Quote: (01-05-2014 04:21 AM)Thailand_Veteran Wrote:
Anyway I never understood, why girls allow their thai bfs to officially have a mia noi, but this right never can be claimed by farangs.
Yeah, not as common as you might think - at least not openly.
Thai women are insanely jealous and controlling over their Thai boyfriends and husbands too - staying faithful is not just something they expect from farang. In many Thai relationships with a player guy, there's always the suspecting and accusing and the hiding and the lying, even if everyone knows what's going on - kind of like a scrappy, full-contact chess game. haha
At least one of my Thai buddies was knifed by his girl in the arm when found out...and this was no bar whore he was dating. A clean and "proper" fair-skinned middle-class beauty from the North. 20 or so years old. A girl that could have easily swooped up another guy if she wanted but instead she wigged and put her man in check. They're married now and I guarantee he still strays when she lets him out of sight and she probably still goes batshit crazy even when he doesn't.
Nights out on the town with Thai couples often end up in screaming fights over the woman getting jealous (though fight often means her screaming at him lol) and I've seen a good handful of these come to blows, from either side.
Also, don't forget that Thailand is the capital of the minced pecker over cheating (the drugged tea, the chop, then dice it up and throw it to the dogs). While not common enough to lose sleep over (Leighton, cough, cough, ahem), remember that this usually happens to Thai guys rather than farang (though that could just reflect the fact that more Thai men exist in Thailand haha). And then you hear the ocassional story of a wife tracking down her husband's mistress and giving her the acid to the face.
Thai men often take huge risks with their frolicking that farang are just less willing to take, partly because another pussy isn't important enough to many of us and partly because Thai men have a much easier time navigating cultural pitfalls and knowing what they can and can't get away with.
As Afarang mentioned, a lot of these girls will look the other way if you at least try to be discreet and not put it right in their face though - saving the fun and games for out of town is always best. The moneyed local guys often manage women from different cities and go on a lot of trips. If you're willing to lie and keep a straight face when under fire, she'll finish her bitching and keep plugging along. She'll even up her game, though she'll start acting jealous more often.
I think the main things for staying out of the danger zone are a) don't make her lose face by flaunting your mistress around town and b) don't put her in a position where she fears losing you to the younger, more beautiful version (again, a loss of face for her and/or the loss of financial livelihood of being in a relationship, due to gender disparities).
The competition is really cutthroat between these women too, making it hard to stay faithful. I had one girl stalk me for a while (we had a slight history but had never banged) and after I told her I had a girlfriend she drug me off to an hourly love hotel (this was a girl that worked in a pharmacy??), footed the bill, tried to give me money afterward (lol), treated me to a meal, etc. She pretended to understand I was taken, but I started ignoring her calls after I sobered up. She ramped up the texting like crazy so then one day to scare her off had my Thai buddy text in Thai "who is this?" I figured she'd assume it was my girlfriend and go silent for a while.
Nuh-huh. She fired back in Thai "That's my fucking boyfriend blah blah blah I'll kill you" or however it went. Don't remember exactly but I do recall my buddy looking at me with these big huge eyes and going, "Oh, it really bad, man." ahaha Oooops....
I went and got a new phone and told my girl I lost the other. She was, of course, as suspicious as fuck. Looked over my shoulder for a while when we went out after that expecting to bump into the crazy. My ole' lady was the sweet and innocent type that wouldn't even touch a drop of booze or go out - not to mention tiny - so I felt pretty guilty about putting her in danger.
Gotta stay on your toes with those broads.
Much respect to the Thai dudes though; they wage this battle constantly just to enjoy the variety.
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