Hey guys,
I am very new into this forum and I just want to introduce myself quick. At the moment (1,5 Months now) I am working in Cape Town and exposed to so much good looking women. I am also a good looking guy (maybe a 7, on good days an 8), working as a project manager, laid here and then an 8 or a 9 but got my standards and do not hit everything. Last week I was alone in a bar and suddenly the barkeeper came to me with a shot and pointed at an 7 and said that she was spending me the drink (I am just explaining, that you maybe get a picture of me). The end of the story, my finishing was bad. I gave her my number and didn't take hers (rookie mistake!?) and she didn't write me yet.
Now my problem: I am a very social person and also quite confident. I don't got a problem to go to a party completely alone and to meet someone there, but in the most cases I just meet some mates, because of same interests and it is easier for me to speak to potential buddys. When it comes to girls, then I have the feeling that they already assume that I just want the one thing from them and they act in the most cases very defensive dismissing and through all this bullshit experience in the recent past I have the feeling that my confidence is gone when it comes to beautiful girls. I also have to say that I respect women a lot since my mother and my sister had a huge influence on my mindset.
My questions now:
How can I improve? What I am doing wrong? I want to become a a very good player in this game and I believe that I have the material for it but I also have to say that I don't want to lie and present something I am not. And don't get me wrong, I get laid, also good girls but want to improve now and to aim the top.
I apologize myself if I got this forum thing wrong and if I shouldn't post something like this because its very much orientated at my person, but its my first forum post ever. So just correct me if I did something wrong. In addition to that I would like to mention, that I am raised in a not english speaking country, so my grammar is also not the optimum.
Thanks upfront!
I am very new into this forum and I just want to introduce myself quick. At the moment (1,5 Months now) I am working in Cape Town and exposed to so much good looking women. I am also a good looking guy (maybe a 7, on good days an 8), working as a project manager, laid here and then an 8 or a 9 but got my standards and do not hit everything. Last week I was alone in a bar and suddenly the barkeeper came to me with a shot and pointed at an 7 and said that she was spending me the drink (I am just explaining, that you maybe get a picture of me). The end of the story, my finishing was bad. I gave her my number and didn't take hers (rookie mistake!?) and she didn't write me yet.
Now my problem: I am a very social person and also quite confident. I don't got a problem to go to a party completely alone and to meet someone there, but in the most cases I just meet some mates, because of same interests and it is easier for me to speak to potential buddys. When it comes to girls, then I have the feeling that they already assume that I just want the one thing from them and they act in the most cases very defensive dismissing and through all this bullshit experience in the recent past I have the feeling that my confidence is gone when it comes to beautiful girls. I also have to say that I respect women a lot since my mother and my sister had a huge influence on my mindset.
My questions now:
How can I improve? What I am doing wrong? I want to become a a very good player in this game and I believe that I have the material for it but I also have to say that I don't want to lie and present something I am not. And don't get me wrong, I get laid, also good girls but want to improve now and to aim the top.
I apologize myself if I got this forum thing wrong and if I shouldn't post something like this because its very much orientated at my person, but its my first forum post ever. So just correct me if I did something wrong. In addition to that I would like to mention, that I am raised in a not english speaking country, so my grammar is also not the optimum.
Thanks upfront!