Quote: (02-14-2016 09:27 PM)Phoenix Wrote:
Inb4 "get him chopped up and sucked out"... oh too late. Like it's just getting a tooth filling or something.
I also wouldn't be taking life advice from someone called "whateverfuckit". 30% for 21+ years for one kid? What tables are you basing that off? 'Keeping' the kid "isn't doing anyone any favours?" That's fucking twisted man. "Man up" is something feminists say? Are you high on something fucking strong right now?
I really don't think it's as burdensome as some people are making it out to be. And I've never met a man with a kid who said "it ruined my life", they're all happy about it. Including ones I know who got the kid in the exact same situation.
It ruined my life. Absolutely devastating. Mother was worthless, and I ended up having to take full custody for many years. I love my son, but let's not pretend this shit is easy (unless you have an amazing amount of family support floating around).
"30% for 21+ years for one kid? What tables are you basing that off? "
My state was 25%....but its based of gross, not after tax income, so it's more like 40% of your take home. And that's just what you have to give HER, you're not going to blow off his birthday or Christmass, if you want him to play football, you're buying the pads etc.. It's easily 50% of your income gone. This is HUGE.
It's also a severe crimp in starting a business/new career or taking any other risk. This isn't a student loan, you go to jail if you lose your job. It's like being dragged behind truck, not too bad if you can stay on your feet, but if you stumble, it's going to be a LONG rough ride. Just the worry will give you many sleepless nights.
In my state, mentally ill people get free lawyers to fight for custody against the sane parent. I think the intent was just to have the lawyers guarantee them visitation, but they're aggressive, top of the line family court litigators that work for HER and eventually I went bankrupt fighting them and she got full custody again. At least I got him through his most vulnerable years and now he can tell me if something really fucked up is happening.
Different people have different experiences...if you're some lazy disorganized fuck that wastes every day anyway, this can actually help you. But it you've already taken the red pill, and are already working your balls off to give yourself a better life, it's going to be a big hit.
And when someone asks me, I smile and tell them how good it was for me, but here I want to give you the straight dope.