Quote: (07-20-2013 04:24 AM)basilransom Wrote:
I don't openly compete with other men for girls. It's completely self-abasing and no girl is worth it.
1. If some guy flirts with her, I'll pinch her ass and ignore him.
2. If she physically left my side to talk to some guy, I'd abandon her at the venue.
I have nothing against a guy mildly flirting with my girl - I could be a platonic friend, for all he knows. Game recognize game. Any dude who would get mad at that is a fucking idiot with a Napoleon complex. If he finds out I'm with her and continues, I'll nudge her along. Cool dudes know their girl is hot, and that guys will try to hit on her. The test is not that you hit on her, it's what you do after you find out she's taken.
At the end of the day, she holds the power. If she wants to fuck another guy in front of you, she will, and there's nothing you can do about it. Instead of making yourself a bitch by trying to prevent the inevitable, just roll with it, and reserve the right to mack other chicks if it came down to it. If you were serious with a girl and she pulled this move, you should thank the guy, for outing what an unfaithful whore she is - plus he did you the favor of taking her off your hands!
95% of the time, this 'what would you do to the other guy' is just male cattiness. There is no clear status of hierarchy among a random group of men, so many men are anxious to resort to displays of violence to feel high status, the same way bitches might flash expensive purses and Louboutins to show how high status they are. Why would any man buy into this stupid game? He'd be a fool to.
That said, for a one-night stand situation, I'll generally try and shield her from other men, sometimes even (shitty) wingmen. In that situation, her decision of who to fuck that night can change on a dime, so you minimize risk by keeping her away from interlopers.
I disagree.
WE hold the power.
If a guy comes up to me and a girl and just starts talking to her while ignoring me, I know that he's already lost the battle.
Why?
Because any newbie can tell you that when you approach a group, you must talk to everybody, and especially give deference to males. You have to be down with the guy.
So, from the get go, I know that this joker doesn't have as good game or experience that I have.
This is when the fun begins and you can actually start toying with him. You can get your girl in on the fun and laugh about it later with her (this also helps build your bond with her).
Another thing that I do is physically block him off from her. Funny, the girl in this video looks kind of like the Danish girl.
This happened last night when I was hanging with the Danish model-ish chick.
I left her with her friends for second to use the bathroom (avoid this), and of course there was a guy talking to her when I returned because she's attractive.
I just walked up and inserted myself between them and put my arm around her waist.
Her balked at it, but I contrasted that aggressive move by being nice to him.
Then I framed the entire conversation to pull the rug out from under him and send him home (literally).
He was trying to play the lost foreigner card.
I directed him to the nearest subway, and then I took my girl and left with her.
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I wish that guys would get their group game together. This is the most frequent mistake I see guys doing.
They are walking around with a tiny social intelligence where they can't recognize the proper way to talk to a group of strangers.
There are so many insulting implications when you just go right for the girl.
You insult the guys in the group when you should be befriending them.
You also insinuate that the girl is a slut and that her social circle- something that she believes has value, is meaningless.
Of course we know that she can be turned out into a slut, but the art of all this is to be discreet.
She needs to know that if she does go off with you to have fun, that you will be able to comport yourself in a way that preserves her relationship to society. This is real comfort. Women care more about the group than anything.