[Vaun]

Great posts gents, way to really sum it up. Overall I think NYC is full of opportunity. Its really what you make of it, everyday.

You can live a good lifestyle in NYC; easy commute, lifestyle, decent apartment, friends, good food, relatively easy to meet people, endless job opportunities with the ability to switch careers because there are frankly more open jobs here than anywhere else.

You have to work your way up here. Its easy to look at the island as a place of the wealthy and spoiled who have it easy, and while that exists, its really made up of war stories. You have to start at the bottom or have some foot in the door. Nothing is easy, for most people here. Rarely do I meet a trust fund baby or someone served life on a platter. Its easy to meet impressive people; people that started at the bottom and worked their way up. That includes women, often I meet and date impressive girls who I then sometimes having a tough time walking away from.

Of course women are hypergamous. Thats expected. Truthfully, they are everywhere, in every town. Surprise surprise. Thats why many of them move here. It doesnt bug me. Its reality. But I interact now with women in NYC like I did when I was 18 hanging out in Washington Sq Park. Completely different than someone looking for a wife or hell, even an LTR. Fuck that. You meet random girls everywhere you go, everyday in all settings. Some are cool, and others are psychos.

July 4th I meet a gorgeous Korean girl just out of college and just moved to the city from Seoul. We have had a couple of really pleasant dates, not late night American drunken slog fests(Onto remember??). Ill keep seeing her. Another was a girl from Mexico City, beautiful young women in her early 20's. We watched a parade together and had a little insta date. Funny enough, that exact scenario happened to me last summer. These women are everywhere. You wont get that anywhere else in the US.

NYC can be monotonous. But life can be anyways, anywhere. I combat that with a clear life's focus. I know what I want and where I am going. I enjoy my lifestyle. I travel frequently, workout, love my apartment, love to work hard. I never get bored, but get antsy, so then I leave for a few days. Not hard to do. I go through phases where I game aggressively for weeks or months, then get totally burned out after many drunken late nights, then I have to recoup with rest, meditation, Equinox, Central Park and friends.

You really have to decide what you want out of life, and be driven by your own intent, and not drifting. Look at your stay here like a party that lasts a few years. It really is when you appreciate whats at your finger tips, and if you manage it well.

[Easy_C]

(07-25-2015 07:37 PM)Onto Wrote:  

$1500/month for a large studio in Forest Hills, Queens or a large 4 bedroom home with a garage/yard/deck in the best of neighborhoods of any mid-size city? Depends on where you are in life and what your goals are.

Or jobs. If the difference is a 105k/yr job vs one that pays 250 in NYC (not an unreasonable dilemma for finance types) you may save more cash in NYC

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The women in NYC are certainly the most animus-possesed amazons you'll ever come across. Totally self-centered, self-indulgent, and well, you all know. But are they really any better in Minneapolis, Denver or wherever? I grew up in a small-city, and frequent mid-size cities often. The women there, at their core, are really no better than NYC women. You're more likely to find one that can cook a little, but she'll still have that feminist attitude and all the rest. Maybe they are a hair-better, but we're not talking big hairs.

I've lived all over the country and found that it's a mistake to generalize. You're absolutely correct when we're talking about both the mean and the median of gals out there: both are terrible in American women, and the average is awful. There are a few exceptions to the rule left however. My own personal experiences is that a lot of the best ones come from low income, rural areas with insular cultures. The biggest concentration seems to be in Appalachia but that observation is purely anecdotal.

Keep in mind that there is an element of self selection involved. The mega-sloots will concentrate in large cities that provide them access to the immense dopamine dumps their brains require, while the nice ones tend to seek lower stress environments. Quite frequently they either stay where they're from or form social enclaves in medium sized cities. Said enclaves can be extremely difficult to even detect, let alone break into.

[Yeti]

(07-25-2015 08:42 PM)Easy_C Wrote:  

Keep in mind that there is an element of self selection involved. The mega-sloots will concentrate in large cities that provide them access to the immense dopamine dumps their brains require, while the nice ones tend to seek lower stress environments. Quite frequently they either stay where they're from or form social enclaves in medium sized cities. Said enclaves can be extremely difficult to even detect, let alone break into.

I know what you mean and in many ways I have been searching for such girls my entire life. I wish that someone could write up a datasheet on finding these enclaves.

[General Stalin]

I have never lived in NYC and have only been there on day trips. All of the things I'm reading from people who have lived and game there make plenty of sense to me, though. There is one thing that Onto pointed out that is important:

Onto Wrote:

The women in NYC are certainly the most animus-possesed amazons you'll ever come across. Totally self-centered, self-indulgent, and well, you all know. But are they really any better in Minneapolis, Denver or wherever? I grew up in a small-city, and frequent mid-size cities often. The women there, at their core, are really no better than NYC women. You're more likely to find one that can cook a little, but she'll still have that feminist attitude and all the rest. Maybe they are a hair-better, but we're not talking big hairs.

City girls are city girls. Whether they were born in the city or decided to move their after college - only certain kinds of women are at home in the city. The ones that aren't will get shaped by it. I have traveled to plenty of cities in the US from being on tour with my band over the years. One thing I will say is that city life breeds a certain type of female.

That fast paced, shallow, soul-sucking, consumerist, career-chasing, money making, good-time-having city lifestyle is not the place to find a quality woman. As Onto has said, smaller cities will see slightly more reserved girls with a bit of femininity and domestication, but by and large they are generally the same. Big city girls are damaged goods.

[The Black Knight]

On paper, NYC seemed like an awesome place. Diversity in talent, plenty of work opportunities, walkable without a car, always something happening, etc.

But in reality for me at least, NYC was a huge disappointment. The things that really stuck out as a visitor:

1. The subway system is disgusting full of disgusting people. It's one thing if I had to deal with it every once in a while but I'd hate to have to rely on it everyday to get around (which I would if living there). Of all the train systems I've been on, BY FAR the most unpleasant and uncomfortable.

2. Way too many aggressive homeless and legit mentally ill people running around. Can't say I'm down with being confined to a subway car with real basket cases as what seemed like a semi-regular occurrence.

3. NYC women are mega sluts and the city has to be one of these easiest places on the planet to get consistent notches with decent looking but vapid American women. But if you want anything beyond a bang? Forget it. NYC is pump and dump central. In fairness though, it's not like the rest of the US has a ton of LTR quality women to begin with.

3a. One of the few redeemable qualities women wise: tons of variety in first and second generation immigrant women. Probably the most in raw numbers anywhere in the US. I wish this abundance existed in a more pleasant and cheaper US city.

4. Outside designated areas or areas that border water, virtually no nature integrated into the city landscape. I understand now what people meant when they described NYC as a "concrete jungle." I found it really unappealing.

5. Streets were pretty fuckin dirty in some parts (I know, lack of alleyways).

6. Getting to any airport is a pain in the ass.

7. While the NYC area has a lot of women, they really are spread all the fuck out everywhere between Queen, Brooklyn, Manhattan, and NJ. Unless you are in lower Manhattan, you will be logistically cockblocked from large segments of women. But lower Manhattan = LOTS of money needed.

I can see the appeal of NYC to the uninitiated but unless you are rolling in decent money (I'm talking minimum 200k+) and/or doing something unique that requires being in NYC, I don't know why any sensible person would live there for more than a few months, especially for the high cost. 3K for a crappy studio? 750K+ for a shitty 1bd co-op? High NY and NYC taxes? Crap weather most of the year? Dependency on a disgusting and overcrowded subway system to get around?

I get it... NYC has a pulse and vibe that is unique. But at what cost?

You could live like a king in much nicer international cities on the rent cost alone (3k/month) and with overall better women opportunities.

[Rang off the Pipe]

1 and 2 are the really sad things, but those won't change anytime soon since the MTA is a corrupt bureaucracy and no one really wants to address the homeless/mentally ill problem (politics in this city is very inefficient). The subway system itself is quite old, though, to be fair. Many of the stations are well over 70 years old so maintenance can be a pain compared to some of the newer systems in other cities.

As for the airports, it's really not that hard if you know the transportation system enough. It shouldn't take more than an hour to get to any of the 3 major airports in the area, and many other cities don't have airports that close to city centers either.

[Dantes]

If you think there are too many homeless and mentally ill running around now, you should have seen it in the 80s and early 90s.

It's not a perfect city but everyone wants to be here. It's a great city for the short-term but unsustainable on many levels for the long-term.

[godzilla]

I grew up in New York and around New York. I disagree with some comments and agree with others.

There is no better place to bang quality looking women in the USA. For marriage material, no. I disagree too that you need some kind of elite money to do well. Plenty of average dudes do well in New York City. There's an abundance of women in New York and the numbers prove that.

I find the chaos, the subways, the dirtyness of the city quite peaceful actually. You get desensitized to the homeless people after a while. I guess its just not for all of us. I find the clean, car reliant suburbs a complete pain and also a completely unsustainable lifestyle. Nothing stresses me out more then getting stuck in traffic driving to work.

Getting to the airport isnt really a pain, its dealing with TSA and then customs when you get back. However, flights out of New York are still cheaper then anywhere else. I still come up to Newark airport from Philadelphia to fly out.

To me there are 3 things that make New York a non-ideal place.

1. People work insane hours.
2. People live in small spaces.
3. American drinking culture.

Combine these 3 factors and you get the most soulless people you'll ever meet. But hasn't it always been like this?

[Curunír]

The black knight comes out swinging with a couple valid points , even though I love Manhattan .

[Heart Break Kid]

The subway is pretty messy, but they're old so I'll give NYC a pass. I actually think New York City is becoming too clean, I like the grit look that NYC has in certain areas.

Can't say I've had any major complaints about NYC's airports, no more than any other air port at least. I suppose it depends on where in NYC you live, but for a lot of people getting to JFK and LaGuardia is not particularly difficult.

You don't need 200k per year to do well in NYC, that seems rather extreme.

I do agree that NYC is too expensive and the winters can be pretty harsh. Other than that, NYC doesn't have many weaknesses by my book.

[Wutang]

I'm from NJ myself and am not a resident of the citizen but close enough where I take regular day trips to there whenever I feel like it. About the homeless people, they've always been around but there does seem to have been an uptick in them since 2015. Also been noticing an up tick in gay couples walking around holding hands. Weird thing is I don't see lesbians.

[Vaun]

(01-28-2016 08:41 AM)Dantes Wrote:  

If you think there are too many homeless and mentally ill running around now, you should have seen it in the 80s and early 90s.

I first moved here in 1993, as an 18 year old idiot running around the EV and LES.

[Curunír]

Respect !!

[Lian]

Having spent significant time in New York, I agree with the OP 100%.

Actually, I agree with what most of the other posters have said.

NYC is a soulless place to live, and in terms of women, they are generally the most used up skanks you will meet in your life. American or not, move them to NYC and usually they'll hop on the cock carousel faster than you can say Carrie Bradshaw.

I think there's also an element of the worst kind of girls are attracted to NYC. I'm in Colombia now and the beautiful, feminine, curvy 22yo I'm seeing was in NY for a few months and didn't like it. After hearing this, I realized I think I'd be wary of any girl who has visited for any length of time and did.

When I was in New York last month I went out with a good buddy who had moved there about eight months before. His dream, like so many others, was to move to New York, and having done so he "made it" as the saying goes: He lives in a tiny cramped apartment with three others in the East Village, hasn't had anything remotely close to a meaningful relationship the whole time, and from what I gathered he is literally going into debt living there. Despite this, he "loves it." For what it's worth I had had several discussions with him about chicks' sexual past when he was seeing an attractive girl a couple years back who was obviously a carousel rider, and he was all about more experience = better sex = desirable quality.

We went out with some of his friends, and there were some girls in the group. Oh man. One of them, mildly attractive say a 6, mid/late 20s, has had an endless string of hookups, and talked about them in such a casual manner I thought I was going to vomit.

Another one, possibly a 6 in her prime and now 32, complained that the friends of the guy she's been "seeing" aka fucking for a month "acted weird" around her when he invited her out earlier that night. Hm what a pickle... it couldn't possibly be that they were wondering whether they read their friend wrong, confused as to how he could spend any amount of time with you more than that required to bust a nut, let alone extend an invitation to a social gathering of which they were a part.

Every time I'm in NYC the first few days I think "could I live here?" and think very positively of the place, and daydream of options there. The diversity of food, women, things to do... it's intoxicating. After that, it goes downhill fast and I realize how much I'd hate living there. It is scattered and lonely, not to mention run down and dirty, and the endless things to do, the stimulation crack, does a good job of covering that up.

I'd say if you really can get a big advantage there work-wise, and you're in your 20s, ok, go for it. You'll have fun, and you can say you've done it.

If you can get those same advantages in other cities or better yet countries, and/or you're a bit older and looking for a girl who could be anything more than your carousel rider of the day, week, or month, do yourself a favor and avoid it.

[goonies]

So what are some "soulful" cities to find a serious relationship?

[Delta]

(02-06-2016 06:43 PM)goonies Wrote:  

So what are some "soulful" cities to find a serious relationship?

I'm not surprised this post killed the thread for the time being.

It's hard to take "there are no decent LTR girls in NYC" seriously when guys have similar complaints about every [western] location ever discussed here.

Some people speculate that it's easier to find LTR girls in the suburbs/exurbs. I strongly suspect no one who claims that has actually tried. Your main complaint about NYC girls- that they have no attention span, no loyalty, and constantly need to seek out novelty/adventure to keep from getting "bored"- that's true of almost every decent looking girl in the suburbs as well. Many times you'll hear from suburban girls that living in a big city is on their "bucket list," i.e. they have the same exact mentality as big city girls, but just weren't good enough to land a job there. And they won't shut up about how much they want to travel and go live in different parts of the world.

In addition to that problem, which seems to be a universal trait among higher energy/decent looking western girls, an LTR hunter in the suburbs also has to contend with:

-Apocalyptic gender ratios in any venue designed for meeting the opposite sex. In this thread I show that on Match.com and OKCupid, while the ratios aren't great anywhere, NYC has about twice as many women per man relative to the suburbs. If you're thinking "who gives a fuck about Match and OKC" you're not wrong but you're missing the point... Why is it that suburban women are so much less likely to be desperate enough to sign up for those sites? It's clearly indicative of a market that is much more favorable to women, and of course, less favorable to men.

-Obesity. NYC girls are so, so, so, so, SO much less fat. This is well known.

-Lack of intelligence. As I alluded to before, most girls live in the suburbs because they can't live in the city, not because they don't want to. They can't live in the city because they're not smart enough to land a high paying job. In your imagination this may mean submissive aspiring housewives who will look up to you, but in reality it is nowhere close. Every girl wants to maintain her career no matter how crappy it is. So what it really means is splitting all the housework and childcare while you transfer a huge portion of your wealth to her (if you have any), or live on a tight budget if you don't. A housewife may be your ideal scenario, but a girl with a GOOD career has to come next, and the worst scenario by far is a girl with a crappy career that she won't quit. And that's most girls in the burbs. Aside from that, and perhaps more importantly, dumber girls are boring as fuck to talk to. The conversations are so dull and flat that it's almost impossible for the mating dance to proceed. A girl needs to at least have the baseline level of intelligence to joke around with you... most don't in the burbs.

-Lack of social skills. Same issue as above, many suburban girls are extremely low-energy and sheltered, and lack the basic social skills to joke around and create a sexual/romantic vibe. I almost never see this issue with city girls.

-Trashiness. I see way, WAY more tats/piercings/blue hair/general low-brow vibe in the burbs than in the city. Not even close.

-Bad logistics. I don't feel the need to explain this, it's discussed ad nauseum here.

-Choice overabundance for girls. Yep you read that right. Why? Suburbanites have cars. City girls are going to set their Tinder/Bumble radius around 5 miles, whereas suburbanites can easily do 25-50 miles. Ultimately this leads to even more choice overabundance for suburban girls, especially when coupled with the ridiculous ratios. I've never met a girl in the suburbs who behaved as though her options were limited... you have to absolutely blow them away emotionally to have a shot. Frustrated by kisses/makeouts that don't land you a subsequent date? Happens all the time here too.

Anyone here who says NYC is a terrible place to search for a relationship, ask yourself, have you ever lived in a place in the U.S. that wasn't? If not, you may just be describing the fact that finding a good relationship is just plain hard in general. Those who have had more luck with relationships elsewhere (in the states), on the other hand, I'm very curious to hear from.

[USplayer642]

NYC is one of the most rewarding cities, but it is what you make of it. The cost is expensive, but can be justified, as NYC is the center of the business world and offers ammenities no other city could.

[Essence]

5 years in NYC here, you guys hit the nail on the head. Game-wise I think it's a great place to train because you have endless supply and complete anonymity, but you're probably not going to find anyone worth settling down with (or looking to settle down) unless you luck out with a FOB. Outside of women I love the cosmopolitan nature of the city, but I dislike the work crazy hours nonstop hustle rat race mentality. I left NYC almost a year ago and it's only now that I see how much more laidback the rest of the world is. Something about living on a tiny ultra-dense super-expensive island filled with both the wealthiest people and homeless mentally ill people everywhere makes you feel like you always need to be working and competing, but unless you genuinely love your job, you're basically just another miserable wage slave in the rat race.

The cost of living sucks but is bearable if you're renting and work in a high income field, but buying real estate there and laying roots isn't really realistic unless you want to spend 20 years paying off a mortgage in some lame suburb in Jersey or something, which to me totally defeats the purpose of living in NYC.

I'm bored of NYC and don't want to move back, but if I have to get a job again I'm not sure where else I'd move in the U.S. because I don't know of a better city in the U.S. as a single male (if I'm in a serious relationship I wouldn't care that much and could probably settle down in a 2nd or even 3rd tier city). Maybe I'll check out Austin, Denver, or LA. Really have no desire to move back to the U.S. though, just prefer foreign women.

[a beer is enough]

I appreciate the post by OP because it is so honest but as someone who moved out of NYC and now desperately wants to move bad, the saying grass is greener on the other side is so relevant to this thread. At some point I thought the fast life was going to consume but due to financial and family issues, I moved back to a more conservative part of the US and quite frankly, the alternative isn't all that great at all OP.

Try living in an area where before the age of 30, everyone is married with kids or seriously trying to get there. Where hooking up with randoms can come back to bite you and make you quite a lot of enemies because everyone is so morally self-righteous. Try having to deal with people making all of their friends by their early 20s and being very standoffish towards outsiders trying to break into their clique.

Getting hot girls? Try dealing with stupid social politics where some fatass with garbage game has his mini-harem because he was the man in high school.

I would much rather lose a hot girl to a guy because he is wealthier, more handsome or has better game than me than having to deal with idiotic social politics that give an ogre a hot girl over a guy who is better on paper. If there is one thing I absolutely loved about NYC and its dating culture, its the fact that it was straightforward.

And are we serious complaining about "skanks" when this forum is full of players trying to raise their notch count? I mean what do we want here? To jump from woman to woman until we get tired of it yet find that one sweet little 25 year old virgin with model looks? Sometimes the inconsistencies just kill me.

I made some of the best friends of my life in NYC, you just have to get involved and make the most of your time there.

Cannot wait until I get back because life in flyover country is killing me on the inside and making me miserable.

[Crash_Bandicoot]

I can totally see where OP is coming from

I have lived in and out of NYC many times, and I am back this time around for the next 2-3 years. With that being said, I seem to get less and less excited about the Big Apple every time I move back.

This time around, I'm starting to notice a few things especially:

1) It is INCREDIBLY HARD to focus on personal objectives living here. I am a man of discipline, but even with that, it is difficult. There are a variety of separate projects, such as starting my own location independent business, starting side businesses, losing weight, etc. that are just too difficult to focus on completely. It's because there's so much going on in the city on a daily basis that you feel obligated to check out (especially because I'm paying such high rent) and on the women front, there are so many opportunities to bang women. Last night I promised to work on my business, but ended up getting almost a dozen Bumble notifications from horny women. Ended up going on a date, waking up late this morning and now my day is half over. I have cheated on my diet so many times because of the amount of new things I've wanted to try. Ultimately, it's a matter of discipline.

If you want to focus, you must have incredible discipline skills - which include the ability to forego that fact that there are thousands of venues with slutty American girls that are horny. This is tough for every man.

2) The excitement of daygame and night game, even in the best city of the world, started to fade away for me. I enjoy interacting with locals when I'm in other cities, but people in NYC are like sheep - and they are constantly in a hurry. It's hard to have your own group because people are constantly moving in and out of the city.

3) The grind - The majority of NYC is filled with people who are in a hurry and stressed out. Everyone is on a fucking mission. Even the birds are fucking stressed out. It's fascinating to be a part of all of it, but if you're constantly in an environment where everyone is stressed out - you will soon be

With all that being said, it's still a great city for anyone who is looking to be part of the most dynamic city in the world. It is a city where many men can build their notch counts to world-class levels in just a year or two. If you are a decent looking dude with average game, then you will kill it here. But be careful - the hedonistic treadmill WILL take advantage of you and you will get caught up in it. Just remember that. After doing this for such a long time, the bangs, dates, and all the women will make you realize just how shallow, empty, and treadmill-like all of it is.One day you will be banging a woman, and the next day she'll ignore your texts because she's too busy getting shitfaced and fucking some other, hot successful investment banker French guy she met off of Tinder. Having a girlfriend here is almost impossible.

However, if you're looking for a more traditional place, where health, family, and traditional values are, then NYC is a terrible place to be.

I plan to be here for the next 2-3 years and then move to a much smaller city like Denver, Detroit, or even Boston afterwards.

I would continue writing more, but there's a fucking parade outside my apartment that I want to check out, I just got a few more Bumble messages, I'm out of amenities in my apartment so I have to walk over to the closest Deli store to buy them, and oh yeah, I'm trying to figure out why this girl I've been dating for a few weeks is ignoring my texts - chances are that she's probably busy getting hit on by dozens of other successful dudes (all with world-class style and game) and trying to live that Sex and the City lifestyle. Like I said, DISTRACTIONS.

[a beer is enough]

Man, the things you guys are complaining about with NYC are making me cry being stuck in fucking flyover country.

Ya, I'd love to have those problems.

As for women being detached and not caring, most women who sleep around before marriage are looking for the same adrenaline high. You will run into the same exact problems with women if you were in Los Angeles, Atlanta or Miami.

Now I get some of these issues are legit issues but lets face it, social life in general is rough in the USA. I do not even care if people hype college up to be this paradise, even at most schools if you aren't the rich frat boy, athlete or some spoiled liberal arts major with tons of free time because his major is so easy, you're not going to have an easy time making friends.

Its not an NYC thing, it is an American culture thing.

[Crash_Bandicoot]

(09-16-2018 10:23 PM)a beer is enough Wrote:  

Man, the things you guys are complaining about with NYC are making me cry being stuck in fucking flyover country.

Ya, I'd love to have those problems.

As for women being detached and not caring, most women who sleep around before marriage are looking for the same adrenaline high. You will run into the same exact problems with women if you were in Los Angeles, Atlanta or Miami.

Now I get some of these issues are legit issues but lets face it, social life in general is rough in the USA. I do not even care if people hype college up to be this paradise, even at most schools if you aren't the rich frat boy, athlete or some spoiled liberal arts major with tons of free time because his major is so easy, you're not going to have an easy time making friends.

Its not an NYC thing, it is an American culture thing.

@ A Beer is Enough - Based on your previous posts, it seems like you're still in your young to mid twenties. When I was in that range, I banged and partied like there was no tomorrow. NYC was perfect for that.

But I'm in my upper 20s now and, as time goes by, priorities change and I've noticed that I am much more focused on individual health, taking care of my body, saving money to buy RE, building business, etc.

But NYC is perfect for someone who is still in the explore/bag/party/drink/network phase of their lives. Ultimately depends on what stage in life your're in

[a beer is enough]

As far as I am concerned Crash, I don't think there is that big of a difference when you are in your 20s. Might as well live it up, hell I would argue even early 30s is valid for that lifestyle having lived in NYC myself.

Hope I am not missing something here given that the average age of marriage has moved up.

[Delta]

(09-16-2018 10:17 PM)Crash_Bandicoot Wrote:  

1) It is INCREDIBLY HARD to focus on personal objectives living here. I am a man of discipline, but even with that, it is difficult. There are a variety of separate projects, such as starting my own location independent business, starting side businesses, losing weight, etc. that are just too difficult to focus on completely. It's because there's so much going on in the city on a daily basis that you feel obligated to check out (especially because I'm paying such high rent) and on the women front, there are so many opportunities to bang women. Last night I promised to work on my business, but ended up getting almost a dozen Bumble notifications from horny women. Ended up going on a date, waking up late this morning and now my day is half over. I have cheated on my diet so many times because of the amount of new things I've wanted to try. Ultimately, it's a matter of discipline.

Hahaha, I do not mean this as an attack on you at all, but the fact that you self-admittedly need to lose weight and still got "almost a dozen Bumble notifications" in one night speaks volumes about the city. I've worked out religiously my entire adult life, have visible abs, every single one of my photos is at least top 15% attractiveness on Photofeeler, and it takes me months to get a dozen Bumble matches out where I am. That is not an exaggeration.

Still waiting for someone who complains about the lack of girlfriend material in NYC to say where in the U.S. is a better bet.

[a beer is enough]

(09-16-2018 10:42 PM)Delta Wrote:  

(09-16-2018 10:17 PM)Crash_Bandicoot Wrote:  

1) It is INCREDIBLY HARD to focus on personal objectives living here. I am a man of discipline, but even with that, it is difficult. There are a variety of separate projects, such as starting my own location independent business, starting side businesses, losing weight, etc. that are just too difficult to focus on completely. It's because there's so much going on in the city on a daily basis that you feel obligated to check out (especially because I'm paying such high rent) and on the women front, there are so many opportunities to bang women. Last night I promised to work on my business, but ended up getting almost a dozen Bumble notifications from horny women. Ended up going on a date, waking up late this morning and now my day is half over. I have cheated on my diet so many times because of the amount of new things I've wanted to try. Ultimately, it's a matter of discipline.

Still waiting for someone who complains about the lack of girlfriend material in NYC to say where in the U.S. is a better bet.

If guys want girlfriend material, they should be boyfriend material and I know I am going to sound like a feminist here. I mean I don't get the logic of guys wanting to raise their notch count and then complaining about the lack of girlfriend material in an area. You are what you attract, seriously.

I'll throw out an idea myself even though I am against it myself, join a religious organization or volunteer group. Do things that show that you have at least some morals instead of spending nights at the nightclub or doing daygame, then come back and tell everyone how tough it is to get a girlfriend.

I'd personally take the no commitment lifestyle myself any day so maybe that is why I am so heavily biased towards NYC.