[Go-getter]

http://aeon.co/magazine/society/why-youn...older-men/


Nothing new in the history of mankind, but I thought you might find it interesting.

Getting a 2.5 million yuan ($410,000) apartment and a monthly allowance of 20,000 yuan (5 times local average income) is a lot for being born with a vagina and quite decent looks.

Most men in China could be working their asses off 60 hours per week for 40 years and still not reach that level of possession. Add in to that the significantly delayed/more subtle aging process when compared to whites and such mistress could be economically set up for life for 15 or even 20 years, if she starts when being 20.

She'll probably blow most of it on LV bags and prestigious nonsense, but if she had even the most basic comprehension of saving money, she could easily save for the rest of her life.

[Handsome Creepy Eel]

Just more proof that men will gladly work hard and sacrifice themselves for feminine women, even if the cold cost-benefit calculation is completely against it. That's the magic of being a woman. While it might be unfair, that's just how our species is wired.

Our feminists don't get it and try to introduce savage and cruel laws to compensate for their loss of femininity, but no law or threat can inspire devotion in a man's heart like nurturing instinct does easily.

[aSimpNamedBrokeback]

If there is such a shortage of Chinese women in China, then why are there so many here in the middle of nowhere USA working at shitty mega buffets. Some of them are actually attractive. If you take this whole country there is a small army of chinese women busting their asses in shitty buffets, 10% of whom are 7-8s while back in China men wealthy men are putting up billboards looking for women.

[TravelerKai]

(10-20-2014 06:51 AM)aSimpNamedBrokeback Wrote:  

If there is such a shortage of Chinese women in China, then why are there so many here in the middle of nowhere USA working at shitty mega buffets. Some of them are actually attractive. If you take this whole country there is a small army of chinese women busting their asses in shitty buffets, 10% of whom are 7-8s while back in China men wealthy men are putting up billboards looking for women.

There is a big explanation for all of this, but I will give a quick run down.

1. The shortage refers to poorer Chinese men, and from the countryside, not having enough options for marriage.

2. Chinese culture can get complicated, so the dowry like situation can get complicated between families, on who must pay and how much. Marriage has alot to do with business, face, and connections.

3. There are lots of women in the bigger cities but young men need to save up for an apartment and the prices are out of control right now. By the time most get the money straight, they are almost 30. Which actually isn't too bad, but many avoid dating until they get the money first. As you can imagine it makes them and the parents nervous and salty.

4. The ones working in the buffet could be rich or just working for a sponsorship to get a green card so that they can bring the rest of the family over. They can get that by working or getting married to an American Chinese or others. The rich ones might be part of the family that owns the place. The poor ones not so much. Their English may even be lacking.

5. Even if you could send all those women back to China to marry local men, it would not work. Chinese men do not marry old birds. Only young ones. If you saved money for 7 years to spend on a dowry/apartment of sorts, you would only take a 20 year old one yourself. 20 is the legal marriage age of women in China. 20 to 24 is ideal age.

Also, some of the Chinatown businesses bring these workers to America and they rotate them out all the time. Some just want the money and go back home.

[Simeon_Strangelight]

(10-20-2014 05:07 AM)Go-getter Wrote:  

http://aeon.co/magazine/society/why-youn...older-men/

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Just read the article - it is pure gold on many levels:

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‘If you’re an official, you have to have a mistress, or at least a girlfriend,’ Xiaoxue said, ‘otherwise you’re not a real man.

Ah - China - where a man can be proudly a man

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‘You have to be the girlfriend he wanted when he was 20,’ said Xiaoxue. ‘He wants to believe that you would be with him even if he wasn’t paying.’

When I read that I thought: "With Game and being in good shape she might fall in love with him as those kind of arrangements sometimes backfire against the girl as well."

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In my experience, many of the women expect never to marry their lover. One urban woman, Yu, told me: ‘I have money. My family is rich enough. I even have an apartment of my own. I just wanted to be his mistress so that he wouldn’t have other girlfriends. Apart from his wife.’

For Wen, now in her early 40s, with permed hair and lacquered nails, the limits had once been equally clear. As a young office worker in Beijing, she dated a north-eastern property developer worth tens of millions of dollars. ‘I knew he had to have a wife,’ she said. ‘I’m not stupid. But I thought I was his ernai, and that he loved me. Then I found that he kept three others around the city. I was his “fifth woman”, not the second.’

As I thought - Game recognized - she sacrifices her best dating window for the Alpha - rationalizing it away as keeping the other mistresses at bay.

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Yet modern reformers often singled out concubinage as a sign of China’s backwardness, and pressed for stronger roles for women.

The global Social Justice Warriors and Cultural Commissars never sleep and are busily working on shaming male sexuality as usual. Good thing that Chinese and Japanese are resistant against quite a few of the crazy feminist ideas.

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Besides, Shanshan and her friends seem less like victims and more like players, aware of the limits of their work and astutely using the vulnerabilities of powerful men for their own ends. I admire them

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‘One of my key informants was kept by a wealthy man for more than seven years,’ the anthropologist Zheng Tiantian wrote to me. ‘Her man bought her an apartment at the central location in Shanghai under her name, handed her a business under her name, and on top of that, bought her parents an apartment in a city next to their rural hometown. Her parents now work in their own supermarket that they opened. As for my informant, after she left the man two years ago, she went to a college to get a teaching certificate, when she met an ideal man [in her own words], and they were happily married last year.’ Zheng noted that most women ‘end the relationship with a sufficient amount of financial capital. They operate their own business while finding a man to marry.’

Of course plenty of them come out on top. And frankly that kind of arrangement leaves the girls less emotionally damaged than the cock-carousel or outright prostitution. If they are somewhat attracted to their man sexually those girls can easily come out unscathed and balanced with some cash and a single-digit notch-count. That's more than one can expect from the pretty average college girl in the West.

Having children is of course problematic with the current policies and there are certainly dark stories - still I consider that actually old-school. In the West some 100 years ago this was the way to go. There were no bar-sluts to pick up and an assortment of cock-carousel-riders available for the men with Game. So a well-off guy usually had one or more mistresses, who got compensated for sacrificing her time and youth for the guy. Now the girls have nothing, except Alpha Widow status, mile-high expectations, bitterness and their aging bodies.

Of course I am not trying to paint a rosy picture here, because it sucks for the young poor man in China, who can only compensate it via Game, but I don't think that Bang is out in Chinese.

[berserk]

(10-24-2014 04:26 PM)Zelcorpion Wrote:  

As I thought - Game recognized - she sacrifices her best dating window for the Alpha - rationalizing it away as keeping the other mistresses at bay.

Money and learning game are the two only things that should be on the mind of a young man today. The proof is all around, as much as we like to talk about leaving the US, then being a poor white knight in China is not a life that you'd want. Then again, most guys in these poor countries have more game than the average westerner. They're not running douchebag game, but they're all running abundance game.