[nola]

Not to brag but I've done very well for myself, lived all over the US and Europe. I decided to settle in New Orleans because it suits my business and lifestyle which is Commercial and Residential Contracting.

It's pretty easy here to get laid but I'm entering my mid 30's and getting tired.

I was married once (very young) 2 years and early 20's and taken to the cleaners (Alimony as I supported her and a US State screwed me at 24 years old) and don't want that again, but now I'm finding my age is sucking the energy out of me.

I'm consistently getting laid but keep losing them because I refuse to commit (under contract i.e. marriage) or say the I don't want kids thing. I was traumatized as a man by Probate and Family Court. (We had NO kids or shared assets)

I'm having to go out and continuously find more girls to supplement a loss which means digging my heels into a high quality chase on a 8+ which triggers my 5 - 7 FWB's then work shit throws everything out of sorts where I loose a few FWB's retain the 8+ and lose her because I neglected whatever work shit chasing her.

I don't like to use the phrase harem but I have one, currently 4 girls I kinda like fucking or spending time with and usually 1 I love fucking and spending time with (not a current 8+ now) but I have a few I'm working.

I always lose the one I love fucking and now I'm getting antsy. I'm wondering since I'm getting older if I should just go 1 at a time. But I like having an on call when the one I want to fuck can't make it. Maybe a bit of ego or sex addiction.

What's happened is my game is really good as I know what to say and when to say it but I'm losing the girls I actually have chemistry with (super high quality) and retaining the girls I actually could do without (mid range)

I don't know if I want a life of chasing women but I also realize the nature of women and want to avoid losing half my shit in court.

[Akwesi]

How old are the girls you are banging? Seems this problem could be solved simply by going for younger girls.

[stefpdt]

Nola girls are sexy dude, but I know that living there can make you feel a little depressed if you're a high-achiever (sounds like you are if you have your own biz). All my old friends from New Orleans still associate with the same cliques from high school and shit. Amazing city, but I only visit for Mardi Gras now. If you want energy, go to Nyc or somewhere further north.

[nola]

(07-06-2016 04:17 AM)Akwesi Wrote:  

How old are the girls you are banging? Seems this problem could be solved simply by going for younger girls.

22 - 30 I'd say my average is 25 - 26

[nola]

(07-06-2016 05:09 AM)stefpdt Wrote:  

Nola girls are sexy dude, but I know that living there can make you feel a little depressed if you're a high-achiever (sounds like you are if you have your own biz). All my old friends from New Orleans still associate with the same cliques from high school and shit. Amazing city, but I only visit for Mardi Gras now. If you want energy, go to Nyc or somewhere further north.

Lived in NYC I'd say I'm Wealthy in NOLA and Middle Class (Maybe Upper Middle) in NYC depending on the area, I hate the cold and love Hunting and Fishing. NYC is not for me.

[TravelerKai]

I had posted in your other thread. You are just another run of the mill man not getting any fulfillment out of a life, most likely because you do not have much purpose (future wise). If you are so afraid of divorce rape, you should start looking towards solving that problem, like the others in your boat on this forum are doing. It's obvious your balls are feeling the itch to raise a family and extend your name and legacy.

While not the best thread on this subject, take a look at what others are attempting to work out, solution wise. Whether you agree or not with their methodology, they are actively strategizing on a solution to this problem, and it should inspire you to make your own and to do the same. If that doesn't suit your tastes, you could even look at my datasheet in my signature (I got divorced, but remarried a foreign wife and I have kids).

Not every man is suited for a playboy/perpetual player lifestyle. Not every man is suited for family life, however most men will feel the itch and the call to do so.

Also, how did you even manage to end up in NOLA to begin with? What is the reasoning you used to arrive at that conclusion? NOLA has alot of problems and is not exactly the right city for certain life directions.

[AboveAverageJoe]

Louisiana does have some of the finest women in the South, but NO truly is a shithole. In addition the hoes in Nawlins are steeped in game and this post and the OP clearly need to be in the Newbie section. You seem to be suffering from the "two hoes in a tree are worth more than one ho in your nest" paradigm. If you spin too many plates, they all fall and break. Prioritize then analyze. This seems like more of a time-management issue than anything else. You seem to be losing hoes you have, to chase hoes you that you can't have. Be careful down there in the bottom of the boot. Shit rolls downstream and you are downstream from everything East of the Rockies. New Orleans used to be the epicenter of prostituion in the US. Most of the girls you will find down there come from a long line of hoes. Not really a good place for a newbie with money. Those Nola hoes will eat you alive and devour every last resource if you aren't on top of your game at all times. Consider yourself warned.

[tawm]

I basically came here to reiterate all the points already made.

In my late teenage years I moved to the Mississippi Gulf Coast (far more depressing than NOLA I'd say) and NOLA was considered to be the "party city" where you went in high school to get Cafe Du Monde, underage drink, and see your older friends working at skin bars on Bourbon.

[nola]

(07-06-2016 07:54 AM)TravelerKai Wrote:  

Also, how did you even manage to end up in NOLA to begin with? What is the reasoning you used to arrive at that conclusion? NOLA has a lot of problems and is not exactly the right city for certain life directions.

I'm a RE Investor. Started buying homes here after Katrina and flipping them now I buy rehab and AirBnB them which NOLA is a Goldmine for; Also spent 8 years as a Yacht Captain and my former client/business partner now owns a bunch of Commercial Buildings here so he wanted me here to set up shop while part-timing as a software engineer on one of his DP vessels which is originally what my education was in. SO NOLA is kinda the perfect place for me unless I wanted to live in New Iberia or Houma which are both pretty boring.

I too am looking at the foreign wife route NOLA has really taken a nose dive lady wise. I still consider one of the bast places in the country for a SNL if you troll the Quarter or Frenchmen St any given night (or day) it's easy to land well lubricated tourist.

Problem here is due to the relatively cheap rent and the art and music scene a massive wave of feminist hipsters both male and female which has really disrupted a lot of the culture here and not in a good way.

Also nothing new here but due to the fact this a largely African American city and not to come across as racist but much of the (local) talent has no incentive to take care of their bodies because most of the decent looking in shape black dudes have no problem slaying land whales giving them some false sense of pride and beauty. I actually recently lost a friend that way because I refused to hang out with him in public because I could not handle being in his "girls" presence.

While spending time here with a beautiful feminine women is a blast, local ones are actually very difficult to find.

I've thought about using one of my larger houses and setting up some summer, fall and winter visa program and import 2 or 3 EE girls each season to care for my properties and see if I hit it off with any of them where then I could extend their work visa. I recently just started researching this option because there is no real thrill of the hunt here anymore.

I almost always assume if she is a 8+ and Feminine she is not local and 8 times out of ten that really is the case.

Another phenomena I also see is even when school is in session it's open season at Tulane and UNO but very quickly this City corrupts them so don't expect any longterm prospects. it only takes about 6 months to 1 year and most girls here will have notch counts that rival pornstars before age 21.

I guess at some point I should throw a datasheet together on this but this is one place in the US where slaying 18 - 22 year olds well into your 40's even 50's is not that difficult. I think that was what also kinda got me addicted to this City. Many places here do serve without carding if you don't look like a 15 year old. So shagging a lubed up 18 - 20 year olds is a real possibility if you stay off of Bourbon St. I almost wonder this fact alone is what made me so goddamn picky and depressed it's almost like I can't get it up once they pass the age of 30 unless they rival Sofia Vegara in some way.