I've noticed thinking back to my younger days, I always had some friends who barely had any rules imposed on them growing up. Most of them had sisters (+/- 2 years) and I think this may have had something to do with it.
One of my good friends had a very popular sister, she would always have cheerleaders over for sleepovers throughout high school, and he got to hang out with them. I'm convinced this is how he developed his confidence, being only average looking and around 5'6.
A few other things:
He had all the hbo/showtime/cinemax channels, so there would be some porn at night (although wasn't hardcore). This was before "tube" sites and you'd actually have to download the movie, which definitely isn't what you wanted to do at home. Of course he could, since he had his own computer, which wasn't that common in those days given computers in the late 90s were very expensive. Porn simply wasn't a huge deal to him since he constantly had access to it, and most guys had to sneak around somehow to view it.
He was allowed to throw parties, his parents were the type who were always going to Vegas. At these parties, there would be alcohol, weed, loud music - and his parents knew about it and didn't care as long he got good grades. Also, because of his sister he had popularity by default and people wanted to be around him because of his parties (even guys much cooler than him wanted to befriend him).
He always had the latest Abercrombie & Fitch (the brand in the late 90s) stuff and a new Chevy Camaro. Also had one of those flat Qualcomm cell phones when basically everyone had a fat Nokia.
What I'm saying is, it's like his parents wanted to make him as popular as possible, knowing he was small and probably needed some help with it, they knew doing this would only help him in the future. Having an attractive sister only helped, but wasn't everything.
I also knew a lot of guys who were raised the opposite. I'd say the majority weren't allowed to watch HBO and had to wait for the (free preview weekend), were expected to wear whatever clothes was given to them regardless of how it fit, and some were even told to wear glasses over contacts. Most were excessively warned about partying too much - but not even because of the partying - because they might hook up with a girl.
Families that "raise" want nothing more than you to not be sexually active. It even extends to movies (non-porn). You can watch movies that depict all sorts of violence, drug use - just make sure there's no sex scenes in it.
The point I'm making, parents can do a lot more than they realize. This kid may have come from the higher end of upper-middle class, and that could be another explanation.
The boys who are most "raised" are usually the solid middle class, sometimes bordering on possibly first tier of upper middle. Also, when boys are only present, the raising seems stronger. Something about having a sister in the mix seems to loosen even the strictest families.
Lower class, and true upper class simply don't "raise" as hard. He married a woman who is Playmate material, lives in Scottsdale, and is making over 150K a year. Marriage is only beta if she isn't hot (my humble opinion only).
Wondering what others think. Do some guys just have an advantage via their surroundings/upbringing? What if every guy was brought up like him?
One of my good friends had a very popular sister, she would always have cheerleaders over for sleepovers throughout high school, and he got to hang out with them. I'm convinced this is how he developed his confidence, being only average looking and around 5'6.
A few other things:
He had all the hbo/showtime/cinemax channels, so there would be some porn at night (although wasn't hardcore). This was before "tube" sites and you'd actually have to download the movie, which definitely isn't what you wanted to do at home. Of course he could, since he had his own computer, which wasn't that common in those days given computers in the late 90s were very expensive. Porn simply wasn't a huge deal to him since he constantly had access to it, and most guys had to sneak around somehow to view it.
He was allowed to throw parties, his parents were the type who were always going to Vegas. At these parties, there would be alcohol, weed, loud music - and his parents knew about it and didn't care as long he got good grades. Also, because of his sister he had popularity by default and people wanted to be around him because of his parties (even guys much cooler than him wanted to befriend him).
He always had the latest Abercrombie & Fitch (the brand in the late 90s) stuff and a new Chevy Camaro. Also had one of those flat Qualcomm cell phones when basically everyone had a fat Nokia.
What I'm saying is, it's like his parents wanted to make him as popular as possible, knowing he was small and probably needed some help with it, they knew doing this would only help him in the future. Having an attractive sister only helped, but wasn't everything.
I also knew a lot of guys who were raised the opposite. I'd say the majority weren't allowed to watch HBO and had to wait for the (free preview weekend), were expected to wear whatever clothes was given to them regardless of how it fit, and some were even told to wear glasses over contacts. Most were excessively warned about partying too much - but not even because of the partying - because they might hook up with a girl.
Families that "raise" want nothing more than you to not be sexually active. It even extends to movies (non-porn). You can watch movies that depict all sorts of violence, drug use - just make sure there's no sex scenes in it.
The point I'm making, parents can do a lot more than they realize. This kid may have come from the higher end of upper-middle class, and that could be another explanation.
The boys who are most "raised" are usually the solid middle class, sometimes bordering on possibly first tier of upper middle. Also, when boys are only present, the raising seems stronger. Something about having a sister in the mix seems to loosen even the strictest families.
Lower class, and true upper class simply don't "raise" as hard. He married a woman who is Playmate material, lives in Scottsdale, and is making over 150K a year. Marriage is only beta if she isn't hot (my humble opinion only).
Wondering what others think. Do some guys just have an advantage via their surroundings/upbringing? What if every guy was brought up like him?