[hamburgerandbeans]

I am 18, male. I am going to Thailand in 2 weeks. I will be there for 3 months. I am doing volunteer work there. Anyway, when I have finished I plan on travelling. I was thinking maybe spending a small amount of time travelling round Thailand and then after that, going to the Philippines. I told my parents I wanted to go to the Philippines and they were like 'I don't think that is a good idea. It is not safe enough for an 18 year old. Particularly because you don't know anyone there'. Would you agree with them? How can I convince them to let me go? They will let me go to Thailand but it is safer there and I am going with people I know. These people probably will not travel on to the Philippines afterwards (i am trying to encourage them to go with me) but if they do not go with me to the Phils, I would have to go by myself which my parents are not allowing. It sounds like paradise - hot women who are in love with westerners, it is cheap, nice beaches etc..


EDIT: I wouldn't even go to the bad parts. I would probably go to Cebu and Boracay. Then I may go on a day trip or weekend to Bohol and maybe the same with Palawan and Manila (although not too sure on the last 2 as Palawan is in the area where there is apparently terrorism threats and Manila has very poor parts and higher crime).

[j r]

Are they paying? If not, what are they holding over you that you care about? If they're paying for college or your rent or whatever else, then you might just have to suck it up and do what they tell you.

There comes a point in most people's relationships with their parents when they just have to say,"I respect your opinion, but it's my life and I'm going to do what I want to do." Sometimes that is a relatively painless moment and you move on to the next stage in the relationship, when your parents deal with you as an adult and not as a child. Sometimes it's not painless, but it needs to happen anyway. Instead of trying to convince your parents of anything, you should figuring out what's keeping you from taking that step and then move past it.

[Menace]

First of all, why do your parents need to know? Are they paying? Rule #1: tell your parents as little as possible. Second thing, just lie. Tell them they are right and you want to go to South Korea instead, then go to Philippines. You can even fake it by going to SK then flying to Philippines from there; there are plenty of direct flights from SK to Cebu.

[SnakeEyes]

(10-30-2012 05:10 PM)Menace Wrote:  

First of all, why do your parents need to know? Are they paying? Rule #1: tell your parents as little as possible. Second thing, just lie. Tell them they are right and you want to go to South Korea instead, then go to Philippines. You can even fake it by going to SK then flying to Philippines from there; there are plenty of direct flights from SK to Cebu.

Until they ask to see his passport

If they are financially supporting you then you are under their jurisdiction. You're not a man until you support yourself.

[Kdog]

(10-30-2012 07:09 PM)SnakeEyes Wrote:  

(10-30-2012 05:10 PM)Menace Wrote:  

First of all, why do your parents need to know? Are they paying? Rule #1: tell your parents as little as possible. Second thing, just lie. Tell them they are right and you want to go to South Korea instead, then go to Philippines. You can even fake it by going to SK then flying to Philippines from there; there are plenty of direct flights from SK to Cebu.

Until they ask to see his passport

If they are financially supporting you then you are under their jurisdiction. You're not a man until you support yourself.

When you're that far away you aren't under anybody's jurisdiction. He wasn't asking opinions on if he was a man or not.
Even if they see your passport who cares, what's done is done. You'll love the Phils so giver there if you want.

[Laner]

When I was 18 I went to Scotland for a friends family reunion. I told my parents I would be gone two weeks. My mom was a bit nervous, but could not tell me no. My dad kept silent but I could tell he had my back.

After the reunion I had my friends parents drop me off on the outskirts of Crief and I hitchhiked off on my own. It was almost the same with his parents. His mom was all worried and his dad said "Dammit, let the man go and do what men are supposed to do". That shut her up and they wished me good luck. My friend looked at me with fear.

I remember calling my parents from a pub in some highland town and telling them that I would be home when my money ran out. My mom was a bit pissed, but the worst was over really. I was already on my own, hitchhiking, and doing fine.

The trip changed my life. In the end I spent six months in Europe, with two months in Czech and Poland having sex with more girls than I could ever have thought possible. This was the turning point for me. My confidence in women surged, as did my ability to navigate foreign countries.

Returning to Canada eventually deflated my confidence in women. But nothing could ever change the way I felt after every unknown corner was turned, and knowing that I successfully challenged myself and came out on top.

If you want to go to the Philippines, go. The chances of something bad happening that you cant recover from are almost zero. Instead you will end up in difficult situations that challenge you but can be overcome with some quick thinking, street smarts and will leave you with the feeling of confidence. And if you like little brown girls that are incredibly easy and forgiving of bad (or learner) game you chose the right place.

I dont know, maybe even call your folks from the PI and tell them where you are and to not worry, you have it under control. And when they see you again they will notice the change and secretly (or openly) be proud of what they see.

[hamburgerandbeans]

(10-30-2012 04:55 PM)j r Wrote:  

Are they paying? If not, what are they holding over you that you care about? If they're paying for college or your rent or whatever else, then you might just have to suck it up and do what they tell you.

There comes a point in most people's relationships with their parents when they just have to say,"I respect your opinion, but it's my life and I'm going to do what I want to do." Sometimes that is a relatively painless moment and you move on to the next stage in the relationship, when your parents deal with you as an adult and not as a child. Sometimes it's not painless, but it needs to happen anyway. Instead of trying to convince your parents of anything, you should figuring out what's keeping you from taking that step and then move past it.

Well I am paying for it but if I get low on money (which I probably will eventually), they will help me out financially a bit. I will be away over Christmas too so their Christmas present to me will be a money boost.

I am not at College yet.... (going next year)

[WireySpindell]

Hey dude, I'll be in Thailand Nov 18- Dec 18, drop me a line if you want to go pimp.

[hamburgerandbeans]

(10-31-2012 11:04 AM)WireySpindell Wrote:  

Hey dude, I'll be in Thailand Nov 18- Dec 18, drop me a line if you want to go pimp.

I'm not really going to Thailand for that sort of trip but if I change my mind at some point, I will let you know

(10-30-2012 07:09 PM)SnakeEyes Wrote:  

(10-30-2012 05:10 PM)Menace Wrote:  

First of all, why do your parents need to know? Are they paying? Rule #1: tell your parents as little as possible. Second thing, just lie. Tell them they are right and you want to go to South Korea instead, then go to Philippines. You can even fake it by going to SK then flying to Philippines from there; there are plenty of direct flights from SK to Cebu.

Until they ask to see his passport

If they are financially supporting you then you are under their jurisdiction. You're not a man until you support yourself.

Yeah my parents would be able to tell if I faked going to a country and went to a different country (for so many reasons it is not even worth listing!)

[Lukecan]

Dude I'm in the exact same situation as you, my parents wont let me go to s.east asia alone. Instead I told them I'm going to the states and they were cool with it, what I'm gonnna do is buy a ticket for new york, and then pay like 50-100 euro fine to change it to somewhere in s.east asia

They're obviously gonna find out 1-2 days later, when they find out I'm gonna be like ohhh I'm sorry but I had to go

[oldnemesis]

(10-30-2012 04:43 PM)hamburgerandbeans Wrote:  

Then I may go on a day trip or weekend to Bohol and maybe the same with Palawan and Manila (although not too sure on the last 2 as Palawan is in the area where there is apparently terrorism threats and Manila has very poor parts and higher crime).

There are no terrorists on Palawan. But unless you're into nature, beaches and waterfalls, there's nothing to do there. Puerto Princesa is a village at best.

Terrorists are at Western Mindanao region, but mostly remote places. You shouldn't have any issues in Zamboagna, for example. And Mindanao is huge.