Quote: (09-15-2013 04:27 PM)JimNortonFan Wrote:
I've talked with my brother and a close friend about the past. Neither really want to talk about it because my brother doesn't want to dredge his own stuff up and the friend doesn't get affected by pretty much anything so can't understand it.
Agreed with WIA - gotta figure out a way to get this past worked out with yourself, and both your brother and your friend are not working for you in this regard.
Accordingly, maybe it doesn't even matter if you talk it over with other people, so long as you figure out a way to work it out with yourself.
Sometimes, when I am trying to work some issues out with myself, i will write the issues out... that's just my own way.. .and then I would share certain aspects of the issue with others. Usually, I would not share all aspects with others b/c that is just my nature. I will chose what parts to share with others and in the end, i am working out the global matter with myself.... and sometimes, for me, going for jogs can help while I am trying to ponder over aspects of the puzzle...
Then, once you have a story, then you can decide what parts, if any, of that story to share with others... but at least you have a story in your own head... which is the most important.
Let's say for example that you lost a job, a relationship or a home, and any of those things can be very stressful until you have a story about why it happened and something to keep up your self-esteem.