Quote: (04-10-2014 05:07 PM)nogamenick Wrote:
Approached her and asked her why she was always alone. She said she just goes to school, the gym and home and likes the "alone time". She's not as cute from up close. Not sure I'd go through the effort of gaming her too much. Should her answer be seen as an indication of total lack of interest?
Sorry to bust on your pick-up technique, but drawing attention to something like why she's alone was not the best idea. It shows you've been observing her for a while, which ups her "hand" and possibly makes her put you in the "creepy" slot.
If I hadn't arrived late on the scene here, I'd have suggested you asking for help with something. Often shy people feel displaced and are awkward socially...except when they feel they are being useful to someone else.
So if you ask for directions, help with exercise, recommendations on gym equipment, etc., that's the best opening. This is called "elder game" or "senior citizen" game in these parts, but despite the silly names it really does work. Often a well-placed question will cause a shy woman to spring to life and become overly helpful.
That, in turn, lets you go back the next time and build from there ("You were helpful -- I almost feel like I should buy you a drink/lunch" is a good teasing line for this, since you dangle the offer but don't make it). If she takes the bait, you can even reverse it: "Actually, I just said that because I forgot my credit card and wanted to see if you'd want to take me out to lunch -- I'm good for it, but just not today."
One of my best pick-ups came at a Fourth of July fireworks celebration when I planted myself next to a girl and asked in rapid success if I could share her blanket, get some of her drink, and eat some chips. People were laughing at this. When she obliged I asked "Hey, can I have $20 too?" To which she responded "Only if you spend it on me." Those were the days.
