[chico]

Over the past few weeks, I've been regular at the gym, read Bang/Day Bang and hit on a girl who I believe likes me. But it feels like everytime I talk to her she is attracted to me less, and though she gives strong signals to me that I should do something, I never realize until the interaction is over. I feel like she won't give any me any chances soon.

I know it's not a big deal and I should just hit on more girls, but this negativity always slows me down and it's hard to get out of my head and think clearly while I'm talking to these girls. I always feel like I should have said something but never realize it in the moment.

Also, some people I considered friends stabbed me in the back and I've been struggling to improve my GPA at college. Despite the lifting, zinc and fish oil, I still feel like a moody bitch at times (becoming all the time slowly).

How do you stay above the negativity?

[TornadoByProxy]

All negativity comes from inside your own head. You need to address it there. Get control over your thoughts.

For this girl, the next time you see her, ask if she wants to meet up some time. She either says yes or no. Ask her out and get it out of the way. Get past this stress you put on yourself.

[MANic]

I'm glad you're lifting and supplementing - if you haven't done a full blood test I suggest going for one - I had a low vitamin B12 count which decreased concentration, increased anxiety and mimicked depression.
I think you have the solution already. Just go out and interact more. The greater the supply at your finger tips the less you will rely on individual girls. This automatically will make you less needy and confident.
Also just try and occupy your life and fixate less on these issues - meditation might help with this.
Sometimes we just overanalyze - particularly if the interaction is with a special someone. IRL shit isn't like the movies. Even the greatest players don't spit game like James Bond. An error or misspoken word here or there will not impact substantively on your chances.

GPA issue - it's all hard work and I struggle just as much.

Friends- consider it a learning curve. The realisation that you are alone in this world and very few care for your best interests (usually just immediate family)

[UlteriorMotive]

Meditation / deep breathing / keeping a journal / cutting out negative people from my life / getting my T levels checked / bright light therapy (Check TLOZ Thread on it) / going to mountains & getting out into the wilderness.

All these things have helped me to get out of my head.

I'd recommend Gorilla Mindset (Mike Cernovich) the book, I've received a lot from it.

[Lexington Patrick]

Meditating on a defined philosophy of who you are as a man. You have to remind yourself daily that you're the hottest shit going and she's dying to sleep with you. The world is always going to tell you that you suck. You have to counteract that with your own voice.

Make sure you also divorce yourself from expectation. Every girl sucks in bed until proven otherwise so why bother sweating someone you haven't slept with yet?

[Lexington Patrick]

Also, constant action is key. Take it out of your head and put it out there. You want to get with her, then act on it. Thinking shit over is like leaving a cake in the oven for 30 minutes too long

[Anarchist101]

(12-05-2016 01:50 PM)chico Wrote:  

Over the past few weeks, I've been regular at the gym, read Bang/Day Bang and hit on a girl who I believe likes me. But it feels like everytime I talk to her she is attracted to me less, and though she gives strong signals to me that I should do something, I never realize until the interaction is over. I feel like she won't give any me any chances soon.

I know it's not a big deal and I should just hit on more girls, but this negativity always slows me down and it's hard to get out of my head and think clearly while I'm talking to these girls. I always feel like I should have said something but never realize it in the moment.

Also, some people I considered friends stabbed me in the back and I've been struggling to improve my GPA at college. Despite the lifting, zinc and fish oil, I still feel like a moody bitch at times (becoming all the time slowly).

How do you stay above the negativity?

This is cool you wrote about this. I just recently dealt with a similar situation. I am no expert, but I do know how I got over a lass like that.

This is a chick from the donut shop. Beautiful cambodian girl, that looks like she is maybe 5' 1". Sweetest thing on the planet. About 4-5 weeks ago when I bought my motorcycle, my friend and I rode them up to her donut shop. We watched how she talked to other customers, including my friend, but when it was my turn, I gave a good subtle smile and an energetic "Hi". She complimented my jacket, and we talked for probably 7-8 minutes straight until another customer walked in, then we ended abruptly.

Well, long story short, every dang weekend I made a point that I would go up there and ask for her number. But I just couldn't do it because I kept making excuses. Well, I tried again yesterday, before I went to the gym, and the same problem. Just couldn't do it. So, I got that "F-it" mentality back in my head and after the gym (showered of course) I went up there, and I just got this great line in my head (try to imagine a figure like Steven Seagal in motorcycle gear, because that's the imagine I had with this fun line I ran):

Her: "Back again?"
Me: "Yep, how late do you work?"
Her: "Until 1pm today, what would like this time?"
Me: "I didn't come here to buy anything.
Her: "Oh?" (Weird look on her face)
Me: "We both traveled abroad a lot, I think you could be interesting. Give me your number, and we'll go grab a tea" (asians like tea right?)
Her: "My American husband wouldn't let me."

I walked out of there feeling like a million bucks (well maybe not a million, more like a couple grand). I have not thought about her any more since then, whereas before she was always on my mind. Thus, I had a great day opening ladies at the mall afterwords.

[RatInTheWoods]

+1 for ask her out. Get it over with. Man Up.

If you can't think of a line you can use my classic - "You and me? Yes, no or maybe?"

[Prof. Ligate]

(12-05-2016 01:50 PM)chico Wrote:  

Over the past few weeks, I've been regular at the gym, read Bang/Day Bang and hit on a girl who I believe likes me. But it feels like everytime I talk to her she is attracted to me less, and though she gives strong signals to me that I should do something, I never realize until the interaction is over. I feel like she won't give any me any chances soon.

I know it's not a big deal and I should just hit on more girls, but this negativity always slows me down and it's hard to get out of my head and think clearly while I'm talking to these girls. I always feel like I should have said something but never realize it in the moment.

Also, some people I considered friends stabbed me in the back and I've been struggling to improve my GPA at college. Despite the lifting, zinc and fish oil, I still feel like a moody bitch at times (becoming all the time slowly).

How do you stay above the negativity?

Being real for a second bro, you've probably came across as needy because you've been talking to this chick for a while without making a move. Everybody here has done this at some stage.

Lucky for you there are thousands of other girls who are willing to give you a shot. They are everywhere at bars and college campuses simply wanting to speak to a confident guy who has the balls to approach and hold a conversation like a man.

It also seems like you're searching for a magic pill a little bit. If success with chicks and life in general was as easy as "Gym + zinc + fish oil = big dick playa" - every retard would have a harem of 5 and a yacht.

Keep working hard and good things will come. Your daily hustle should include a couple of hours study and making just 1 daygame approach. Take solace in knowing that if you do these things every day your life will become better.

[LeoneVolpe]

You want to know how to "rise above the negativity"? Start by not viewing everything that doesn't go your way as a negative. No one like to fail, but failure is a far better teacher than success. I highly recommend you pick up a copy of "The 50th Law" by Robert Greene. I think you'll find the chapter which discusses a concept called "mental alchemy" incredibly useful. Turn the shit in your life into sugar by transmutating negatives into positives -- choose to see opportunity in every challenge instead of crisis.

[chico]

Thank you all for the solid advice. I am always working on controlling my thoughts and applying the laws of power into social interactions.

An another note, creating legitimate attraction in girls is somewhere I need help. Lots of girls say I'm cute like a puppy or kid, but how do I change that into them actually seeing me as someone they'd fuck?

[astrosleuth]

(12-05-2016 01:50 PM)chico Wrote:  

Over the past few weeks, I've been regular at the gym, read Bang/Day Bang and hit on a girl who I believe likes me. But it feels like everytime I talk to her she is attracted to me less, and though she gives strong signals to me that I should do something, I never realize until the interaction is over. I feel like she won't give any me any chances soon.

I know it's not a big deal and I should just hit on more girls, but this negativity always slows me down and it's hard to get out of my head and think clearly while I'm talking to these girls. I always feel like I should have said something but never realize it in the moment.

Also, some people I considered friends stabbed me in the back and I've been struggling to improve my GPA at college. Despite the lifting, zinc and fish oil, I still feel like a moody bitch at times (becoming all the time slowly).

How do you stay above the negativity?

I always feel the same way after talking to women. Especially ones I'm attracted to although I've been practicing making conversation with clerks and such.

[iknowexactly]

Think of the good things you _can_ do, instead of all the bad things all those other people do that should _stop_.