I'm writing to tell you what happened to me and I'm asking for advice on how to proceed. First, some stats:
Age: 39
Height: 5' 9" (175 cm)
Weight: 133 lbs (60 kgs)
No smoking
Very light social drinker
I have always had a problem with low sex drive. Usually once a week is enough for me. I enjoy my career and spent a lot of time on it. I used internet porn about once a week for years. It has had a disastrous effect on me. I have been reading men's blogs like return of kings and forums like this one. I committed myself to get cleaned up and get game.
A month ago, I got tested and talked to my doctor about ED. My total testosterone level is: 291 ng/dl. The reference range given by the lab is 249 - 835 ng/dl. Yes it is very low. My TSH is normal at 1.73 mU/l (0.27 - 4.20 range). I am reading on how to raise testosterone levels naturally. I'm eating better and have started lifting weights.
In the meantime I also tried Cialis. I took one pill and masturbated without porn. Just fantasizing about sex with previous girlfriends. It worked! I got hard and stayed hard for more than an hour. And so I thought to myself: even with low T, Cialis worked wonders. Maybe it's not such a big problem after all.
I am slender and look young for my age. I got a cute 20 year old student to go on a weekend trip with me. I thought I was going to have crazy sex with her with Cialis all weekend. That's not what happened. I got hard when she gave me oral. But when I put on a condom to have vaginal sex, I started going soft. We couldn't do it for more than a few minutes before I lost my erection. WTF happened? In the end, she made me cum by giving me a handjob. I was only semi-hard then. This happened again several times over the weekend. I would get hard without condoms. And when the condom came on, I start going soft. There was no alcohol at all that weekend. So it's not that.
This has happened before when I was in my 20s and had no problems getting hard. I have only had great sex with one girlfriend and it's because she was on birth control and we did it without condoms. Other girlfriends were not on birth control and I had to use condoms. Even in my 20s, my hard on got softer when using a condom. I could still have good sex then. Maybe went from 100% to 90%. But now at 39, I'm going from 100% to 70-75% hard with a condom.
Has this happened to any of you guys before? Cialis did work. I got rock hard for more than an hour just rubbing it and thinking about sex with previous GFs. No porn, just fantasies in my head. Porn is very bad for you and I know that. But Cialis stopped working when I was with a real girl and the condom came on.
I will try to raise my testosterone levels naturally. In the meantime, do you have any advice that you can give me on this problem?
It's hard to have sex with a girl without condoms. I'm not looking to get anybody pregnant or catch a disease. But I don't want to get into a long term relationship just to try bareback either. But I need to find out if I can still do it without condoms.
thanks,
zurich123
Age: 39
Height: 5' 9" (175 cm)
Weight: 133 lbs (60 kgs)
No smoking
Very light social drinker
I have always had a problem with low sex drive. Usually once a week is enough for me. I enjoy my career and spent a lot of time on it. I used internet porn about once a week for years. It has had a disastrous effect on me. I have been reading men's blogs like return of kings and forums like this one. I committed myself to get cleaned up and get game.
A month ago, I got tested and talked to my doctor about ED. My total testosterone level is: 291 ng/dl. The reference range given by the lab is 249 - 835 ng/dl. Yes it is very low. My TSH is normal at 1.73 mU/l (0.27 - 4.20 range). I am reading on how to raise testosterone levels naturally. I'm eating better and have started lifting weights.
In the meantime I also tried Cialis. I took one pill and masturbated without porn. Just fantasizing about sex with previous girlfriends. It worked! I got hard and stayed hard for more than an hour. And so I thought to myself: even with low T, Cialis worked wonders. Maybe it's not such a big problem after all.
I am slender and look young for my age. I got a cute 20 year old student to go on a weekend trip with me. I thought I was going to have crazy sex with her with Cialis all weekend. That's not what happened. I got hard when she gave me oral. But when I put on a condom to have vaginal sex, I started going soft. We couldn't do it for more than a few minutes before I lost my erection. WTF happened? In the end, she made me cum by giving me a handjob. I was only semi-hard then. This happened again several times over the weekend. I would get hard without condoms. And when the condom came on, I start going soft. There was no alcohol at all that weekend. So it's not that.
This has happened before when I was in my 20s and had no problems getting hard. I have only had great sex with one girlfriend and it's because she was on birth control and we did it without condoms. Other girlfriends were not on birth control and I had to use condoms. Even in my 20s, my hard on got softer when using a condom. I could still have good sex then. Maybe went from 100% to 90%. But now at 39, I'm going from 100% to 70-75% hard with a condom.
Has this happened to any of you guys before? Cialis did work. I got rock hard for more than an hour just rubbing it and thinking about sex with previous GFs. No porn, just fantasies in my head. Porn is very bad for you and I know that. But Cialis stopped working when I was with a real girl and the condom came on.
I will try to raise my testosterone levels naturally. In the meantime, do you have any advice that you can give me on this problem?
It's hard to have sex with a girl without condoms. I'm not looking to get anybody pregnant or catch a disease. But I don't want to get into a long term relationship just to try bareback either. But I need to find out if I can still do it without condoms.
thanks,
zurich123