[LINUX]

(07-19-2015 09:59 PM)TrueSlyr Wrote:  

i cant help it. I've always been like this lol

The mind is reflex organ. 70,000 thoughts a day. A few of those are going to be jealous and envy. It's reflexive thoughts to the current situation. It's normal.

Accept them for what they are but don't let them control you. Don't let a tinder slut live rent free in your mind.

[Fortis]

It's ok to think this way, but don't let it eat you up. I have been there before. I would say , try to minimize the time you spend on social media. Whenever I am on facebook a lot I always troll pictures and wonder what people are up to.

Also, start doing more approaches. Avoid online dating for a bit because it can sometimes put you in a reactive state when your'e waiting for replies and such. Try and be more proactive in your approach to things. I found myself going through those feelings again recently after some experiences I just had.

[cascadecombo]

Sounds like she wants attention.

She talks about fucking guys like its nothing, and yet flakes when it's time to meet.

She could very well be some gay dude trolling tinder to try to get validation from guys who wanna get laid. Or just a chick who wants attention and know guys will put in a bit of extra effort to get laid if they think they can. Since she's told you about banging at least 20 dudes off tinder.

Either way, that shit just sounds like she's an attention ho.

[~wrIghter~]

Man I'm familiar with it. I wouldn't be to excited to fuck a chick who's an admitted slut though. For me the disappointment comes from being close to fucking said girl but losing the chance to seal the deal. A lot of the more attractive girls are busy checking their options. Remember that. A lot of girls who phone's I've had the chance to glance over have many options.

[StrengthBySonny]

One of the things you start to realize as you get older is that there's stuff that's completely out of your control in the first place so there's no reason to beat yourself up over it...

Sounds like this chick is one of those broads that gets pleasure out of rubbing it in your face...

Even if you got it, nothing good would happen as she would just find more ways to torment you.

Just move on.

[Phoenix]

Clicks OPs profile. "United States". Would've put a grand on it.

But don't just dismiss it. Use any and all rejections as a self-improvement drive.

[Ingocnito]

As time rolls on, we're seeing more and more women demanding, or simply blowing off guys who don't do everything on their terms. These girls are bad news, a waste of time, and probably not the best in the sack anyways.

I had a girl off Tinder once who tried this:

Her: "Ok, you're hot, but we're not kissing, I'm not sucking your dick, I don't know where your lips or dick have been. I kiss by child with my lips. So you're going to have to turn the lights off, get yourself hard in the bathroom, I don't want to see your dick, put on a condom, come out and go easy on me, and if for any reason I say stop, you'd better or we've got a problem. Also, don't look at me (with lights off?), if I catch you looking at me I'll say stop."

Me: "Get the fuck out of here, you're a disaster I want no part of."

She left all pissy but I dodged a bullet for sure with that shit. Fact is SHE probably had an std, and clearly is super self conscious and way too weirded out to even be in my presence even though I ran my usual comfort building before getting her to sit on my lap then tell me this bullshit.

[samsamsam]

Dude you dodged a false rape allegation. Holy fuck she sounded nuts. More nuts than a hardware store.

OP, I think there is something like a tinder confessional. I remember catching a quote on that long tinder thread. And it was like some bitch was proud she matched with 1,000 dudes but never met any of them. Just saying the motivations of a tinder cunt is never 100 percent clear. Other than wanting attention.

If some guy was a super hacker he would make all women not match with anyone for a day and see the meltdowns take place from the lack of attention.

[TrueSlyr]

she wasn't bragging about any of this. I asked her how many and thats what she said. I still shouldn't keep thinking about this one

[vinman]

(07-19-2015 04:16 PM)TrueSlyr Wrote:  

why would she lie about a high count?

DHHV
A Display of Higher Hoe Value. She's trying to say that she is in High Hoe demand, and you MUST up your game to be anointed in her panty gravy. You're getting trolled, Son. It's your stadium. If she ain't playing ball, eject.

[OregonToSoCal]

(07-20-2015 02:36 AM)Ingocnito Wrote:  

As time rolls on, we're seeing more and more women demanding, or simply blowing off guys who don't do everything on their terms. These girls are bad news, a waste of time, and probably not the best in the sack anyways.

I had a girl off Tinder once who tried this:

Her: "Ok, you're hot, but we're not kissing, I'm not sucking your dick, I don't know where your lips or dick have been. I kiss by child with my lips. So you're going to have to turn the lights off, get yourself hard in the bathroom, I don't want to see your dick, put on a condom, come out and go easy on me, and if for any reason I say stop, you'd better or we've got a problem. Also, don't look at me (with lights off?), if I catch you looking at me I'll say stop."

Me: "Get the fuck out of here, you're a disaster I want no part of."

She left all pissy but I dodged a bullet for sure with that shit. Fact is SHE probably had an std, and clearly is super self conscious and way too weirded out to even be in my presence even though I ran my usual comfort building before getting her to sit on my lap then tell me this bullshit.

It sounds like she was married and just wanted to get revenge on her husband who probably had an affair. The no kissing, no looking demand from her screams of guilt and shame on her part. Good call on kicking her out, it would not have ended well.

[LAX]

Q. What is the difference between a slut and a bitch?
A. A slut will have sex with everyone, a bitch will have sex with everyone but you.

I joke. But really - it is a random hoe on tinder. Why are you getting upset, your investment is literally zero. Keep swiping.

[Days of Broken Arrows]

Flip the script and tell her you're not about to touch anything that's been with that many men. If she still gives you shit, tell her you'd feel like you'd have the taste of those other men in your mouth when you kiss her.

And that might be a bit more than flipping the script. There's some reality there. Think about who you'd be getting. Think about what you'd be getting.

And while you're recontextualizing, if you need to go nuclear, you might want to mention that some women who have a high number count like that are at least smart enough to get paid. She's giving it away for free. Considering how devalued she's going to be in a few years, she might as well try to make some money with it now...it's unlikely anyone is going to be putting money down on that.

[samsamsam]

(07-20-2015 06:46 AM)TrueSlyr Wrote:  

she wasn't bragging about any of this. I asked her how many and thats what she said. I still shouldn't keep thinking about this one

I just mentioned that example to say, sometimes you really don't know. Unless you ask and even then you can get lied to.

Better just to move on.

[mardan]

Your issue is with what they refer to as "inner game", a term I find lacking and not very likeable, but descriptive of the situation.

Jealousy begins with Freud's Oedipal Complex.
You are either "bitten" by that bug or you are not.

Now, it is possible to reverse the situation, but bullshit talk therapy won't work.
From what I've observed over the years, in myself and with other guys who get laid a lot, scoring many notches will not work, either.
Because notches are conquests and you're trying to deal with those who reject you.

I've dealt with it by "cold showering" myself: imagining the worst in the situation, making it far worse than it is in my mind, and desensitizing myself.
It's not gone altogether, because it has been a part of me from 3-6 y.o. (according to the F guy), but it is far easier to deal with than before.

You might also want to try "alternative" therapies, but this forum is not the venue for that kind of stuff, so you'll have to research them on your own.

[Ingocnito]

(07-20-2015 11:47 AM)LAX Wrote:  

Q. What is the difference between a slut and a bitch?
A. A slut will have sex with everyone, a bitch will have sex with everyone but you.

I joke. But really - it is a random hoe on tinder. Why are you getting upset, your investment is literally zero. Keep swiping.

To add to that, the definition of a whore is: a girl who will have sex for a reason, often not related only to the enjoyment of sex itself (i.e. $$, drugs, status, bragging rights, ego validation), but sex is a bonus on her quest for manipulative ends.

[Onto]

(07-19-2015 09:59 PM)TrueSlyr Wrote:  

(07-19-2015 07:03 PM)forever_beta Wrote:  

You're upset about some dumb whore telling you proudly how many dicks she fucked on tinder? Get real dude. There are so many girls, endless girls, out there. Who cares about one like this?

i cant help it. I've always been like this lol

I think we've all experienced this feeling at one point.

What's funny is we get more worked being rejected by the town slut then we would if we were the only one to bang the town virgin.

Just like it's more demoralizing to get rejected by a 4 than a 9. After all, if the 4 doesn't want to fuck you, how could any girl that's more than that be interested?

There is a lot going on under the hood when it comes to attraction. Everything from a person's mode of being, to their childhood history, to where they are in their life now.

In a very real way when a girl is attracted, it has both everything to do with us and nothing to do with us.

[MMM]

Sorry for tying her up, bro.

[Bill Brasky]

(07-19-2015 04:04 PM)TrueSlyr Wrote:  

Little story:

-Matched girl on Tinder
-She messages me first
-We exchange numbers
-She always is flakey when it comes to meeting, always claims to be busy
-Says she's fucked more than 20 guys from Tinder
-Still wont meet up with me

Hearing that made me upset because she's fucked so many but when it comes to me she just throws me off... yet she initiated first contact.

I've fucked a good number of girls but I cant stop getting caught up with the ones I can't fuck. How do you overcome this?

-She always is flakey when it comes to meeting, always claims to be busy

The implication here is that you've set up dates on several occasions and she's flaked on every occasion. I'm also assuming that you have not had even 1 meeting.

Based on these 2 facts, I can extrapolate that the neediness is coming off very strong which automatically puts you in the orbiter category in her mind.

With Tinder, it needs to be a hard 1 strike policy. No ifs, ands or, buts. First flake = next.

[CH-Toronto]

OP, lose the bitterness, then lose the neediness. Those two traits are pussy kryptonite.

[PapayaTapper]

(07-19-2015 09:59 PM)TrueSlyr Wrote:  

(07-19-2015 07:03 PM)forever_beta Wrote:  

You're upset about some dumb whore telling you proudly how many dicks she fucked on tinder? Get real dude. There are so many girls, endless girls, out there. Who cares about one like this?

i cant help it. I've always been like this lol

"Happiness is wanting what you have, not having what you want".

The older I get the more I recognize the truths and wisdom in many cliches and why they ended up as such.

You're a heterosexual male, and you're banging chicks you meet while sitting on your ass mashing buttons...and you're dwelling on the ones you don't?

Stop it.

That "half glass empty" (another cliche) mentality is a bad habit to get into. It's ok to want "more". Its what keeps evryone who does, and achieves shit from just sitting on the couch being complacent. But ruminating on what you don't have without enjoying what you do have is a fast ticket to misery