I should preface this by saying that when I talk about game, I'm talking about merely one variable in the entire realm of attracting girls. Looks, lifestyle, physique, height, money, fame are all factors that play a role in attraction. Some factors we have more control over than others, but these are exclusive of game as I see it. Game, to me, is the creation of situations to attract a girl through conversation, that otherwise would not exist. Verbal skills, through and through.
By this definition, including quality into the equation becomes murky. Picture a guy who, physically, is an 8 on the 1-to-10. Say he consistently bangs 7s, which would be considered advanced by many here. This guy does
not have the same game as a guy who is a 6, consistently climbing one point above and grabbing the same bitches his better looking friend does.
Just for kicks, let's take a look at
this thread.
Who has more game if they're both banging the same quality, 1st or 2nd guy?
Advanced game is consistently punching above your weight through verbal and nonverbal communication. Anyway, that's my view on quality in the skill-equation.
Quote: (05-19-2015 03:28 PM)WestIndianArchie Wrote:
He spells out everything he's doing. a blueprint to Pussy. He's a guy, just like me and you.
Advanced players are
content generators. They've identified the patterns that attract most girls, and work within that framework, constantly improvising. It's very much like a sport, where players talk about things
slowing down. Advanced players anticipate conversations, eliciting reactions by asking specific questions phrased in juuuust the right way. And if some improvisation softly flops, they can backtrack just fine and cover their bases and still recover the bang.
Quote: (05-21-2015 10:51 AM)WestIndianArchie Wrote:
It could be that there is no such thing as advanced game, it's just internalizing the basics, practice, experience, and refinement. But there is nothing bigger than that.
How is internalizing the basics, practice, experience, and refinement different from becoming advanced at any other skill? I'll post this because it's somewhat relevant. In this video former NBA players talk about what made the difference in the ultimate basketball legacy between athletically gifted freaks like Tmac, and the GOAT, Michael Jordan.
Steve Kerr remarks that Tmac possibly just didn't have the heart compared to someone like Jordan. Isiah Thomas and Kenny Smith correct him and explain that Jordan had great coaching and mastered the fundamentals which, combined with his athletic gifts, propelled him to greater heights than anyone else. Isiah also brings up the interesting example of Larry Bird, a guy who was by no means as athletically gifted as most NBA players, but he did every little basic thing
perfectly, every single time.
Perhaps what you're getting at is what makes a true innovator. Without internalizing the basics you cannot innovate in any field, and that internalization comes through practice. Eventually your brain rewires in such a way that you achieve a level that most people simply will never achieve, though hard work.
But having that motor, that drive, also plays a role. And if you've been around hard-working people, you know that working hard is a skill in itself. Especially in a field where the information is as disjointed as it is in game, setting out to find order in the chaos of all the conflicting information takes a special kind of devotion that only comes from truly finding people fascinating.
On a surface level, game is no more than being an interesting dude, and portraying that in conversation to elicit positive emotions. Except that to do that consistently, with a variety of girls, is extremely fucking hard for many people. It requires a frame of mind that's simply different. You have to find people innately interesting to do that, to study them and deconstruct them.
Advanced players and conversationalists are simply wired differently. The most similar type of people I can think of are comedians. The job of a comedian is to seek out similar experiences and riff about them on stage, by themselves, for an hour or more. Sound familiar?
Look up videos or podcasts of comedians in their everyday lives, and wouldn't you know, they're usually funny, interesting motherfuckers off-stage too. They have put in the work to know what is interesting to people, and find unique ways to show it. They interact in the world differently. Watch
ComediansInCarsGettingCoffee.
Check out early videos of comedians and you can see the process. Dave Chappelle is a perfect example. Some of his early videos are just painful, the way he tries so hard. But through practice he earned a place on the Mount Rushmore of comedy.
I'm fortunate enough to personally know a guy who I consider has extremely advanced game, dare I say world-class. I've studied that ugly motherfucker for years now. His wiring is simply different, and even if he were to explain himself, which he is obviously inclined not to, achieving that proficiency takes so many hours, having the balls to create situations for yourself, putting your ego on the line, and having the level of obsession required to find the patterns but then hash out all the details...
The level of granularity is insane. And most people will never get there, no matter how much information is out there, and it's definitely out there. A lot of people don't even
see it, when it's right in front of their very eyes.
But take heart. Game is simple... just be an interesting dude and show it effectively. Easy.