Quote: (12-22-2013 08:24 PM)josephkay Wrote:
Quote: (12-22-2013 08:29 AM)Days of Broken Arrows Wrote:
She's a gold digger and he didn't have enough money or power. I'm surprised none of you picked up on this. Must be a DC thing.
In DC, there is a clique of nice-looking ex-sorority women involved in the upper crust charity scene. They even did a (failed) show about it, "Blonde Charity Mafia."
This girl's sorority charity project, which she speaks of in the video, is a training ground for her to try to leap into the DC "society" scene -- the one covered on blogs like Pamela's Punch and K Street Kate.
The women that run in these circles generally will only date seriously rich men -- at least when it comes to putting on a public front. She is the junior version of these women. DC attracts these women. So does New York. If you're outside of these scenes, it's easy to not get how cliquish they are. But I've rubbed elbows with these people and they're a society unto themselves. Her goal, IMO, is to break into this scene, which is why she's trying to achieve low-level celebrity via Date Lab. The problem for her is they didn't set her up with someone "important" enough.
DOBA, do girls like this actually succeed in their gold-digging? In my experience, the type of guy who is obviously going to be rich and successful and who is also conventionally attractive with good social skills has no problem attracting girls before he's made it. Like a Wharton M.B.A. student dating a Penn undergrad. I don't know what Penn girls look like, but they might have more to offer than the DateLab girl. I can see those guys getting picked off early. And Caitlin doesn't strike me as sharp enough to find a guy who might become wealthy like say a Georgetown law student specializing in corporate law. So that leaves the ugly rich guys or ones with bad social skills. Would Caitlin be impressed with the guys who would be left? Or is that stuff even an issue? Or would she be okay with being the second-wife of a wealthy forty year-old? Is she aware of the trade-offs?
They exist. Google "The Young and the Guest List," Washington Life's listing of the creme de la creme of such types. Look who is featured in the blogs I mentioned, K Street Kate and Pamela's Punch. Or who attends the society parties like the Capital Ball, which was just held in Nov. You can also look up "Blonde Charity Mafia."
The trajectory, from what I see in DC, is girls become part of the scene from ages 22-26, meet someone, and marry by 29-30. They usually marry men in their thirties who have been around but now want to start families. Often, these guys are senior vice presidents of firms or work on K Street or something of the sort. These types meet at the charity balls, the exclusive happy hours, or private upscale parties.
Again, this is a "society" scene -- totally different from anything in the 'burbs or your average city hipster. Some do, in fact, end up single or as "kept women." Others try to break into the scene and fail because they lack the right background, looks, or social skills.
(Digression: I once dated a woman who was part of this scene. She would denigrate other women because they were "nouveau riche" and didn't have her Mayflower/DAR pedigree. What she was doing with a lowlife WOP like me I didn't ask, but I got in on the ground level as a sex buddy in college, so I guess I filled some sort of niche for her. Anyway, my point is the snobbery that goes on is often hilarious and soap opera-like. This is the type of woman who would keep Kaitlin from being accepted into DC society circles because her background wasn't quite right. Ohio! OMG! Meow!)
Back to the story. Rich men have wives that do charity work. Simple as that. So if you want to nab a wealthy husband, you hang with that crowd. I just found out Kaitlin is involved with DC's Cherry Blossom Celebration events committee and with Cupid's Undie Run and St. Jude's Walk. So I'm more convinced than ever this is the scene she's trying to break into and this is the type of guy she expects to meet. "The Young and the Guest List" ain't easy to get on, after all.
Addendum: The men often marry these types of women to plug into the scene as well. It's hard to explain, exactly, their motivations beyond that. Maybe they're private school types trying to marry someone like their mothers? But what they *don't* seem to want to do is settle down with the average hottie from the 'burbs. They want someone socially connected who knows people and can serve as a "hostess" as well as a wife. It's almost like they're hiring a co-worker as much as they're marrying a woman. This is DC for you.