Quote: (01-09-2016 12:33 AM)SamuelBRoberts Wrote:
Wow, you sound like an obnoxious asshole. You know you can just say, "We'd like to sit in the center, please." and they'll seat you wherever you want, right?
But yeah, way to defy social convention by sitting in a different chair at the restaurant. You've truly displayed your alpha male superiority, and I'm sure she was wetting herself at the thought of your massive, testosterone-engorged penis.
What kind of fun is a life like that? Take yourself a little less seriously and you'll be a lot better off.
I don't really see it that way. She pointed to a bunch of cement bricks for us to sit on. Cement bricks. That was disrespectful and if you treat me with disrespect, i will treat you with disrespect right back.
I am sure she wasn't wetting herself, but she was scared though. She avoided us all night. She was supposed to be our waiter, but she sent her friends instead; because deep down she knows she was rude and disrespectful. My behavior basically called her out on it. I was even thinking of talking to the manager about her disrespectful behavior(but my friends insisted i should let it go.)
Do you think she would have treated a bunch of football players like that? Definitely not. She would have given them center stage. So why should i be treated differently? I respect myself too much to tolerate shit like that. She is just a fucking waiter for pete's sake; and i am Doctor Fucking Kahn-- i have more value than her. I don't care how good looking she is.
We got prompt services all night -- I am guessing they were scared and talked to each other about our table, so we got everything fast and as priority.
The way you get treated is the way you allow yourself to be treated.
Quote: (01-09-2016 01:05 AM)Sidney Crosby Wrote:
You are a douche bag and you are forgetting that the restaurant doesn't owe you anything and could give a fuck less about how cool you think are.
Did you use these same techniques when you were picked last in gym class?
I am a paying customer, i deserve better treatment than to have my friends and I sit on cement bricks instead of open, available tables. It was demeaning.
Did i use the same technique when i got picked last in gym class? I never got picked last in gym class because by the time they picked the first, second, and third; i will start verbally guilt tripping them about not picking me and shaming them. It worked everytime. They feel obligated to pick me even though i sucked. Others will stood there quietly waiting to be picked or not picked. Not me. I make it happen.
So far so good, this has always worked for me in life: shamelessly going for what i want(it doesn't matter if i have to cajole, insult, guilt-trip, bully, flatter, humiliate, or various combination of tricks to get what i want.)
That was how i got the half white/half asian Cara Milligan(one of the cheerleaders) to go to the prom with me(the vice-president of the chess club).
Whenever i am determined to achieve or get something; and i put my mind to it, i will usually figure out a way.
As for the other question of if i am good company to be around. Yes i am.
For two simple reasons: I am brutally honest about my intentions, so people know what you see is what you get. (2) I unapologetically go for what i want, and i get things done.
I am really a nice person who just happens to have a healthy dose of self-respect and doesn't get impressed easily.
Quote: (01-09-2016 06:36 AM)realologist Wrote:
Dr. Kahn even if you aren't a troll, you need to learn to be around men. You came out guns blazing in a place starting a thread where you basically completely discounted the point that athleticism and sports can foster masculinity in someone. That books and academics do.
Maybe during all that time spent in books your social skills suffered. On this form its about merit. You have to prove yourself and the information you bring valuable to this form. Expect to get made fun of, have people tell jokes about you. We are men. This is normal behavior.
Stop being so sensitive and drop a real thread. Probably about being a Doctor or your focus and study habits since that is all you can seemingly talk about.
Come on! I didn't discount that sports and athleticism can foster masculinity in men. I looked at the reasons why sports is claimed to foster masculinity: competition, mental focus, discipline, etc. It is just obvious to me that the same thing is needed in a huge amount if you are trying to get a doctorate from an Ivy league school in STEM fields. So what makes sports more masculine then? I couldn't see a good reason.
Having muscles doesn't really impress me because i can get that in 1 to 2 years; and i am already on my way with exercise programs that i just started. I have the mental discipline to do the same thing over and over again and stick to a plan of action. So what do you have going that will impress me? That i won't achieve in 2 years datamining RVF? Basically nothing.
Some were making argument about higher T levels from sport, but then there are threads after threads by Jared talking about higher T men getting used and disposed off by women. All that high T levels couldn't translate into alphaness due to their wrecked psychology from being raised by single moms.
That is why i like Sooth's brilliant summation.
Quote: (01-08-2016 08:12 AM)Sooth Wrote:
Brains by themselves are not better than brawn in regards to attracting women. Brains alone are worthless when it comes to women.
You have to apply brains to the physical world in the form of work, creating some value and only then will you be attractive.
Women are value thieves, not knowledge thieves.
The lesson i took from that is, you can have all the brain(einstein) or brawn(athlete) in the world, but if you don't translate it into the real world, you will get played by bitches. "Women are value thieves, not knowledge thieves". That was the best insight i read on this thread.
I don't mind jokes and being made fun of, but then you should expect me to make fun of you right back; and i expect you to not run to daddy figure(moderators) for help and started crying "troll!", "troll!", "troll!". If you dish it out, you have to be able to take it, like men. This is my mentality, but them i came from the highly competitive field of hard sciences at Ivy Leagues; so perhaps it is different where you came from.
But i completely agree with you about adding value. As I get more comfortable here i will write about my experience in academia, how to navigate it, and why i have come to dislike western white women.
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