Lots of work to be done here.
1. Read Bang (game in plain english)
2. Read the mystery method (game in internet jargon, but super specific)
- venue change aka bouncing - the more places that she sees you in, that you are together in - the more she thinks that the 2 of you are a pair. And usually when you bounce, you're the person that she knows at the new venue. (it's also key to never ever go to her home bar/club. too much distraction if your game is weak. If your game is strong, you have to blow her shit up in her own spot and run it. You have to turn into a social monster, impress everyone, in particular the chicks, bro up the dudes - even the haters - that's advanced level game)
3. Read Tuth's post on the 1st night bang recipe. (updated versions of 1 and 2)
http://www.rooshvforum.network/thread-8681.html
You can bring a chick back to your spot and one part of her wants to re-enact that Farrah Abraham tape, the other part of her is wondering how many likes she got for her latest Instagram pic.
Per Mystery Method
- a chick doesn't want to feel like a slut
- if she gets too hot and bothered too fast and realizes it, she's gonna go into lock down mode - cause she doesn't want to take yet another strange dick. Contrary to popular belief, even within the game community, bitches love sex, they love lots of sex, they'd fuck the entire nation if they could get away with it and not lose face.
Per WIA
- if you go out with a chick, or bring a chick back, SEX IS ON THE TABLE
- even if she consciously and verbally says that sex is not on the table, part of her knows that it's a possibility. Doesn't matter if she's wearing her granny panties, didn't shave her cunt or legs, or is on her period. If she's out with you, and back at your spot, she knows that she can take some dick.
This applies to conservative muslims in Saudi Arabia to raging lesbians in SF - they all want dick. Even if objectively this is not the case, as a player, you must believe this. You are an apostle and you're delivering the Gospel of Sex to these leg locked heathens. Remember, Jah, Allah, Buddah, Yahweh and the Atheists want you to fuck her. It's your highest calling.
So what you should do next time
- go through a "sex ritual" - Tuth has it in his post, but google "overcoming last minute resistance" and you'll get Google's Cache of the Mystery Method.
Incense? Candles? Pantera or Cannibal Corpse playing quietly in the background...
- when you're starting to mug down, you are the first to pull away.
"we shouldn't be doing this"
"you're very bad"
^this is some straight hamster shit, but basically her beauty is overpowering her and you've got to maintain some self control
This is how you prevent LMR. You withdraw the sexual feelings and the intimate feelings before she over heats and gets scared.
And then you re-engage. You might do this a few times before she's the one unzipping your pants.
I used to unsnap a chicks bra while we frenched through her shirt. Mark of a pro, but I had a few chicks recognize that the girls were free and it freaked them the fuck out. And not on some haha, I see you've done this before, but on some...oh no, i'm being seduced, just like all the other bitches, i'm not special, this whole thing isn't special, fuck you dude.
A lot of game is state control. Restraining yourself when you should be going ahead, and going ahead when all you want to do is hold the wall. You should be bold in the approach, and controlled during the close.
The old wive's tale is that a chick wants to fuck the 15 minutes AFTER you do.
So that's why you play this little game.
Young players get a bitch through the door, throw em up against the wall like you see in the movies, and then proceed to take off shirts, and bend her over the corner of your Ikea Ektorp Sofa and precede to go all Nacho Vidal.
^that's the 2nd date.
The first date is attempt to overload her "logical" brain with her emotional brain.
Even if you do this consistently, you're still going to run into a chick who's apprehensive.
In some cases, she wants you, but she's scared.
In the worst case scenario, she doesn't want you anymore. Something you did snapped her out of lovey dovey mood.
In either case, you just won't know.
So the FREEZE OUT
As Mystery explains tight game up until this point implies
- you're doing kino
- you're doing compliance tests
So when her clam clams up, he advises (and this is what i've done in the past)
- get up
- blow out the candles/incense
- check your email
- go make a sandwich
- challenge her to game of checkers (not candy crush - no smart phones, nothing to remind her of what time it is)
This freeze = the withdrawal of both the sexual and intimate good feelings that she was getting.
The mistake most guys make, and believe me, i've made them...had this chick from Monterrey in my bed, I know she wanted dick, but it was too quick for her to be back at my place...
Most guys will stay cuddled up on the couch, cooing, seemingly a little negative because of his hard dick and her unwillingness to relieve his biological need. Blueballs will make you mad as fuck.
Well she's getting what she wants, intimacy with a good dude.
But if she senses that intimacy is not really reciprocated and this was an elaborate ruse to get her ass up and biting a pillow - the connection decays.
So you freeze her out. You keep the communication lines open and smooth, but you withdraw the warmth (along with your hard dick).
And you have to do all of this with efficiency and sincerity. If you come off mad or sad, you "lose value".
But now you're training her. If she wants those good intimate/relationship type vibes, she has to put out. You don't dole your emotions out to mere friends, you're not a cuddle buddy. Of course all of this is non-verbal, and done through actions and body language.
All of this assumes that the chick you're dealing with is one that still has the capacity for this sort of sex.
You might get a super-jaded bitch back to your spot that has been fucked 6 ways to Sunday and your actions, your ritual, is not doing anything for her brain chemistry.
if that happens, open up the forum!
WIA