I need to work on my smile, for some reason ever since I was a teenager I've had trouble smiling. It may sound kind of odd, but I've always been self conscious about how I look when I smile, especially a big open wide mouthed grin. I feel like I look better with a closed lip smile, that often times may look like a smirk.
I post this because, I think "the look" + "the smile" is a great IOI from women and is important to return in like when you receive it from an attractive female.
In the past I've struggled with body language, eye contact, and awkward mannerism and body language. Fortunately through study, practice, and self awareness I've been able to overcome a lot of my issues in that department, and can say that I feel that the majority of the time now I project confident body language, through good posture, slow movements, spreading out and taking up space, etc.
Eye contact is probably the thing I struggled the most with in the past and still need to work on. Fortunately now I know that you mustn't be the first one to break eye contact with a woman, especially when she is the one who initiates the gaze. The most beta and submissive thing you can do is break eye contact and look down and away. This projects a lack of confidence, and also a beta submissive nature to women.
Okay so I know not to break eye contact, so I maintain eye contact, but now my issue is that I return eye contact that is too piercing and strong, some women may find it intriguing, dominant (?), etc., but to a lot of them I probably come across as too serious, rigid, or possibly cold, angry (?), etc.
Now what I need to do is work on my smile, which for me is a difficult thing to do, since I've never been much of a "smiler". Trying to understand my own psychology I think this may stem from a lot of repressed depression and frustrations as a child and teenager that manifested in my body language, mannerism, and social functioning. Also having gone to schools that were at that time mostly lower income and "rougher around the edges", I kind of felt the pressure to put up a "tough guy" kind of face, which became a scowl, to not appear as a weak or easy target.
At this point in my life I need to overcome those past habits and tendencies, I need to relax my face and my gaze, I need to work on smiling and projecting a "positive fun vibe". Smiling is essential in doing this, and I noticed the times when I was receiving strong IOIs from women and then gave them the "look + smile", it made my approach very smooth and successful.
Recently I had a really fine chick (8.5) walking past me in the gym hallway give me the look and the smile, I maintained eye contact with her, but couldn't bring a smile to my face. As she passed me and was walking in the other direction, the voice of reason entered my head. "You shmuck that gorgeous girl just gave you the vibe, why didn't you smile at her, say hi, and stop her to chat for a second!" At that point it was too late and I haven't seen her in the gym since.
I post this because, I think "the look" + "the smile" is a great IOI from women and is important to return in like when you receive it from an attractive female.
In the past I've struggled with body language, eye contact, and awkward mannerism and body language. Fortunately through study, practice, and self awareness I've been able to overcome a lot of my issues in that department, and can say that I feel that the majority of the time now I project confident body language, through good posture, slow movements, spreading out and taking up space, etc.
Eye contact is probably the thing I struggled the most with in the past and still need to work on. Fortunately now I know that you mustn't be the first one to break eye contact with a woman, especially when she is the one who initiates the gaze. The most beta and submissive thing you can do is break eye contact and look down and away. This projects a lack of confidence, and also a beta submissive nature to women.
Okay so I know not to break eye contact, so I maintain eye contact, but now my issue is that I return eye contact that is too piercing and strong, some women may find it intriguing, dominant (?), etc., but to a lot of them I probably come across as too serious, rigid, or possibly cold, angry (?), etc.
Now what I need to do is work on my smile, which for me is a difficult thing to do, since I've never been much of a "smiler". Trying to understand my own psychology I think this may stem from a lot of repressed depression and frustrations as a child and teenager that manifested in my body language, mannerism, and social functioning. Also having gone to schools that were at that time mostly lower income and "rougher around the edges", I kind of felt the pressure to put up a "tough guy" kind of face, which became a scowl, to not appear as a weak or easy target.
At this point in my life I need to overcome those past habits and tendencies, I need to relax my face and my gaze, I need to work on smiling and projecting a "positive fun vibe". Smiling is essential in doing this, and I noticed the times when I was receiving strong IOIs from women and then gave them the "look + smile", it made my approach very smooth and successful.
Recently I had a really fine chick (8.5) walking past me in the gym hallway give me the look and the smile, I maintained eye contact with her, but couldn't bring a smile to my face. As she passed me and was walking in the other direction, the voice of reason entered my head. "You shmuck that gorgeous girl just gave you the vibe, why didn't you smile at her, say hi, and stop her to chat for a second!" At that point it was too late and I haven't seen her in the gym since.