[N°6]

My GF's OKCupid password is saved to my computer's browser. She has an account there to nominally chat to women. She gave me her password when she joined and all seemed to be above board.

I don't normally check up but I did so tonight. She has a lot of mail from girls - all small talk and no-one taking the initiative. One conversation however has direction and a declared interest to meet up but this is from a man. I can see from his profile that he has a few things in common with her.

She has agreed in principle to meet him for a drink and they have exchanged numbers. It seems that messages over a few days old have been deleted.

I have his phone number, any suggestions on my next move?

[Pacesetter20]

Kick her to the curb before she does the same to you (or worse tells you that she is pregnant). Give zero explanation.

Edit: text him and ask what his move is and share with the forum.

[Therapsid]

Got to dump her man. Assuming she's your gf and not just one regular girl out of a stable. Even then I'd lose her, frankly.

Move on. There's no game to be played here.

As a larger point, though, if you think a girl's committed to you, there's no reason why she should maintain an online dating profile. If she's still going on there, you know she's looking for new dick. It's that simple. Saying she's going on there to talk with women is a lame, transparent excuse. Hell, girls will close their accounts after a couple of weeks of seeing a guy if they like him enough.

The good news is, you don't have to bother playing boyfriend anymore.

[pheonix500000]

why not have some fun first, see how far you can push her before you let her go now that you know where you stand.

[Sombro]

Does she like piña coladas?

[eradicator]

Just leave her. tell her whatever you want, just dump her.

[CactusCat589]

Dump her and tell her a lie like "You rented video tapes in my name and I'm upset at the late charges" that makes her demand to know the *real* reason. At which point you say "You know what, this conversation is over. Don't talk to me ever again." Make sure she can't damage your social circle.

Done. Also, do it over the phone, this doesn't merit a face to face conversation.

Impeccable timing to find this out. Think how many thousands of guys wish they were in this exact, ideal situation and could've gotten ahead of the curve of their girlfriends and saved months or even years of their lives.

[Christian McQueen]

Be thankful you caught her whore ways early.

She is a cheating whore. I know it's tough to swallow but use this opportunity to swallow the red pill completely.

Dump her. Do NOT justify her actions, ask for an explanation or anything.

The irony is you'll wind up being the best wingman for her date because I guarantee you money she'll go fuck him to boost her self esteem after you dump her.

Then immediately start gaming other girls and fuck 10 new ones. Delete her number, cease all contact. There is no other option where you come out ahead. I've been down this road a few times and would have loved this kind of advice to save me grief, time and money.

[WestIndianArchie]

Post sounds suspicious

But the damage is already done.
You can't trust her, now you should try and get as much out of her as you want. Sex, Money, cooking, feelings.

At the same time, you need to start talking to (i.e. fuck) other bitches.

Let this be a lesson to you.

WIA

[SeanBateman]

Walk away. And in the future don't bother with girls' passwords and don't let girls use your computer. When you are in a girl's presence have the attention be focused on you, and when you are not in her presence who cares what she is doing.

[Every10GivesMeA10]

Going through girls' messages is a horrific thing. It can even be scary. It makes it easier to swallow the red pill though.

[AneroidOcean]

Document the messages (in case she tries to slander you amongst your friends or other girls), then get a good breakup fuck session in, then tell her to get dressed and get the fuck out, that you never want to see her again.

[AntiTrace]

(09-25-2013 01:07 PM)N°6 Wrote:  

My GF's OKCupid password is saved to my computer's browser. She has an account there to nominally chat to women.

Everytime I see a chick with a profile that says "I have a man, I'm only here for friends" or some type of bullshit, I know that chick is looking for some strange dick on the site.

Its a dating website. You have facebook/cell phones/twitter/snapchat/etc/etc/etc if they want to chat with friends. If your a dating website its for one reason only.

[SeanBateman]

(09-26-2013 03:30 PM)AneroidOcean Wrote:  

Document the messages (in case she tries to slander you amongst your friends or other girls), then get a good breakup fuck session in, then tell her to get dressed and get the fuck out, that you never want to see her again.

I would say don't document anything. Just end it and walk away. Be cool, not dramatic. It doesn't matter what she says or thinks or feels. Don't try to get any sort of emotional revenge in the course of the conversation. Do it in a public place so no one starts throwing lamps across the room or brandishing kitchen knives (I've had that happen in my apartment). You're not getting married or having kids with the girl so it really doesn't matter. Just be cool and then aim for higher quality (in terms of looks) for the next one, and then the one after that. The best kind of revenge you can exact on a girl you've been involved with is to bang another girl who is hotter. Don't be an emotional dramatic little bitch about it.

[Ensam]

(09-26-2013 03:45 PM)AntiTrace Wrote:  

Everytime I see a chick with a profile that says "I have a man, I'm only here for friends" or some type of bullshit, I know that chick is looking for some strange dick on the site.

Its a dating website. You have facebook/cell phones/twitter/snapchat/etc/etc/etc if they want to chat with friends. If your a dating website its for one reason only.

100%. I've had girls like this contact me on OKC and within a few messages admit that they're looking for a little strange and that they're boyfriends are not aware of it. The cover story is just there in case someone they know is browsing the site or their boyfriend sees it open on their browser.

[LeightonBlackstock]

Recently, I've gone out of my way to message the girls that are either "Seeing Someone" or "Just looking for friends". It's far easier to cut to the chase with them.

I jokingly call them out on this and within a total of a few messages it's crystal clear that they just want a one night stand. This is my advice for anyone who uses OK Cupid.

Last week I was talking to a married woman who was 'Just Looking for Friends' (i.e just wanted sex). (Transferred her onto Skype, 6/10, didn't pursue, annoyingly she used a fake photo which was an 8/10. This shows the lengths girls will go to on that site in order to get a ONS. Apparently her male friends were on the site and were messaging the fake photo. The 'I'm just looking for friends' thing gives the girl an alibi, albeit a crappy one).

On Saturday, I briefly met up with an OKC girl who was in the same club as me. She is also 'Seeing Someone', her intentions are obvious. (Watch this space.)

Get rid of her. But do it as calmly and nonchalantly as Noam Chomsky in his pyjamas.

[SeanBateman]

(09-26-2013 04:23 PM)LeightonBlackstock Wrote:  

Get rid of her. But do it as calmly and nonchalantly as Noam Chomsky in his pyjamas.

Bingo.