I've lived in Japan for 5 years. I'm a black American guy who elevated from just another Air Force punk in Okinawa to the clean cut contractor with a Shibuya bachelor pad. My take is:
Quote: (01-09-2011 06:40 PM)DonovanVC Wrote:
I actually think its better to be black than white here.
I have to respectfully disagree with this. I find a lot of non-black guys usually say this. Think about it. What did you first think of black people before you actually met one? Well if all you know is from TV it's not very flattering. If all you know is from white people, then it's even worse. I think J-girls (and to a greater extent Asian girls) will maybe like black guys once they get to know them, but are instantly immediately attracted to that tall blonde white boy. Automatic attraction. They seriously don't have to do much to get attraction, and if they don't get the ass it's something they did to fuck it up. I've never EVER heard a J-girl say she didn't like white guys, but I've heard a few say they didn't like black guys, for whatever reason. Just go there and look at the billboards. You'll see white people on display more than Japanese. White guys are the standard. Not only because of of the Hollywood imports, but also because they generally believe white guys make better babies. And are rich. Pretty much all the positive stereotypes. In my 5 years in Japan, I find you'll go a lot farther being a boring predictable white guy than a dangerous black guy. In rare cases, like in hip hop clubs, black guys have kind of an edge, but that's about it.
With that said, I think Japan is the most progressive of the Asian countries. J-people are very open minded once they realize you're not scary or a threat. After all, we (black guys) are usually a LOT bigger than they are and can be kinda threatening. But once they chill and relax, they open up to you like no other. You just have to shatter stereotypes and misunderstandings that white guys just don't have to deal with. The black cool factor is there, but it's a small small minority of Harajuku/Shibuya hip type of people. And it's not enough for them to wanna fuck you. It's more like how a little brother or sister would look at you. If you come at them sexually, it's like whoa...
Quote: (01-09-2011 12:33 PM)LatinStylez Wrote:
No, the one who formed the Osaka Crew is African American (he's fluent in Japanese) and he did really well in Japan. Also, my other buddy who banged like 7 girls there in one month is White. As far as Indian guys, I'm not sure how they are received in Japan... I did close one girl while I was there on the same night and she also wanted to see me before I left. I heard Japanese women are open to other nationalities (Black and Latino I heard) so I'm excited to experience pick up there.
Oh snap, are you talking about RedpoleQ (Martin)? I know him too and he's a great guy. Very focused and good person to learn from. He'll tell you I (Bigblack) had a major problem when I first came to Japan but came around after rolling with those guys.
Quote: (01-10-2011 09:53 AM)DonovanVC Wrote:
I am in Tokyo for four months, until first week of May.
Guys who come here for the "2 week" or "4 week" extravanganza usually end up getting the lesser looking girls. You could come here a month and fuck 7 girls (like a poster above mentioned) but quality is a problem when u 1) dont use long game and/or 2) dont speak good japanese
I still think this is a country where "long" game works better, especially if you want a looker. J-girls have notoriously busy social lives, and will often need 1-2 week notice for a date. Once you get that date though, you can def. hit that night.
Long game is the equalizer here to getting a hot girl. The guys who usually have the hottest girls here are the guys that live here or stay for an extended period of time.
Clubs are just one way to get laid here. People often meet at "international" parties (organized by a group that brings together foreiginers and japanese and rents out a bar or club), but the most u usually get out of that are numbers and then u have to work them for awhile.
People also get laid through language exchange. Once again, this lends itself to long game.
People tend to meet through friends as well. I made friends with one J-girl and had to hang out with her several times before she intro'd me to her hot friends. And even then, those friends spoke little English.
I've banged one or two from IP's. It's a good place to go slumming, like Roppongi. These are sweet nice girls, but they are there to meet and get fucked by a foreigner. And you're not the first one to do it to them.
I agree with Donavon 100%. There's a different quality of girl you'll get when you're J improves, and you spend more time there. You've gotta give it a week or two with a non-Roppongi girl. And yes, fucking on the first date is pretty much a given. In fact, if she comes in your apartment you can pretty much assume she wants to fuck. Still, I've never seen a gaijin, white or black, roll with anything close to what J-guys get. When you see the super cute super hot gyaru with the perfect 10 look, chances are she doesn't speak English and are not into dating gaijin. And she'll be with a J-guy, usually gyaru-o. No exceptions. Gaijin guys gotta slum with at best 8.5 looking girls, which are still hot. But you're not gonna see that perfect 10 on your arm unless you speak immaculate J and are famous somehow. Think the black Softbank guy. Unless something extreme happens in her life, like she gets deported to a foreign country or she does porn or something, a perfect 10 hottie in Japan usually does not date non-Asian looking dudes. I've come close, and that was by accident. I had a Korean guy with me, her girlfriend was Korean, she was really into Beenie man, and at that time happened to be at the Hub in Shibuya. Even then, I only had her on the roster for like 3 months. She got the experience she wanted and then went back to J-guys lol.
Fashion will get you everywhere in Japan. Do not, i repeat, DO NOT come there dressed like you dress in the states. Japanese culture is about your personality being reflected on what you wear. If you wear the drab boring western uniform, girls will not notice you. J-guys dress sooooo good, so use them as the standard. For us bigger bulkier guys, it'll be kinda hard to find what we want all the time, but for skinny guys 150 and under, you can pretty much wear anything a J-guy can wear. I wouldn't approach a girl unless I was dressed sharply. If you wanna get rejected a lot and have your mojo go down, approach a girl with what you brought in your suitcase. Seriously, go shopping and blend in. It'll get you laid.
A lot of this is my perspective from living in Tokyo. I've only been to Osaka once during Xmas/New Years (the best time to visit Japan btw) and fucked a 33 year old bar girl. Not my best, but the Osaka people in general seemed a bit friendlier than Tokyo people. Maybe it's better there, and in Kansai on a whole. IDK. I'm not done with Japan yet. I'm just making a pit stop in Europe before I roll back. When I come again I'm gonna spend more time in Kansai. Okinawa is great for vacation but bad for gaming. Nagoya is ok but you run out of stuff to do fast. I say if you learn J or speak J, head to the small towns north of Tokyo. Girls there are cool. Yokohama and most of Kanagawa just avoid. Military guys fucked that up for us.