[spaceman]

Hey Fellas, sorry for not responding. I was trying to work through these issues on my own. So just an update, my grand plan is not going exactly perfect.
We have talked and I told her the things i needed to say about fixing the relationship. We had some really good conversations about our future and what we were looking for, and I think some of the things Ovid said regarding where she is at in her life are very true.

Frankly, she is unsure what she wants and I am starting to feel like she is stringing me on alittle bit but understanding she does not want to jump into the relationship again unless she is sure. She is saying things like "I dont know how I feel" but "I want to remain friends", blah blah. My feeling is she feels bad about the break up but who knows. I am unsure where to go from here, seeing her again and hanging out platonically is like a kick in the heart and I am doing stupid shit like looking at old pictures and reminiscing about the good times when I am alone.

On the other hand, I am trying to move on, I had a date last night with a cute chick. It didn't go perfectly but at least I am trying.

[amity]

hey, good to hear you're trying to move on
best to keep whatever contact you have with this girl to a minimum
at the moment, you still care too much
it might sound harsh, but you have to learn how to 'not care' so much about any one girl
that way, you'll never pedastalise a woman again or have to deal with the soul churning grief that one-itis can inflict upon a man
i was in a similar enough position a few years ago
i also went out with a german girl 8 years younger, she eventually dumped my beta ass mostly cos i was pedastilising her and caring too much
if i were you, i'd try to put this girl on the back burner, and get on with life without her and if there's possibilities to meet other women, go for it, but also give yourself some space too and if you feel like your head's not in the right place to meet other women right now, then that's fine too, don't force it, it'll come with time
main thing is not to have the ex on speed dial, she can only play (at the very most) a bit part in your life for the next several months, perhaps even years, and if you're still interested down the line a bit, try reconnecting, when you're a stronger person

[GenJx]

OOOH giiiirllll i'd be in trouble if you left me now
cause I don't know where to look for pussy
I just don't know how
OOOOHHH giiiiiirlllll

[Aliblahba]

Treat women like dogs. If they die or runaway, go get another one.

[Matt3B]

(02-10-2013 06:27 AM)spaceman Wrote:  

Hey Fellas, sorry for not responding. I was trying to work through these issues on my own. So just an update, my grand plan is not going exactly perfect.
We have talked and I told her the things i needed to say about fixing the relationship. We had some really good conversations about our future and what we were looking for, and I think some of the things Ovid said regarding where she is at in her life are very true.

Frankly, she is unsure what she wants and I am starting to feel like she is stringing me on alittle bit but understanding she does not want to jump into the relationship again unless she is sure. She is saying things like "I dont know how I feel" but "I want to remain friends", blah blah. My feeling is she feels bad about the break up but who knows. I am unsure where to go from here, seeing her again and hanging out platonically is like a kick in the heart and I am doing stupid shit like looking at old pictures and reminiscing about the good times when I am alone.

On the other hand, I am trying to move on, I had a date last night with a cute chick. It didn't go perfectly but at least I am trying.

I'm going to spell this out for you as bluntly as possible mate. Stop having these "feelings" about where she's at and what she's thinking because you're wrong. You're completely wrong.

I told you before that she wasn't waiting for you to get in touch and I was right, and she's given you shithouse excuses like "I don't know how I feel" and "I still want to be friends" because she's too much of a pussy to dump you full on and you're lapping it. Full on rejection is much better than stringing someone along and she is doing the latter but you're failing to realise it and trying to rationalise her behaviour.

Good that you got a date with another chick, keep doing the same. Stop contacting this other bird, there is nothing there with her any more.

[Sphere]

Don't reward bad behavior. Next.

[Aliblahba]

The best way to get over a woman is to climb on top of another one.

[spaceman]

funny to read this thread years later.
I have run into that ex a couple of times.. once with a new girl i had fucked..

I still have positive feelings for her but fuck that bitch. Best thing i did was eventually stop contacting her and move on. It took me awhile but was the right move.