I want to use this thread as a resource for guys who are going through a divorce. So many dudes are completely oblivious to the fact that the woman has all the power and the state is on her side. We know all the horror stories but many men see them as the exception and not the rule.
Example: My very close friend has been married since 09. He got married right before we deployed to Afghanistan. His wife has been a good women and they have two kids but just don't get along. They decided to separate and everything is seemingly going well because they both want a divorce. I warned him of the consequences if she becomes unhappy and to be on his best behavior.
Today he tells me he got pissed and smashed his guitar and some other possessions in their room. She came back home to find the destruction and wasn't happy but they "talked it out". I warned him that during divorce hearings this incident could cost him visitation rights and is grounds for a restraining order in most states. She only needs to mention this to her lawyer and he's hurting.
He immediately got defensive and said "That won't happen" and "he has to go" and hung up. I sent him a message and told him I was being a good friend and he thanked me. I know he's go a lot on his plate mentally now but I still feel I have a responsibility to help him, or at least to share the knowledge we all know here so he can help himself. Since so many marriages end in divorce I think this thread will be useful to point men in the right direction
Links, experiences, and advice are all welcome.
What advice would you give to a friend going through a divorce in America?
Example: My very close friend has been married since 09. He got married right before we deployed to Afghanistan. His wife has been a good women and they have two kids but just don't get along. They decided to separate and everything is seemingly going well because they both want a divorce. I warned him of the consequences if she becomes unhappy and to be on his best behavior.
Today he tells me he got pissed and smashed his guitar and some other possessions in their room. She came back home to find the destruction and wasn't happy but they "talked it out". I warned him that during divorce hearings this incident could cost him visitation rights and is grounds for a restraining order in most states. She only needs to mention this to her lawyer and he's hurting.
He immediately got defensive and said "That won't happen" and "he has to go" and hung up. I sent him a message and told him I was being a good friend and he thanked me. I know he's go a lot on his plate mentally now but I still feel I have a responsibility to help him, or at least to share the knowledge we all know here so he can help himself. Since so many marriages end in divorce I think this thread will be useful to point men in the right direction
Links, experiences, and advice are all welcome.
What advice would you give to a friend going through a divorce in America?