Quote: (10-04-2014 10:56 AM)The Wire Wrote:
I've ran into this issue a bunch of times. I'll setup a date via text asking a girl to meet me out at a bar for some drinks. I specified text message here because there is no misunderstanding when I have in writing "meet me for drinks". I bring this up because one girl actually got mad at me over the phone when she thought we were going out to dinner. I then told her "check the text message from last night where I asked you to come out for drinks".
I usually set these up drink dates up around 7:30pm - 8:00pm on weekdays. I would set them up later but i found I get cock blocked a lot because they have to wake up for work early so I had easier success bouncing them from the bar to my place at 9pm as opposed to 11pm.
The last date I was on a girl the pulled the same crap again. She wanted to order a giant appetizer "to share" so this time I actually refused. I told her I already ate a proper dinner but she was free to eat the appetizer by herself. Low and behold she didn't order any food, we got one more drink and then she invited me back to her apartment.
I'm kind of curious if other guys run into the food issue or am I playing this out wrong? Is this an American thing where women need to shovel food into their mouths past a normal dinnertime?
Good post. This happens to me occasionally as well.
I make a point to tell the bartender that we are here for drinks and won't be eating. This take care of bartenders presenting specials and delivering food menus.
You can select a venue that does not serve food. This will take some research on your end, especially if you want to set up tight logistics. This is tricky for me because I prefer higher end bar and lounges, places that serve food.
If she brings up that fact that she is hungry and hasn't eaten, hold your frame and say you just ate and that the plan was to meet for drinks. No further discussion. If she insists on ordering something tell her that she can but that you will not be eating as you already had dinner. This may discourage her from ordering something.
If she continues to order, you have to make a decision of course if you are going to pick up the tab. Take into consideration other factors. Since, I normally date 10 plus years younger, I pay as it would be incongruent as an older, more established man not to pay.