAN'T SHAKE THE FEELING THAT I...DESERVE MORE."

You introduced her to us as "a solid 8-9 in looks who is an accomplished artist (apart from having a regular well paying job) and is a 10 in cooking and cleaning". Now it's clear that it's at least somewhat transactional. We're just speaking out of concern that you don't fully grasp what that transaction actually is and how things will change once she's secured the legally-binding agreement marriage. You have more to lose than she does and she's already done that math unless she's just unbelievably stupid.

I know what you are talking about but between my masters and starting the six figure job, i was dependent on her. We went to New York afterwards and she paid her and her kids part entirely.


She encourages me to start on my business idea even after knowing it would mean her supporting me. She makes it a point to give a part of her income for charity. She was brought in a religious conservative family and i see lot of values from that upbringing.

She has also been talking about helping my parents with their house and stuff. I may have got lucky on this one

I dated a couple of Russian chicks, i have a fair idea of red flags for a gold digger. But yeah she does say i am a great example as a man for her kid.

Regarding age difference, I don't think it much of a big deal or something to associate ego with. Snapchat CEO married Miranda Ker who is 7 years older with a kid. Richard Branson (an icon on this forum) is married to 5 years older woman.

I think for a long lasting relationship it more about how much your values match, how much do you enjoy doing simple things together and respect for each other as they are.

[J_Sway]

No one's saying those aren't respectable ideals. And no one is saying your situation isn't exactly what you say it is. Only you know the precise nature and details of your situation. But you better damn well be going into this with your eyes wide the fuck open and every single bit of your brains and your balls working overtime to scout out and logic through any potential pitfalls.

No one faults you for getting some on the side. You definitely could've made better choices regarding the sharing of your information, but what's done is done. Now you just need to clean up the mess and move on.

If this woman is as golden as you say she is, then you need to make damn sure that if you're gonna get froggy in the future and decide to jump a side piece that you do it in a manner that is untraceable and stays disconnected from the life you've built with this woman. Either that, or go full honesty mode and tell her what's up and how its gonna be in the future.

As for red flags. Well, the biggest red flag I see is flying over your head. You're 7 months into a relationship and you're already hamstering your way into a lifetime commitment. That's not a good sign as far as I can see. I am far less worried about her red flags than I am about why you seem so intent on charting out your whole life with this woman after only 7 months.

In the end, its your choice. Just remember: Eyes wide open, all synapses firing, testosterone flowing. You need to be functioning on all cylinders in this situation.